It says it there in plain view on the heading of the website, misuse of power. And I have to wonder, since when is a relationship about power? When and how did this type of relationship become an established and normal part of society? Why is it that people are constantly at a struggle to hold power over each other? Not just in relationships, but in general through government and through sports, competitions, through every aspect of our lives, why is power the most important most emphasized thing? The unfortunate side effect of power is abuse, of torture, of hurting another human being.

- G25, Afonin - Outline 9

This is an article on the Poor Magaizne website. Poor Magazine is an underground news site that reports news that is not covered. The article, "The Most Unrecognizable Form of Sexual Abuse" explains that sexual blackmail is a terrible thing, but it says that women are the one's who use it the most. It places the male as the victim, and the female as the culprit. I thought this was interesting because it reminds me of a psychology project I worked on about 'sexually aggressive' females existing, and how sexual blackmail was one of their tools to obtain sex. However, according to the dominance model and statistics, it basically says that females are usually the vicitms.

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 6

This articles defines power as the ability to impose one's will on others, even if those others as the ability to impose one's will on others, even if those others resist in some way.  This article provided another similar explanation of power that is analyzed from the sociologist perspective. This site illustrates power in a relational manner where one cannot meaningfully say that a particular social actor manner or one cannot meaningfully say that a particular social actor "has power" without also specifying the role of other parties in the social relationship.  Another similar finding that I found relative to “Gender and Discourse” was how the article explains how power almost always operates reciprocally, but usually not with equal reciprocity.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 2

Lucky Nickel is part the radical feminist movement, who wrote a journal pertaining to the how the male species has taken advantage of sex.  She mentions the current situation in which men are allowed free and easy access to sex without the drag of protocol, courtship and responsibility.  Women are just expected to take care of the children, chores, and wash their husband's underwear.  An issue of sex positive is also mentioned where a revolution must take place to allow men to do what ever they want and to not take it as anything bad, which Lucky badgers, as a stupid conclusion to help society with their already set negative attitudes toward women.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 6

Traditional gender norms were culturally and historically determined rather than derived from nature.  Dr. Judson and Mary investigated contradictory assessments of the typical American male and stated that although males were the weaker sex biologically, their struggles to conform to cultural ideas of superiority and dominance led to disastrous relationships.  Males are considered as the stronger gender due to the biological determinism of their endocrinological functioning.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 6

In this site, Annie Kaszina lists 7 things that may be acted upon a partner that you should take notice as mental abuse.  Most of her 7 issues generalize much of Leon James's Lecture notes based on mental abuse.  It begins from “Sticks and Stones won't break my heart,” where words are underestimated in terms of the emotional pain that results from them.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 7

This site pertains to breaking out of domestic, as well as mental abusive relationships.  This article is a personal story of a female's experience in her relationship where she had undergone abuse for fourteen years.  This story reflects how she had put up with the abuse to finally realize that this wasn’t how a marriage was supposed to be.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 7

This site explains the different types of abuse that exist.  Once you are able to identify what each abuse involves then a victim is better prepared to recognize such behaviors.  Then a victim may begin to take steps to stop it from happening or repeating again. 

- G25, Bulda - Outline 7

This site defines a taken hands relationship as a male-controlled sexually and socially exclusive monogamous relationship in which the man's power is real and for the purpose of creating a deeply connected, fully engaged relationship with a sexual connection.  A man's dominance role is assumed that it is for the benefit for the relationship rather than for self-serving.  The woman is then assumed to respond to her man's control.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 8

This internet sites provides information about psychologists who examine power relations and choice of marriage partners

- G25, Gora - Outline 8

I chose this article because it focused on communication in relationship. I think that if there is good communication in a relationship then the couple can work through any problems that they might come across.  Also when there is good communication in a relationship there will be no need to try and figure out who holds the power.

- G25, Malala - Outline 3

This article goes along with the reading perfectly. In the article there is a great example of a women being in control and she doesn't realize it.  They have a long distant relationship and when they talk on the phone she cuts him off and they fight over the littlest things and of course she always has to be right.

- G25, Malala - Outline 3

I chose this article because it gives a lot of good advice on things you can do to help better your relationship.  So pretty much it can help the husband realize that it's not okay to be stuck in the dominance model. I really liked the five C's; the 5 C's are commitment, communication, cooperation, collaboration and coordination. The advice in this article is helpful to people at all levels of marriage.

- G25, Malala - Outline 4

This article talks about how women now contribute economically to the well-being of their family to the same degree as their husbands. Does making more money give you more power? This article suggests that women’s earnings have increased their control over the money in the marital relationships and because of this, husbands take on greater shares of the domestic burdens. Although they may have a say in the financial aspect of the marriage, earning an income doesn’t guarantee that women can exercise power in the marriage. A husband usually out earns the wife which limits her power. This article seems to portray the phrase “money talks.” If you earn more in the relationship what you say goes. Is that for both men and women, or just for men? I know of instances where women exercise their power, regardless of the income. I guess it just depends on the individual.

- G25, Monteilh - Outline 3

This article talks about how men use marriage as a tool to control female sexuality and gain control over women. It’s not about vows and love, it’s basically about control. It talks about how a shift is happening when men used to think that women used marriage to control them. Now apparently the shoe is on the other foot

- G25, Ide - Outline 9

This is a psychological article that talks about how many different children learn to control social interactions. It suggests that young men who come from families where the parents are in the dominant model often behave dominantly in their relationships. It also talks about how sibling interactions also influence which children will be more dominant and which will be more submissive. Overall, this article was just looking at control in relationships.

- G25, Murray - Outline 8

This site offers a paper that was written by Robert A. Pollak. He focuses more on the financial aspect of marriage, in which he believes that wage rates determine well being and bargaining power in a marriage.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 1

This site takes a woman’s perspective of prenuptial agreements. The article focuses on the idea of taking using a rich man’s tool. It is centered around the new trend in marriage, in which women marry later and so go into a marriage with substantial income and therefore possess bargaining power.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 1

This site explores the idea of discrimination limiting the disadvantaged sex to undertaking household chores. Similar to the previous sites, it also mentions the notion of the amount of money a person earns establishes relative marital bargaining power.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 1

This website article discusses abusive relationships. It discusses what it is, how to recognize it in your partner, and what abuse really means. It also includes the idea of verbal abuse and not just physical abuse in a relationship.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 3

This link leads to article that further discusses the use of questions between men and women.  The article goes on to discuss the fundamental difference between men's and women's linguistic behavior and introduces the term of questions tags. 

- G24, Tabon - Outline 10

This first website is based on Deborah Tannen's, Genderlect and was written by Anne Larbes.  In Larbes's writing she explains the idea of power and solidarity.  I felt this site was useful because it was based on Tennen's idea, but the perspective is from another person.  

- G24, Lau - Outline 5

I chose this next website because it presents ideas from sociolinguists.  There are many useful links to explore this topic further.  This site also brings other cultures around the world so that we may further explore this ides of power and solidarity. 

- G24, Lau - Outline 5

I think this site will be really helpful in understanding what Dr. Laura is trying to say about a power struggle in a relationship. This site focuses completely on control in a relationship. It talks about the negative effects of having too much control and the consequences of the inability to stand up against this control.

- G24, Montague - Outline 4

The main sentence that struck out for me in this article was, “…marriages are not made in heaven; marriages are made by two committed people right here on earth.” I took this article as being very degrading towards marriages as a whole. It is true that no person is perfect, and a marriage does require work as a team with together, but that does not mean that ALL marriages are bad. The Unity Model is making me realize how much it would help society if people would really listened to it. This article makes it sound as if everyone is married here on earth, and then, that is it. There is no spiritual bond between two people to live for eternity as one united couple.

- G25, Fields - Outline 1

This website gives a brief overview of what power struggles within relationships are, examples of some power struggles, and why they occur. According to this site, most loving relationships end because of a misuse of power in a relationship. Some examples that were given on this site as to reason why there may be this imbalance of power are religion, children, time, sex, social life, finances…etc. There was one sentence that stood out for me saying how either men or women who only look to be with someone younger do this because it makes them feel as if they have a sense of control or power over the other person. I never really looked at relationships in that way before. Numerous men today only date younger women, and not just today, it has be going on for years and years. My boyfriend is five years older than me, and when I read this, it made me wonder, is that why he starting dating me? I know that would not be the only reason why, but it is a reasonable question. If one would take these power struggles, according to the Unity Model, these “struggles” would rarely, if ever, occur. I am sure they would at first when the wife is trying to teach her husband about the model, but once he understands it, and WANTS to follow it, power struggles should not even enter the mind of a man and woman in a marriage.

- G25, Fields - Outline 7

I like this site because it is new and done by BYU, so it is college students and professors alike doing research on couples who are becoming parents and still trying to uphold their marriage together. It was very interesting reading through the few sections that they already have up.

- G25, Georgeo - Outline 3

I chose this article because it is actually a chapter in a book that is written about a love that may not follow the traditional man plays dominant role but still has a successful happy marriage. It not only addresses the issues of why the submissive allow them to give in and why the dominant has to have the power.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 5