An interesting read about “spiritual marriages”. Just to see what the searched phrase would come up with, it’s quite different from what Swedenborg describes.

- G25, Afonin - Outline 1

I came across this website at the very bottom of the hit list, and was a little disturbed by its approach to nagging. It encourages prayer to eliminate nagging, this is a little odd. It’s funny to me that religions are so often placed into the male-dominance model as if it is what God intended. I have trouble believing that these ideas are correct or even rational on any level. Unfortunately, many men and women happen to be religious, and men can manipulate their wives with religion. How sad.

- G25, Afonin - Outline 5

Of all the websites that I have visited, I have to say that this is the most rational advice that has been given, minus just a few of their statements, indicating a “pray together” approach, the others seem to fit well into a lasting relationship.

- G25, Afonin - Outline 8

It says it there in plain view on the heading of the website, misuse of power. And I have to wonder, since when is a relationship about power? When and how did this type of relationship become an established and normal part of society? Why is it that people are constantly at a struggle to hold power over each other? Not just in relationships, but in general through government and through sports, competitions, through every aspect of our lives, why is power the most important most emphasized thing? The unfortunate side effect of power is abuse, of torture, of hurting another human being.

- G25, Afonin - Outline 9

It's an interesting passage of how one man's perspective and results of living with a "double standard" helps a relationship reach the Unity Stage of development. Unlike in Dr. Laura's book, she says it's selfish of a woman to not uphold to her wedding vows and not being able to understand her husbands feelings or situations from everyday stresses. She tells a lot of her listeners to put themselves in their husband's shoes, but the men should not need to put themselves in their wive's shoes. However, putting themselves in each other's shoes is what has helped this couple bring their marriage to a whole new level.

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 1

This is a religious Christian site that speaks of "man's" basic needs. It seems to mention between the lines of what a husband needs from a wife in order to help him to "change." Also, the site states scriptures that give the idea of how "God calls wives to respect their husbands" (Ephesians 5:33). It's interesting because even though this site has the connotation of Dr. Laura's concept of fulfilling man's simple needs and receiving "happiness" in return, it still states in the end that it's "sacrifical" for both parties.

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 1

This is like a Christian Self-Help site on relationships. It explains why a woman was created for man and how they are both so different. Most of the units has to do with the wife being able to submit to her husband for God, because she is Christian. They treat it like a hierarchical tree of power, with the woman at the bottom. One of the most interesting units is Unit 8, because it speaks about a woman's "rebellion" as the source of discourse in a relationship. And even though there's a hint that things should be equity-like, it lays everything at the woman's foot. Basically, she needs to stop rebelling and bickering.

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 3

This site is a Christian self-help website that has a section dedicated to a woman and her relationship. This article in the Marriage section of the "Today's Christian Woman" part of the website, talks about how micromanaging is unhealthy on a relationship. Like Dr. Laura, this article says that it is the female who needs to "look at herself in the mirror" to find the source of her problem. This article emphasizes that true fulfillment is "loving your husband for whom God made him to be rather than trying to make him play the role you want him to play." That is sort of like Dr. Laura's underlying message to how men are "very simple creatures." I found this article to be quit interesting because it was like reading a mini version of Dr. Laura's book.

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 7

I've come across a few sites where people are asking if "marriage is eternal." I thought it was interesting, not of the people asking the question but how similar all the religious-based websites were the same in their response: it is if you believe it to be. It doesn't say that eternal love is something that is obtained through the marriage that a couple works for. It says basically that eternal marriage is like wanting to buy candy. If you feel like going to the market to get the candy you want, then you'll have it. Another thing that I found interesting is how both sites discussed the issue of remarriage. The Christianity Today site says that nothing would happen based on the story of the Sadducees. However a Morman site (Is marriage eternal? - ChrisitianAnswers.net) adds that the bible also includes until death do us part due to Romans 7:2 when Paul says, "...but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband."

- G25, Akiyama - Outline 8

Being that this site is Christian-based, it is apparent that it contains a spiritual component throughout this particular article. Then again spirituality is definitely an important component in the unity marriage. Throughout this article it breaks down the three levels of the unity model in a similar way. More importantly, in relevance to this particular outline, the article brings out topics in which a couple can do at times of disagreements or when anger arises. The particular section at which this outline is written on, consists of comparisons or problems at the three levels, whereas this site provides some solutions to certain marital problems.

- G25, Biacan - Outline 2

Margaret Ruhe explains how society is currently egocentric, self-gratified, and selfish.  This has prevented good relationships of any kind where people want to find closeness and warmth.  Some of the forgotten characteristics of a successful relationship are the art of sharing, communicating and cooperating, of adjustments.  Lasting relationships are no longer common since patience and forbearance has been lost.  She emphasizes how a good marriage is an intimate and loving relationship which gives both partners, security, friendship, companionship, support, comfort, and deep love that penetrates every aspect of life. None of this can be achieved without work and sacrifice.

- G25, Bulda - Outline 3

Here is a neat site that I found relevant to our class studying the Unity Model of Marriage.  This site compares a male dominance gender roles, versus complementarian gender roles.  This site is actually a site from a religious perspective on how the traditional dominant roles that men play will never prosper in a relationship since they are selfish and that he must realize that he must do for the sake of the family instead of himself. 

- G25, Bulda - Outline 4

Gods Word to Women- this article attempts to compare marriage from different view points such as using scriptures from the Bible. It also states reasons and graphs promoting the egalitarian relationships in marriages.

- G25, Gora - Outline 6

This is a site talking about divorce and that having an egalitarian marriage can be a helpful source for making a marriage last. It incorporates the Christian perspective, gives a traditional marriage vs. egalitarian approach and why equality in marriage is essential.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 3

In this weblink, it shows a correlation between the type of religion someone is and the divorce rates. It states that the highest divorce rates among religions are Jewish (30%) and born-again Christians (27%). This weblink also emphasizes that it is a necessity for equality between spouses for a marriage to function and that the church encourages egalitarian relationships. It also compares and contrasts egalitarian vs. traditional marriages and displays a percentage of happiness between egalitarian and traditional couples.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 6

I found this page to be interesting because it gave insight on the LDS and their perspective on eternal marriage. The Mormons believe that we are able to enjoy eternal marriage if we live righteously here on earth. Not only can a husband and wife be together for time and all eternity (in the afterlife) so can siblings. An entire family can be sealed together for time and all eternity if they live according to the laws of the land and follow the teachings of their gospel. I thought it related to the Unity Model of Marriage that we’re studying because both believe in eternal marriage and there are certain steps that one’s needs to attain in order to achieve and enjoy such a marriage. I too believe that eternal marriage is something that a couple and family can enjoy in the afterlife.

- G25, Monteilh - Outline 2

This article in contrary to what the unity model of marriage explains to us. The article talks about how women should “submit herself graciously to her husband” as a means for keeping a solid marriage. "A husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. He has the God-given responsibility to provide for, to protect, and to lead his family. a wife is to submit herself graciously to the servant leadership of her husband even as the church willingly submits to the headship of Christ." source: Baptist2Baptist. If a wife agreed to this, she’d be stuck in the dominance model, which society has come to accept, allowing men to dominate women. In order for her to attain affective conjunction, the husband must give up his independent self for the conjoint self. I personally wouldn’t be able to live like that because being submissive isn’t a way of life for me and just doesn’t seem logical.

- G25, Monteilh - Outline 3

This article is about marriage and striving to be united as one with your spouse. During ceremonies where people light and hold candles, the blowing out of the candle by both the bride and groom signifies the leaving behind of the independent selves. No longer is it “me” and “I” it is now “we” and “us.” When a couple first enters the church for their ceremony, they enter as two different individuals who have their own personality, skills and opinions. By the end of the ceremony, they begin their new life as a whole. In order for the couple to be complete they need each other. The author uses blue and yellow candles as his example. When the two colors blend together, it forms green. One spouse has a blue and the other yellow. They blow the candles out and now hold a green candle signifying the blending of the bride and groom. This article gave insight to how other people view the unity of a couple. I think it’s great that there are others out there who believe that being united is healthy for a marriage.

- G25, Monteilh - Outline 3

I found this article somewhat interesting. It talks about the roles of marriage along a biblical sense; it talks about how men should be the spiritual “Head” of the marriage between him and his wife. When it comes to the women, it talks about how women must adopt the role of submissive leadership.

- G25, Ide - Outline 8

I thought that this website was a very nice one with good information. Why is it so hard to say thank you to our significant others once in a while? I like the word they used “niceties” to refer to actions our significant others do for us that may make our day a little more special. So, I tried this and just saying thank you for little things make the other person a little happier too, or felt a little more appreciated.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 7

Dr. Laura consistently speaks about how women and men have certain obligations in marriage. This link has a list of the obligations which most Christians would agree are the obligations that wives have to husbands and husbands have to wives. It starts with verses in the Bible which explain that a man should love his wife as himself and put God at the head of his household. Then a woman is to be submissive to the man. As long as the man is following God’s plan, the wife should not have a problem submitting. Where problems often do show up is when a very talented woman marries a not so talented man. The woman wants to dominate, but is not reasonable in doing so if he is following God’s plan.

- G25, Murray - Outline 1

This website examines Conflict Resolution from a Biblical Perspective. It looks at specific Bible verses that are written about how to solve conflicts and it also gives 3 main suggestions for dealing with conflict effectively. The ÒThree TsÓ of conflict resolution according to this author are Timing, Trust and Transparency. Timing involves knowing when the best time is for discussing an argument. It is always best to come together when both parties are calm and ready to deal with the conflict effectively. Trust will affect how open partners are with each other. ItÕs important to have trust that the other partner generally cares about you. Transparency involves being completely open about any feelings of hurt, resentment, or frustration. With these three strategies, the author begins looking at possible ways to manage conflict.

- G25, Murray - Outline 3

Don and Sally Meredith give five conflict management tools that will help married couples resolve conflict Biblically. They start by having each person decide whether they deal with conflict directly or whether they wait and let the problem sit before dealing with the conflict. The five strategies involve coming to each other with kindness and concern, establishing mutual vulnerability and transparency, becoming effective listeners, speaking the truth in love, and being willing to forgive. The authors specifically point out that a willingness to forgive is the biggest factor in successful conflict management. However, all are important in order to be able to continue lovingly in marriage.

- G25, Murray - Outline 3

This author looks at Egalitarian Marriages and seeks to find the difficulties within these marriages. He suggests conflict areas that result from co-parenting, decision-making, careers, control, intimacy, money and household tasks. The author also suggests that they have trouble even finding marriages that are successfully in the Egalitarian Model. Many of these marriages are most likely transitional marriages moving towards Egalitarian marriages rather than completely Egalitarian. Then the author goes on to say that Christian marriages have many of the same ideals that are found in Egalitarian models. Some examples include equal parenting. In the Bible, fathers have an important role in guiding their children into adulthood. It is in no way completely contingent on the woman. Also, in the Bible the marriage bed is a place for mutuality. Husbands should satisfy the wife and wives should satisfy the husband. It seems to me that not all Christian marriages fall under the dominance role.

- G25, Murray - Outline 3

This website explains that many people are searching for intimacy but they are only searching on the physical level. True intimacy involves five different parts: mental, physical, emotional, social, and spiritual. The easiest one to get is the physical. So many relationships are suffering because they believe they can be fulfilled by this physical (sensorimotor) intimacy. They are wrong and they are suffering in their relationships for it. This article offers couples a chance to understand how to get that intimacy that they truly crave. It explains that we need more than emotions. We need a life partner.

- G25, Murray - Outline 10

Eternal Marriage is something that the Mormons also believe in. They say that as long as you are married in the temple and it is sealed by the Holy Ghost, your marriage is eternal. This article also gives examples from the bible on why marriages are eternal.

- G25, Imose - Outline 1

This site is from a Christian viewpoint however, they believe the principles are universal. This site correlates with Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s book because the needs of a man are much like the needs she describes. This includes his need for her attractiveness, his need for home support, his needs for admiration and respect, etc. All of these needs came from the bible scriptures. Although Dr. Laura Schlessinger does not talk about woman’s needs, this site does. Some of a woman’s needs include intimate conversation, romance, home support, etc. I picked this site because I thought it was very interesting and relates to what we are learning in “The Proper care and feeding of husbands.”

- G25, Kim - Outline 1

The marriage message that this site was trying to convey was the idea of respect. I found it funny, however, that they were directing this to women. Women need to respect their men even if they are “selfish and wounded.” It says nothing about respect for the woman. What it did say was that “God requires our wives to show respect to us He also requires the husbands to show love to their wives.” What about respect for the woman? I thought this relates to this particular outline because Dr. Laura does not mention respect for the wife as well.

- G25, Kim - Outline 10

The author of this site writes his views from a Christian perspective. He talks about the importance of men respecting women through manners, politeness, and attentive listening. The author also discusses the fact that men often disrespect women by interrupting them in conversation. They refuse to listen and understand, asserting that women are weak because they express their emotions emotionally. He asserts that this perspective is wrong and degrading. On the contrary, he says that the fact that women often express their emotions when men can’t is a quality that should be admired. I chose this site because it coincides with the ideas in this section concerning rules of conjugial conversation for men. The first rule directly makes note of the fact the men should be polite at all times. This site also upholds the importance of politeness. A quote from the site state, “Politeness costs nothing, and gains everything.” I enjoyed reading the perspective of this site because it gave some good insights that coincided with the unity model of marriage concerning positive communication.

- G25, Moa - Outline 7

This site, written by Gregor Smith describes an alternative view to that of the strict fundamentalist Christian perspective that elevates a man as the head of the household and the dominant figure. He, in no way relinquishes his religious beliefs, however, he clarifies the idea that a man should have sole power in a relationship. Instead he provides us with another view that asserts that a man is put here to serve his wife, love her, and take care of her, not control her. He calls his alternate perspective “Complementarianism.” This perspective asserts that God gives man the title “head of the household,” in order that he may humble himself and serve, not expect to be served. I chose this site because I found it related to the spiritual dynamic between a husband and wife that Dr. James discusses in this section. I thought it would be interesting to bring in a religious perspective to see how it compares to the unity model. In this alternative theory, it seems that Smith is saying that the husband shows the most “power” in a relationship by making the choice to humble himself to his wife. This idea is somewhat similar to that of Dr. James.

- G25, Moa - Outline 6

This is a site that gives a Christian perspective on separation. It gives various different examples of Bible scripture that discuss the meaning of marriage and commitment. It also discusses the idea of eternal togetherness by saying that, “when a couple enters into the covenant of marriage, the Bible tells us that God joins them together in one flesh.” In a way, this particular statement is promoting Dr. James concept of unity and conjoinment. According to the unity model, two partners should never be separate but should attempt to become one, aligning in every action, reaction, thought, and motivation. I chose this site because I felt it added a good variety to my choice of sources. I thought that it was a good example of a source which promotes the concepts I learned in this section. It aligns with the unity model’s idea on intolerance of disagreements or differences.

- G25, Moa - Outline 10

I chose this site because it gives a religious aspect to why men should appreciate their wives and all that they do for them. I thought it would be interesting to be able to read up on the different scriptures from the bible on how important women are. Maybe if more men could read this, they would see the importance and be able to appreciate all that their wives do for them.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 6

In this weblink, the person who developed this website connects family life and marital life and interconnects it to religion, more specifically the Old Testament. This website consists of five parts, each specifically for each role in the family – fathers, husbands, mothers, wives and children. For the husband, basically it is telling men to love their wives. "Women are gifts to be cherished"--this website intertwines this statement from references based on the Old Testament

- G24, Antonio - Outline 9

In this weblink, it is another website that connects marital relationships to the concept a particular religion. An article by Dennis Rainey poses the age old question to many married couples out there: What Should Be the Husband's Role in Marriage? Rainey poses three biblical responsibilities and duties a man must follow – Responsibility #1) be a leader, Responsibility #2) love your wife unconditionally and Responsibility #3) Serve your wife.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 9

In this weblink, Marriage Notebook: Making the Right Choices For a Great Marriage, it discusses how a marriage can work and function through—CHOICE, thus choosing is the important factor. Being motivated to love your husband/wife, choosing to communicate or start arguing, be willing to understand your spouse rather than write them off—determines how functional your marriage is going to be.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 4

In this weblink, the consent of parents to marriage comes from the Writings of Bahá'u'lláh (I’m not too sure what ethnicity which it comes from) which states: “Marriage is conditioned on the consent of both parties and their parents, whether the woman be a maiden or not.” Also, From letters written on behalf of Shoghi Effendi it states that “About the consent of parents for marriage: this is required before and also after the man or woman is twenty-one years of age. It is also required in the event of a second marriage, after the dissolution of the first whether through death or through divorce.” ”The parental consent is also a binding obligation irrespective of whether the parents are Bahá'ís or not, whether they are friendly or opposed to the Cause. In the event of the death of both parents, the consent of a guardian is not required.” Parental consent is universal in almost every culture. People acknowledge a parent's wisdom, knowledge and experience that they could provide their child for the child’s future.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 5

This link offers information in regards to the importance in choosing a partner. It is important to remember that marriage is not just for today or tomorrow but for life. The information provided reminds us that it is our choice to choose a partner, but if we remember to always make God a part of our decisions then we will be pleasantly surprised where he leads us our faith, in our choice of a mate, and in all of our relationships.

- G24, Adams - Outline 6

This website discusses the aspects of a Christian marriage. It contains various articles that deal with the principles that are associated with a Christian marriage. This site discusses marriage that continues for all eternity and also addresses marriages that may be going through difficulties.

- G24, Ako - Outline 4

This is another website that deals with marriage from a Christian perspective. This site contains letters that have been written to pastors and the pastors’ responses to those letters. It is also emphasized in here that marriage is a lasting bond and that divorced is strongly discouraged.

- G24, Ako - Outline 4

This website takes a look at the development and different aspects of marriage by citing specific passages from the bible. Topics discussed include the divine origins, patterns, and purposes of marriage.

- G24, Ako - Outline 4

This is a website that discusses various topics through a religious perspective. One topic that is discussed is marriage and divorce. There is one particular section that talks about choosing an appropriate marriage partner. There is another section that talks about the different types of intimacy that a wife needs. Knowing these intimacies will allow a husband to be aware of the needs of his wife and will also allow the husband to conform to the feelings of his wife.

- G24, Ako - Outline 3

This website talks about selecting a proper marriage partner based on a Christian view. This site puts heavy emphasis on having faith in God to show you the appropriate choices to make in regards to a marriage partner.

- G24, Ako - Outline 3

This website showcases an article about “his” marriage. It explains why men need marriage in their lives and how they can benefit from marriage. One of its points is that marriage infringes on a man’s freedom, but it turns it around to say that it restrains men from slavery to other impulses. It takes a very religious view to marriage and I thought it would be interesting to have another viewpoint on marriage.

- G24, Buchner - Outline 4

This is a major website for Scientologybelievers. I, for one, am not one, but I found it extremely interesting to explore their views and beliefs on topics such as marriage and communication. The religion of Scientology is extremely popular in today’s society due to the highly publicized, happy relationship of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes. Due to this course on the Unity Model of Marriage by Dr. Leon James, it led me to wonder what contributions Scientology may have made to their relationship.

- G24, Buchner - Outline 1

This link explains insight on what a man’s view of sex is. Another thing it talks about a woman’s appearance and how a wife’s appearance is the only one the husband is really interested in. It also gives many ways for wives to turn her husband on and satisfy his sexual drive.

- G24, Wong - Outline 8

This link talks about God being the head of the home and marriage. It also talks about the role of the wife as a mother and the relationship between the husband and wife responsibility to each other in the family. The couple needs to also look to God for guidance.

- G24, Wong - Outline 4

This link gives steps in building a strong marriage in 10 steps. It fulfills the unity model of marriage from a religious side. It also talks about the man’s role as a husband and woman’s role as a wife according the to the Bible.

- G24, Wong - Outline 4

This link talks mainly to woman as a wife and what she should do. It talks about being mutually submissive to each other. There are scriptures to support the arguments John MacArthur Jr. brings up.

- G24, Wong - Outline 4

This link is about Q and A from a Catholic point of view of the relationship between a man and a woman. They use biblical scriptures to support their reasons, which are interesting. They also compare the relationship of a husband and wife to God and his church.

- G24, Wong - Outline 2

This link explains false views of a marriage and explains the relationship between a husband and wife from a Christian point of view. It also talks about divorce and how the couple should treat each other. There are many aspects of marriage brought up too.

- G24, Wong - Outline 2

This link leads to an article called “Called to encourage your husband”. It discusses the importance of understanding what the word “encourage” means and how you must not confuse it with the word “please”. The article emphasizes the point of encouraging your husband rather than allowing dependency.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 6

This website discusses what they believe to be the seven secrets to a successful marriage. Some of the concepts that are discussed include: realistic expectations, commitment, and responsibility.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 6

This website directs you to an article that suggests ways for wives to please their husbands and keep their marriage interesting, implying that the success of a marriage is the responsibility of the wife.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 2

This site discusses the idea of marital intimacy on an emotional, mental/social, spiritual, and physical level. It also includes what marital intimacy is and how we can experience it.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 3

This article definitely reflects some unity values. It describes how society often defines marital intimacy as sexual, where in reality there are many different aspects to healthy intimacy. “Marital Intimacy is achieved in all of its completeness as each spouse learns to share and connect with the other in four areas: emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical”.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 4

This website includes an article that discusses the makings of a Christian marriage.  It goes over the definition of a Christian marriage, biblical expectations of marriage, biblical priorities and marriage, biblical assumptions and marriage, etc.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 8

This article teaches us the biblical principles of Christian maturity in regards to relationships.  A section is entitled “A weekend of reflection upon a life of relationship” which discusses the importance of a husband and wife spending quality time together.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 8

This article discusses the topic of ethical decisions about moral conduct based on Christian beliefs.  It further discusses the origins of ethics and the three different categories of Christian ethics.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 8

The final website I chose is an extremely good example of the Dominance Model in the Unity Model of Marriage.  Men write to this marriage counseling site complaining that their wives will not submit to their leadership.  Dr. David Stephens, the man who answers the complaints, resembles a male Dr. Schlessinger.  There are also links to other examples of the Dominance Model. 

- G24, Lau - Outline 1

I chose this site because it covers a wide variety of topics in marriage including lasting marriages.  I thought it would be a good idea to include this site because it offers a slightly different perspective from what we have been learning.  For example, it lists many different types of marriage that we have not really discussed.

- G24, Montague - Outline 9

This website asserts that often times the problems individuals encounter are caused because they don’t know what true intimacy looks like and how to find it. This may lead to incidents involving drugs, adultery, sexual abuse, pornography, etc. This article describes how the search for intimacy isn’t easy, but is worthwhile.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 4

This website describes three different types of love, the highest being the love of God. This article includes the idea that “Christians should on marry other Christians”. This agrees with Reverend Geoffrey Howard’s concept that internal similitude can only occur with partners who have similar religious beliefs.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 3

This web link leads to a page that talks about the philosophy of love. It discusses ideas on the nature of love, including romantic, physical, emotional and spiritual. I like this link because it put physical love into perspective with other types.

- G24, Stipek - Outline 9

This website provided a section from the book, “The Little Blue Book Series of Secrets to a Healthy Marriage” by Rev. Dr. Trey Kuhne.  In this particular article he emphasizes praising in public and private between the spouses.  He says that words can do a lot of damage and equally words can bring inner healing and health.  Everyone would love to be praised and will make the environment around you more enjoyable.  He also emphasizes that if you praise your spouse in public it draws attention to your spouses strengths and weaknesses.  This Rev. has lots of words of wisdom.

- G24, Saito - Outline 9

This is a website that focuses on the religious aspect of a marriage.  It emphasizes the power of praise in a marriage.  It states the obvious that praising and affirming our spouse is more effective than criticizing or complaining.  One interesting point it makes is that we seem to fall into the weakness of criticizing more easily than encouraging each other.  We have to condition and train ourselves to think and act differently.  This website coaches couples on how to begin to praise one another and how to bring their marriages to unity.

- G24, Saito - Outline 9

On the opposite side of things, I wanted to see what people had to say about husbands praising their wives.  This is all about the unity model and puts the husband in a position to honor his wife.  A good quote from this website is, “A good, godly wife is extremely valuable and she generates trust in her husband’s heart by her dedication, hard work, fear of the Lord, and commitment to her husband and her family.  In return, she is worthy of praise and honor both now and when she comes to the judgment.”  Once again, it shows how respecting and praising your wife will not only bring happiness to your household but to your marriage as well.

- G24, Saito - Outline 9

I thought that this website was interesting because of the fact that it was a website that spoke of the Christian religion and the New Testament however, didn’t follow the ways of the unity model.  You would think that such a religion that believes in the afterlife and endless eternity would have similar views towards marriage unity.  This however, is a website that focuses on how there can be only one leader in a social unit as small as the family, and if a leadership role is admitted at all, it has to be clear whose it is, and that is the husband.  It goes on about how god appointed and authority role in the family and that was the man.

- G24, Saito - Outline 7

This website provides information on how a wife can solve the problems in her marriage.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 9

This is a link to a website called Crosswalk.com.  It is a Christian website and there is an article entitled, “Husbands, Win Your Wives' Hearts” and again I thought that the advice not only applies to men but women as well.  There are simple statements that are discussed in more detail, like;  Don’t trample on her feelings, Pursue strong character,  Choose to be a servant – not just act like one sometimes, and Realize that your time is not your own.  I feel that all of these statements were also expressed in a similar fashion in Dr. Laura’s book.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 2

This is a link to the website for Psychology Today.  The article on the site is by Polly Shulman and it discusses the topic of the quest for finding a marriage partner.  More specifically the article discusses, the question of whether or not the quest to find the perfect soul mate has done more harm than good?  Psychologists provide opinion on how the search for ideal love can keep someone from enjoying a marriage or a healthy relationship that they may already be in.  I thought this was interesting in that it was about the same topic as the religious websites, true love, but takes an obviously different approach to the topic of finding a soul mate.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 3

This is a link to the website for Christianity Today.com which is basically an online Christian magazine.  There is an article in the website written by David and Claudia Arp entitled, Partners or Parents? How to make sure the rigors of child-rearing pull you together rather than push you apart which I thought fell directly in line with this portion of Dr. Coleman’s book where he discusses the effects of having children has on the marriage.  I think this is a great read for anyone who is married and is thinking of having or already have children and enhances and affirms the beliefs of Dr. Coleman.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 4

This link takes you to the study entitled, THE MARRIAGE COVENANT: A BIBLICAL STUDY ON MARRIAGE, DIVORCE, AND REMARRIAGE, Chapter 1, THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE by Samuele Bacchiocchi, Ph. D.  There is a part that discusses what a husband and wife must do to form a healthy marriage and that is “leaving.”  Leaving our parents, our friends, our hobbies – not cut out or cut ties but more cut back to focus on the marriage.  And there is a part that states, “Perhaps the most difficult things to leave behind are the inner wounds and hurts of our childhoods. We come to our marriages with the good and bad emotional experiences of the first two decades of our lives. Through the healing power of the Holy Spirit, we can be delivered from the past wounds that can infect our marital relationships.”  I think this also supplements the thoughts of Joshua Coleman quite well.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 5

This link takes you to a website called Meaningful Life Center which actually has an article called, Women & Men - Different but Equal? It is an excerpt from “Toward a Meaningful Life – The Wisdom of the Rebbe” by Rabbi Simon Jacobson.  A brief description in the article sums up the feeling of the article very well, “Men and women must realize their respective equal roles and strive to complement each other in their shared struggle to improve life. In order to correct the abuse of male dominance, men must concentrate on using their dominant qualities for the good. They must use their strength to protect and preserve the feminine character, helping women realize their true potential in revealing Godliness, which the world so desperately needs today.”

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This links you to a website called, Christians for Biblical Equality which self-admittedly states they lay out the biblical rationale for equality as well as its application in the community of believers and the family.  It also discusses some of the Biblical Truths found within the Bible that discuss the topic of the woman’s status as equal to man.  One of these truths mentioned is, “The Bible teaches that both man and woman were created in God's image, had a direct relationship with God, and shared jointly the responsibilities of bearing and rearing children and having dominion over the created order,” and “The Bible teaches that the rulership of Adam over Eve resulted from the Fall and was therefore not a part of the original created order. Genesis 3:16 is a prediction of the effects of the Fall rather than a prescription of God's ideal order.”

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This links you to a website called Religious Tolerance.org, and more specifically to a discussion/article called The Status of Women in the Hebrew Scriptures (Old Testament): Passages treating women as inferior to men.  It mentions some of the same passages as the above link however; it interprets some of the passages as being negative towards women not as though they were equal to men.  The passage that seems to have two views is, “Realizing that he (Adam) needed a helper (Genesis 2:18), God marched all of the animals past Adam (Genesis 2:19-20) looking for a suitable animal. Finding none suitable, God created Eve out of one of Adam's ribs.” The term "helper" has historically been interpreted as implying an inferior role for Eve, although some modern interpreters believe that the word can mean a companion of equal status.

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This article focuses on unity within a marriage, and the only way it is achieved is through God. It made statements such as when a man and woman marry each other they are combining their psychological minds together as well as their bodies. The two people together are creating another piece of God’s creation. In this a correct marriage is defined as being spiritual. This is a very good example of the Unity Model of marriage because it focuses on a marriage through the spiritual mind that will last through all eternity. This is all created because of God.

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This article discusses why dominance is destructive in a marriage and gives point of views about dominance through the Unity Model. According to the bible, dominance is against God’s design. With that said right there, that should be enough for any woman involved in a dominant relationship to get out of it, or the man should just, plain and simple, listen to the Word of God. This article refers to dominance as being a selfish, independent spirit and being the OPPOSITE of Jesus Christ. I never related dominance and Jesus together, but that statement was very powerful. Anything opposite to Jesus Christ should not be occuring. I think that if more men, who enjoy that dominance role, heard dominance being named the opposite of Jesus would try to get out of that model immediately. No one on earth, who believes in Jesus Christ, wants to be labeled something completely different from him. Aren’t Christians trying to follow Him and be like Him? Many minor details have been popping out at me while I have been reading these articles. I think if many other people who had concern for marriage or relationships read articles similar to these, it would truly help within marriages, especially for the men in relationships.

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This article basically says that a man does not have the power to say whether two people are married or not. Technically they do in society today by a certificate stating the couple is married, but a paper does not mean a couple is truly married. In God’s eyes, a true marriage is when the couple forms a union to become one. A certificate or marriage license can say all it wants, but that piece of paper does not officially determine a true marriage between a man and woman. I found this website interesting because I never really thought of marriage from this perspective before, but it is very true. Anyone in the world could say they are “married” because of a sheet of paper, but actually hate one another, which is not a marriage. Since I have began learning about the Unity Model of Marriage in this course, I have been telling my serious boyfriend about this model. I don’t know if it is even possible to reach the affect self before married, but I think it would be a very good idea for couples to try before they get married. If a couple has a lot of difficulty with it before married, it is just going to become more of a struggle later down the road. So, right now I am really trying to show my boyfriend for us this Unity Model.

- G25, Fields - Outline 4

This article gives a brief description on a couple’s story of when they got married. I just wanted to compare the beginning of the story and show how it follows the Dominance Model and how the second part follows the Unity Model. From the very beginning, the poor wife told her husband she did not want to get married yet because she was too young. He said he was in love with her and was ready, so she gave in and got married. If he truly loved her, according to the Unity Model, he would’ve waited until SHE wanted to get married. They had a bad start to their marriage, as it began with an accident, but right before they changed their lives around, they never communicated on the same level, and she was ready to commit suicide because she was so unhappy. Communication should never be a problem within the Unity Model because when both of them reach the cognitive and affective level of unity, they should be able to think as one and know how the other feels. Thankfully, both of them turned to Jesus Christ, and began living their marriage through the Unity Model. I find it very interesting how so many people are unhappy in their relationships, and still let themselves to continue, when they can be so happy in a second if they would just follow the Unity Model.

- G25, Fields - Outline 4

I found a very interesting and helpful Christian website that is divided into sections pertaining to relationships in marriage, before marriage, after a family has arrived and so on. The one section that I want to talk about is a couple living without marriage, which is also one of the AUV’s discussed later in the readings. A female quoted in this section, “Marriage should be done away with. I already know people who are living quietly together without marriage, but I haven’t yet seen the effect of this on children as they grow up in such a society.” This just shows how accepted this anti-unity value is in today’s culture. I usually never see women making comments such as these. I just found it very interesting to see this written from a woman’s perspective. I also want to heavily disagree with it not effecting children as they grow up. It certainly will, because in my opinion, they will be brought up thinking that it is okay to have numerous relationships, living with them, and then repeating the same cycle as their parents…living with their significant other without marriage. Besides not following the Unity Model by doing this, it also is just NOT the way it should be. Couples are supposed to get married before they have children, let alone live together. I just absolutely hate seeing how people cannot agree with this and finding it not a problem to want to break away from marriage all together. I just do not understand it.

- G25, Fields - Outline 4

I chose this website because I thought it would be interesting to focus on what a wife should do in a marriage as well as the husband since usually in class our main focus is towards the man. This website gives ten commandments for both the husband and the wife. Within the lists, each of them had one commandment that stood out for me. For the men’s it was, “Thou shalt hold thy wife’s love by the same means that thou won it.” That one caught my attention right away because I just previously read in the lecture notes how a man will treat a woman wonderfully when they first begin dating, to show the girl what a nice guy he is, and then once they are married or together for awhile, most men do not continue treating their woman that way. The one that stood out to me for the women’s was, “Thou shalt not nag… hit him with thine frying pan, it is kindlier.” I actually thought that was quite amusing, but it is true. If women do “nag” and let the man get away with something they do not like, men will continue to do the same thing over and over again, and will never change. Women need to let them know it bothers them immediately after they did something they don’t like. And if that means they need to hit them with a frying pan to get their attention, then that is what they need to do in order to get their man to listen.

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This article discusses the emotional, physical, and sexual differences between a man and a woman. I would like to focus on the following statements from this website, “Do you realize that your wife's natural ability for developing relationships can help you fulfill the two greatest commandments taught by Christ—loving God and loving others (Matt 22:36-40)? Jesus said that if we obey these two commandments, we are fulfilling all the commandments. Think of it! Your wife has the God-given drive and ability to help you build meaningful relationships in both these areas.” This is directly geared to focus towards the Unity Model of marriage. I never really thought of a man listening to his wife as a way to fulfill ALL commandments, but now that I think of it, it is clearly true that this would occur. I think it is so intriguing how God created men and women in this way. And the funny thing about life today, is that almost everyone thinks it is the other way around. MEN are the ones who guide women… because of the dominance role men have in society today.

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At the beginning of this article, the author explains how there should never be ANY justification for any type of violence or physical abuse within a family. This could be an example of the NO, NO, NO pattern. Although, this is only from one source, I am pretty sure a majority of all people out there feel the same way. There is also a list of reasons towards the end of the article explaining why women stay in a marriage with a husband who is abusive. Two from the list really stuck out to me, which were “She believes if she can work harder to please him, he will treat her better,” and “He isn’t always brutal… he can be very loving when he’s not abusive.” I feel very bad for these women in these situations because women who are getting treated this way should NEVER feel or WANT to please their husband. And the false idea of believing they will treat them better is absurd. They are not going to change no matter what their wife does for them. Also, a man is NEVER loving if he is abusing his wife. That is NOT love, and it never will be

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I liked this website because it shows the chronological order of marriage and the church. It was a great site to visit because you could see when marriage was just a marriage, and when divorce was not even a consideration for a marriage gone badly. It was really interesting also that there is actually a lot of research done on this, and you can see how strong marriage is in the church life.

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I chose this one because it asks why God instituted marriage and why people want to go and change the ways now. It gives quotes and scriptures from the bible itself, and gives a little insight as to how to keep a marriage together by using God. It also has topics that you can look into about how to stay strong through hard times, and other such things relating to God and Christianity.

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I loved this site, Marriage Missions, it was really wonderful to read through some of the topics and see that I am like some of these people, and if you are married, you may feel the same way. They have any topic you could possible think of, from pre-marriage to the after effects of a divorce. Family issues you may have to deal with or issues with your spouse it is all in here, although, they do come from a Christian point of view so if you have different views of that, you may want to stay awayfrom this site.

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I chose this one because it has various issues of how to manage family and the marriage as two separate units and then as a whole. It has sections on the emotional needs of a partner and what needs to be done and how to achieve that subject, whatever it may be. It has basic concepts of how to have a successful marriage and how to keep it that way, when family, work, and everyday life come into play.

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Go to this site and it gives tips of how and why your spouse may be acting the way they are. It is also anther Christianity based website, but also has a huge selection of topics and advice on it all. They also have links to advice from experts.

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I chose this site because it gives a religious view on how a husband should treat his wife. He should always remember that women were made in God’s image and this is why a husband should always respect his wife because this is the only way for them to achieve “oneness”. This relates to what we are learning about conjugial unity, where a husband is to continuously respect wife and want to change to make her happy.

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I liked this site because it goes into detail about how wives in a marriage just need to be cherished, known and respected. This falls into the category of how as long as a husband can do this and have a desire to want to do this in his marriage, his wife will forever be happy. A wife just wants to see that her husband is willing to try and she will hold on to the hope that her husband will eventually change.

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I chose this article because it gives another perspective on why a married couple is to achieve unity between the two. According to this view, a marriage’s purpose is to join two separate entities unifying together as one for the purpose of God. They are to live for one goal only. I thought that this article was an informative article that gives another view for married couples.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 5

I chose this site because it discusses the view on unity with in a marriage from the religious point of view. It talks about how a married couple is no longer two, but one flesh. This ties into the unity model of marriage on how the husband and wife are to adapt to each other and conjoin as a whole unit instead of two independent selves.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 2

I chose this site because it talks about staying faithful to your partner. Adultery for various reasons is one of the many anti unity values that were discussed, so I wanted to give a link that people could visit if they had any confusion on AUV’s and what is considered infidelity. It also related back to God and gave opinions from a religious point of view.

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This article discusses the two different views between Christianity and Mormonism. It states that Mormons believe that marriage is to be for eternity, however Christians believe that God does not require marriage for all eternity but till death do us part. This shows that Mormonism practices fall into the “unity” model of marriage.

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