This is an interesting site that talks about inner bonding and the spiritual self-help healing process that is created by two psychologists. It also has additional information regarding the betterment of a relationship. I believe that this site may help couples reach their inner connection between one another. By connecting on a deeper level may allow for grow and value in the marriage that may only be experienced through an intimate setting or place.

- G25, Gora - Outline 9

This website includes several responses from members to an article they have all read about the perils of perfectionism. Most members comment on their struggles with being a perfectionist or dealing with a perfectionist and how they got through it.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 6

This website further explores the problems people have with trying to be controlling, which includes some steps on how to stop being controlling. There are also comments and tips left by users of the site on how to deal with control issues.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 5

This website offers advice from Dr. Phil. He goes over several topics which include: stop thinking the world revolves around you, realize that perfectionism is an imperfection, learn to trust yourself, and embrace the spirit of acceptance.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 5

This link leads to an article that discusses the idea of control issues in marital relationships. It also includes a personal letter from a woman who is in controlling relationship in which she describes her uncomfortable and unwanted situation. Dr. Harley then responds to this individual explaining the different aspects of her husband’s controlling tendencies.

- G24, Tabon - Outline 5

This is the official website of Dr, Laura Schlessinger.  I felt that this website was useful because a person could access her views directly.  The person then could use their own judgment to consider her views. 

- G24, Lau - Outline 4

This is the official website of Dr. Laura that explains all about Dr. Laura,her books, appearances, and radio show. This site also contains letter fromlisteners and advice to both women and men.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 9

This first site is Dr. Laura’s official site. This site is good to refer to, to truly consider her outrageous advice on marriage. One can also access her radio talk show

- G24, Lau - Outline 10

This web link leads to Dr. Laura’s official website. I thought it would be helpful to visit her site if you found her views interesting, and would like to learn more about her ideas and theories.

- G24, Stipek - Outline 7 , 9

This web link leads to Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s website. I chose this site because it provides access to advice, articles, and author books written by Dr. Schlessinger.

- G24, Stipek - Outline 1

This is the link to Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s website.  Here she has information not only about her radio show and her books but there is a link to her reading center that gives you an idea what Dr. Laura is about and what morals and ideas she feels are important.  She lists books in her reading center with “topics that are significant to our lives: the sanctity of marriage, the welfare of our children, religion, and our values and moral fiber.”

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 1

This site, which is Dr. Laura’s home page, provides information about her many books and publications. She has scheduled several one-woman shows, which she offers information about on the site. Through her home web site you can submit emails to her in seeking advice and information about martial issues.

- G24, Adams - Outline 3

This is the website of Dr. Laura Schlessinger, author of the book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. This website allows people to get a better idea of the type of work that Dr. Schlessinger does. It also lists other books that Dr. Schlessinger has written as well as feedback from listeners of her radio show.

- G24, Ako - Outline 1

This second website is the official website of Dr. Phil. He is one of psychologist discussed in the Unity Model of Marriage lecture notes. This site is helpful so that a person could examine other psychologists’ views.

- G24, Lau - Outline 4

The publisher Harpor Collins has a link to Dr. Schlessinger’s book.  This website was helpful because in addition to an overview of the book, it also contains links to Dr. Schlessinger’s official website, a biography, and links to other books she has written.

- G24, Lau - Outline 1 , 2

This website provides an interview with Dr. Laura, and she explains that herbook focuses on women because they have so much influence over their husbands.She basically justifies all of her assumption and feels that a woman’s worstmistake is working in “negatives”, that is getting hung up over disappointmentsand past issues instead of looking at the positives.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 8

This third webpage is from a popular website, ivilliage.  This site is mainly for women, but I felt that it was beneficial for men to look at.  Men can learn more about how women think and feel.

- G24, Lau - Outline 10

I chose this website because its main focus was on how to keep up a successful marriage. This site offered tips on keeping a marriage rewarding.  Also, I can see examples on how love is spoken of as an action.  The word love is not necessarily used, but is implied.  There are also many links available, topics to discuss, and even a discussion board. 

- G24, Lau - Outline 1 , 2

This site has to do with achieving and maintaining a happy marriage.  The author discloses the “secrets” to a happy marriage and gives us examples of how couples in a successful marriage deal with certain problems.  I chose this site because I thought it was really interesting how the tips the author gives are both unity (focusing on connection and communication and anti-unity (focusing on the importance of keeping individuality in marriage).

- G24, Montague - Outline 9

I chose this website because I thought it was interesting for other people to see another view on relationships.  This site is not the same idea as the Unity Model of Marriage but has an interesting approach that reminds me of the unity model.  This is talks about soul mates and gives advice on relationships. 

- G24, Lau - Outline 6

I chose this site because it covers a wide variety of topics in marriage including lasting marriages.  I thought it would be a good idea to include this site because it offers a slightly different perspective from what we have been learning.  For example, it lists many different types of marriage that we have not really discussed.

- G24, Montague - Outline 9

This site talks about expectations in marriage, which are thought to be the basis of marital problems when the wife and husband are at the different levels of marriage. They offer insight and suggestion about this very important topic. I also thought it was great how they offered links to other related topics such as marital myths.

- G24, Montague - Outline 5

This site offers very important information about how communication problems may contribute to marital problems. They give us ways to find out whether our communications may be disruptive and what may be done about it. The examples of good and poor communicators are also very helpful.

- G24, Montague - Outline 5

I think this site will be really helpful in understanding what Dr. Laura is trying to say about a power struggle in a relationship. This site focuses completely on control in a relationship. It talks about the negative effects of having too much control and the consequences of the inability to stand up against this control.

- G24, Montague - Outline 4

This site helps people, especially women, understand men better. They talk about very interesting things such as the male ego and how to change a man! I think this is very much related to Dr. Laura’s ideas of understanding naturally male characteristics.

- G24, Montague - Outline 4

This is a link to a very straightforward site which offers insight into understanding the complicating nature of men. They talk about the male ego and offers advice for men on how to change. This site is a little more closer to unity than the one’s I have been seeing up until this point.

- G24, Montague - Outline 10

This site offers many examples of different parenting styles and the possible effects on children. It explores many different types of parenting styles from abusive, neglecting parents to permissive and overindulgent parents. By looking at the possible effects of children other than critical parents, I think we can get a better view at how people may be influenced by their parents.

- G24, Montague - Outline 3

This site explores some of the ways in which a lasting marriage is achieved. They go through such ideas as commitment, integrity, and caring for one another. I picked this site because although it is not necessarily from the same idea, the focus on keeping the marriage together and caring for one another are similar to the Unity Model of Marriage.

- G24, Montague - Outline 2

I think this site is really interesting because it explains the many differences in men and women. They not only go into the psychological differences, but also the social differences. It allows us to examine the differences between men and women in depth.

- G24, Montague - Outline 2

This site offers valuable information on marriage, such as sexual relationships, communication between partners, as well as ways of resolving conflicts. I think this site will be useful in understanding and working to accomplish a successful and happy marriage since it offers advice about many different aspects of marriage. It also contains information on marriage counseling and where you can find a counselor.

- G24, Montague - Outline 1

This web site gives advice to controlling women and also to men who are beingcontrolled by women. An example for women is “You must put the past behind you,and focus on the future. An example for men is “Relationships are managed, notcured. You have to be a good steward, and help achieve balance in yourrelationship. Don't be too passive.”

- G24, Pettit - Outline 8

This website describes a book written by Bebe Moore Campbell about egalitarian marriages. The book includes information about the author’s own marriage, as well as interviews with over 40 couples. The book is divided into three parts describing what goes wrong within these types of marriages, with the last section describing how to improve the situation couples often find themselves in (emphasizing communication).

- G24, Pettit - Outline 6

This website asserts that often times the problems individuals encounter are caused because they don’t know what true intimacy looks like and how to find it. This may lead to incidents involving drugs, adultery, sexual abuse, pornography, etc. This article describes how the search for intimacy isn’t easy, but is worthwhile.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 4

This website examines the concept of compatibility. According to this article, compatibility is something that needs to be obtained, worked at, and maintained, rather than being the qualities that attract two people to each other. This idea deviates from Reverend Geoffery Howard’s ideas.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 3

This website provides list of qualities that unhappily/happily married women possess and traits that unhappily/happily married men possess. An example of a trait unhappily married men have includes “more often express irreligious attitudes”. An example of a characteristic unhappily married women possess includes “are egocentric. Some of the qualities listed agree with the unity model, while some contradict the unity model.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 3

This website provides a list of traits that have been found in people that were in various situations of their personal lives. This site is promoting the idea that if you know what good things to look for in both yourself and a prospective mate, a good decision will be made when choosing a marriage partner. The book, Building a Successful Marriage, by Judson Landis and Mary Landis is cited.

- G24, Ako - Outline 3

This website is dedicated to building lasting marriages. This particular link describes what the site explains as “love busters”. It specifically includes “independent behavior” as a love buster that causes a spouse to ignore the feelings and interests of their partner.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 2

This article explains some of the common problems incurred by couples after having children. It emphasizes that while this is an exciting time, it can also be very stressful. Some tips are provided to help couples stay strong through this period.

- G24, Pettit - Outline 2

This web link leads to a site that contains an article entitled, “Getting Married”? It discusses a variety of topics, and it also talks about argumentation or avoidance (sweeping problems under the rug). I feel this is a good article to read if they were interested in Tannen’s ideas.

- G24, Stipek - Outline 8

This web link is helpful because it gives advice to women, directly from men. I chose this link because it provides some ideas, advice, and tips for women, about men.

- G24, Stipek - Outline 1

This web link leads to Joshua Coleman’s official website. There is information about the author, his books, and his knowledge of different areas of study. The webpage introduces the author, and also provides contact information if you are interested.

- G24, Stipek - Outline 4 , 5

I thought it important to take a look at the website of author of the book that I am outlining.  So the this link is to Dr. Joshua Coleman’s website homepage where it offers a biography of Dr. Coleman, including his credentials, where he has appeared, where is works have been published and information about his two books.  I thought that the summation for The Lazy Husband accurately described what the book is about for someone who may be interested in purchasing his book.  I was also interested in the description of his other book, The Marriage Makeover: Finding Happiness in Imperfect Harmony because the bulleted points are important to anyone who is married.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 4

 This web link leads to an article entitled, “The Influence of Childhood on Marriage”. It discusses how parental marriage, or divorce, can affect a child. The article was posted through a site called Solveyourproblem.com, so I hope that it is helpful to people who are curious about this issue.

- G24, Stipek - Outline 4

This website is based on a book written by Emuna Braverman.  She sounds like she knows a lot about the topic of women and their wants and needs.  She relates this to a woman looking for a mate and gives a few qualities that women usually look for.  They consist of men that show their love through, gratitude, praise, care and consideration, really listening, clear words and eye contact, and physical affection.  She feels that these qualities will help a marriage succeed and keep the wife as happy and comfortable as she can.

- G24, Saito - Outline 7

This website was basically everything and more of what was said in the book.  It gave a list of 10 solutions to get your husbands to help out around the house.  These solutions consisted of: make a list and check it twice, be passive-aggressive, talk it out, think sexy, make it a game, get mischievous, make ultimatums, butter him up, accept and be merry, and finally find good help.  These are relevant solutions because they come directly from wives that have husbands that needed to change and help out around the house.

- G24, Saito - Outline 6

With this website, I felt that I was reading the book all over again.  This gave lots of facts on the “perfectionist”.  It focused on both the husband and the wife and was similar in the fact that they believed that a marriage would not work if one or both were perfectionists. 

- G24, Saito - Outline 5

This is a website that deals with sexual blackmail in the working world.  This was an article that focused on sexual harassment and had sexual blackmail incorporated in it. This is related to a marriage because the husband, or supervisor, is using their power to get sex.  You either lose your husband or lose your job in these cases.

- G24, Saito - Outline 4

This website provides information on men’s flaws and issues in marriages.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 10

This website offers relationship advice on dating and couples.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 5

The official website of John Gray offers relationship advice on how to communicate with your partener.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 6

This is a list of different self-help books on relationship troubles and communication tips.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 6

This website lists the problematic reasons why Coleman does not present the best marital advice.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 7

This website analyzes Coleman and his maital issues covered in his book, The Lazy Husband.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 7

This website provides a list of viewpoints on the different marriage personalities they have found.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 9

This website is an informational website on solutions for a spouse trying to fix their marriage.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 9

This website provides information on how a wife can solve the problems in her marriage.

- G24, Kanemaru - Outline 9

This link takes you to About.com and the discussion of chores.  The thought that the fact that chores are the main topic that instigates fights in marriages I found very interesting.  I also thought this link related to the section of Dr. Laura’s book because it does touch on the concept of who is responsible for the chores.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 10

This is a link to ABC News for Good Morning America.  The title of the piece is “Husbands, Your Wives want you to Read this”: Tips from the Author of "Secrets of Happily Married Men."  I thought the article from the show was great in that it is telling men the same things that Dr. Laura advocates to women.  Things like; Make Marriage Your Job, Know Your Wife, Expect Conflict and Deal with It.  It goes to show that there are basics in a marriage that should be used by both the Husband as well as the Wife.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 2

This is a link to a website called Crosswalk.com.  It is a Christian website and there is an article entitled, “Husbands, Win Your Wives' Hearts” and again I thought that the advice not only applies to men but women as well.  There are simple statements that are discussed in more detail, like;  Don’t trample on her feelings, Pursue strong character,  Choose to be a servant – not just act like one sometimes, and Realize that your time is not your own.  I feel that all of these statements were also expressed in a similar fashion in Dr. Laura’s book.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 2

This is a link to the website for Psychology Today.  The article on the site is by Polly Shulman and it discusses the topic of the quest for finding a marriage partner.  More specifically the article discusses, the question of whether or not the quest to find the perfect soul mate has done more harm than good?  Psychologists provide opinion on how the search for ideal love can keep someone from enjoying a marriage or a healthy relationship that they may already be in.  I thought this was interesting in that it was about the same topic as the religious websites, true love, but takes an obviously different approach to the topic of finding a soul mate.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 3

This link takes you to a homepage entitled, Marriage Support.com – It has articles for purchase on hundreds of topics related to marriage.  This particular link has articles (brief synopses) about the effects childhood has on marriage.  An interesting point brought up is to welcome the inner child because it is very present in our lives and to realize that in a marriage there are four people, two adults, and two children interacting.  These articles may have some with slightly different views about how childhood affects our marriages but nonetheless they are interesting and insightful.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 5

This link takes you to the Oprah Winfrey website, with a discussion by Dr. Phil called, Dr. Phil’s "MAN-UAL": Men Express Their Feelings through the Currency They Value.  I thought this was interesting because he brings up a lot of valid points.  One of these points being, that if you want to know how a man really feels, pay attention to how he treats what he values.  And an important question he raises to women is, “Do you want your man to really love you, or do you want him to love you the way you would love you?”  I think that this discussion supplements the section of Dr. Laura’s book very well.

- G24, Lagondino - Outline 6

This internet article enhances and promotes equality in a marriage. It’s basically stating the rights of women in a relationship and how it should be equal for both men and women to participate as being just on the principles of individual fulfillment. This article attempts to provide guidelines in order for a marriage to be successful. I don’t believe entirely on this site because I feel that the men need to relinquish their reign of thoughts and feelings in accommodation to his wife.

- G25, Gora - Outline 9

I chose another article that kind of gives great pointers to follow when in a serious relationship. It talks about arguing, giving each other space, and alone time with the boys or girls. I know it’s easier said then done but no one is perfect so I’m sure if you just tried your best to follow some of the guidelines then you would be perfectly fine.

- G25, Malala - Outline 6

This article gives couples advice on maintaining a good marriage and what to do when problems arise. They say that most problems are fixable and that a lot of effort should be put in fixing it. It explains that your spouse should be your best friend and that one should tell the other everything. This type of interaction is good for the couple and helps bring the couple closer. This closeness may help the spouses see certain pet peeves that irritate them. It says that spouses need to be patient with each other and not let such petty things get in the way. Marriage isn’t only about being in love, it’s about communication and helping each other. I was interested in reading this article because I was anxious to read what kind of tips they’d give married couples. Marriage isn’t an easy thing to maintain and I’m interested in hearing other’s perspective on it.

- G25, Monteilh - Outline 2

I found this article to be quiet entertaining. It talks about how you can love your pet and still make love with your spouse at the same time. The article suggests the partner and pet to bond with each other as well as preparing the pet for when the couple wants to have some ALONE time.. I giggled at that part!

- G25, Ide - Outline 7

This is a list giving the men some advice about what women need out of them in order to understand their role with their wives and how they can better their relationship

- G25, Ide - Outline 3

This article would be the perfect combination with Dr Laura’s book. This article talks about what men need to say when their wives ask them a certain question such as “How are you thinking about” it’s an article for men to feel and express feelings like a woman

- G25, Ide - Outline 7

People are so busy in our daily lives that we need to resort to adding our anniversaries into our
paying bills category, making it something that we need to add into our planners. This is supposed to be a sacred happy day that is not easily forgotten. People need to learn to slow down and smell the roses.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 8

When I was searching for a site on making your wife happy, this is one of the first sites that came up. It is about making your husband happy. I thought that so many of the advices listed here are part of the dominance model. This site is about the Islamic people and their customs, but it is so a part of the dominance model. Some of the topics that are mentioned were outrageous to me like the one listed in #4 Intercourse.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 7

As I was reading this website, I thought that it does not only apply to people in marriage, but to couples in general. In order for things to work properly and run smoothly in the home, there needs to be certain foundations and agreements. Though I am not married, I try to implement some of these practices into my relationship. My favorite is number two, I think that for a couple to have a lasting relationship they need to make each other laugh and be able to make the other person happy.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 6

This is an article from the Washington Times. It talks about marriage culture and about the government investing money into promoting healthy marriages. It is an interesting article because it shows the importance of a good marriage, but it also seems to be supporting the “traditional marriage.”

- G25, Matsui - Outline 3

This website gives 5 points to have a happier marriage and it seems that they are far from the unity model of marriage and placed in the dominance stage, but some of the advice fits into the unity model. This site is directed for both the man and the woman. There are also other various articles in their home page too.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 10

This site talks about if what is going on in ones marriage is not working then you need to change it. It gives a couple ways to better themselves and their relationship with advice. I thought that some of their points were good and relevant to the class.

- G25, Matsui - Outline 10

Money is one of the leading causes of marital discord today. Couples struggle with whether to have joint checking accounts or to hold a few separately. Also, people in marriage have different views for how money should be spent, saved and invested. This website gives suggestions for how married couples can come together in this issue.

- G25, Murray - Outline 9

This website picked the concept of peanut butter to discuss how marriages are held together. For some marriages, the only thing that holds them together is their children, their church or some group they are involved in. A marriage needs to be held together by love, honesty, communication and commitment. Any time a couple tells other people their problems before talking to their own spouse, they are not doing the right thing. The website explains more in detail.

- G25, Murray - Outline 9

This website takes into account the great disadvantages many marriages in the dominance model display towards women. It explains how women are now going to work and are often still expected to do all the household chores. From the Equity perspective, or Peer marriage, the chores are divided as close to 50-50 as possible, with it being at about 40-60 at the farthest. Both partners are given equal influence and there is no one person who controls the money or the finances. The website also explains that this is a type of marriage which is relatively new and does not have many documents or researches to prove that it is a suitable model. It also speaks about a marriage in transition called "Near peers." This is a situation where they wanted equality, but were unable to give up the dominance roles placed on men within society.

- G25, Murray - Outline 5

This article begins with a man, Michael Noer, taking a very sexist viewpoint on how men should never marry a woman with a career. The reason is that scientifically she will make you unhappy for the rest of your life. He quotes different sources that "prove" career women are the problems in marriage and men should just marry a woman who does not want to work. Then, in a counterpoint, Elizabeth Corcoran debunks his idea that it is the woman's fault for the break down in marriage. She explains that maybe the problem is a career woman having a lazy husband, and gives women advice for how to pick a good husband who will not behave in the way her counterpart behaves.

- G25, Murray - Outline 5

This website explains how often in love relationships, we seek our opposites. It seems we do this in order to find a person who compliments our weaknesses. However, with two people who are not alike, there is a greater opportunity for conflict. People may look for people with different world-views, but they also look for people who are similar with their goals in life. This website also gives examples of the many different personality types and offers and explanation on each. Some of the personality types differ from those that the author used.

- G25, Murray - Outline 4

This website provides information about personality and relationships. The site offers information about 16 specific personality types a few of them includes the caregiver, the thinkers and duty fulfillers. The site provides information about various different types of personality and in understanding ones personality. This then enables marriage partners to recognize reasons why conflict or difficulty may occur, and then gives ways to engage in two-way discussions about solving these differences within the relationship.

- G24, Adams - Outline 8

This website give advice to couples of how to romance your spouse. I thought the article was good because it was not directing the information to either the man or women, but to both. Some things that they suggest is to surprise them with plans and to ask what the other likes that way you will be better able to do things that they like. I also like the advice they gave about this not only being a one time thing, but trying to romance your spouse on a daily basis.

- G25, Imose - Outline 9

This article is by the therapist Dr. Hugh Leavell. He gives quick advise in this article on how to keep equity in your marriage. He says that sometimes you can’t avoid inequity, so it’s a good idea to make rules for your marriage for example, “never go to bed angry.”

- G25, Imose - Outline 1

This website has steps to take in order to show your husband or wife that you love them, or to just have a happier marriage. Some of the helpful hints they suggest is to do things together with the cell phone and tv turned off to just enjoy each other. Also to show your love through your actions like giving each other massages and drawing each other a bath. I thought this list could be very helpful to couples around because it is simple things that you can do for each other that might end up making a big impact of the relationship for the better.

- G25, Imose - Outline 6

This is a site that has some references similar to the unity model of marriage. One of their signs that the relationship is bad is jealousy. This is AUV 3. According to this article, jealousy is when a person doubts the other person’s love or commitment. This makes me think about all the men that I have dated who was jealous and in turn tried to make me jealous. They were doubting my love and then intimidating me by trying to get back at me. Making each other jealous on purpose is an anti-unity value and should be a sign that you need to get out of that relationship.

- G25, Kim - Outline 9

This site is an interview with Dr. Laura Schlessinger. She goes on to talk about the common complaints about men with their wives and his important needs. She basically reiterates her points from her book and goes on to say how a book for the proper care of women is not needed. Her reasoning being that “men spend their entire lives in the tutelage of women.” One of the main points I got from her interview is that attitude is everything. This I agree on. However, most other points she makes in this interview I do not agree with. One of the being that wives nag because they believe they are entitled to. I purposely went to find a site in which I could read more of Dr. Laura’s viewpoint. After reading these first two chapters, I was shocked! I couldn’t believe a woman was basically putting all of her needs last! So I picked this article because it shows a little more insight to why she thinks her perception is the right one.

- G25, Kim - Outline 1

This site revolves around negotiating and communication as a means to get husbands to do housework. This article was written by a man, Marty Friedman. His position is much like Joshua Coleman’s in a sense that he believes that if you communicate to your husbands (in a respectful, loving way), you can get him to do chores around the house. He lists other recommendations such as keeping the conversation low-key, making it personal, and not criticizing or belittling your husband. Marty Friedman added a little side note in the last paragraph of the article: “Don’t expect massive changes right away. Men haven’t been expected to do much housework over the last several thousand years and we are making a tough transition to the 21st Century’s brave new world.” I found this hilarious, as well as a pathetic excuse. Now that I have learned more about the unity model of marriage, I know that if men want to keep their women happy, they just need to do it and stop complaining. If women can do housework, then they can do it.

- G25, Kim - Outline 4

This was an interesting article about jealousy and the differences between men and women. According to this article, many women try to prevent their husbands from spending time away from them (even if it is to go to work). They call this “smothering.” The husband, on the other hand, wants to control his wife’s life. I thought this was an interesting article that restated what the dominance and equity model enforce: that jealous is natural and common among women and their feelings toward their husband.

- G25, Kim - Outline 10

This site was written by Willard F. Harley, Jr., who writes on behalf of group called “Marriage Builders.” Harley asserts that high divorce rates in today’s world are directly due to the newly adapted idea that co-dependency is bad. While many couples in present times try to assert independence, Harley states that this is only harmful for relationships. He quotes Edmund J. Bourne’s definition of co-dependency which states that it is when someone puts another persons needs over their own. This describes an attitude that is selfless, not selfish. I chose this site because I found it so interesting. I often hear friends, family, and peers, speak of co-dependence as bad. If a couple is completely dependent on one another for happiness, this is considered unhealthy, however, Harley gives an interesting perspective that seems to similarly relate to the perspective that the unity model promotes, which is to relinquish independence. Has society really misinterpreted the word “co-dependence”?

- G25, Moa - Outline 6

This site, written by authors Sheri Stritof and Bob Stritof, discusses the importance of making decisions together in marriage. The authors suggest that all important decisions should be made together. They outline a number of important decisions that they feel should definitely be made as a team, like decisions on parenting, finances, household chores, future plans, and how to spend free time. The Stritof’s say the “making decisions should be a shared responsibility.” They assert that if the responsibility is not shared then it can cause unhappiness in marriage. Sheri and Bob discuss several characteristics of successful marriages which they feel are related to decision making, characteristics like sincerity, compromise, and concern for your partners wishes. I chose this concept because I felt it related to the topic of tolerating differences and disagreements. Disagreements often occur because decisions are made separately. This site reminded me of Dr. James’ concepts about conjoining with one’s spouse. I feel that this site might reflect a model similar to that of the equity model or possibly contain parts of the unity model as well.

- G25, Moa - Outline 10

This suggestive article, written by Marty Friedman, is a comment on how to get a man to do more housework. She acknowledges that men are not raised to feel responsible for participating in housework. They consciously or unconsciously see the work as women’s work. Friedman continues by saying that a woman should respectfully state her request in order to elicit a good response. I chose this site because Friedman comments on some similar concepts as Joshua Coleman does concerning men and housework.

- G25, Moa - Outline 2

This site was created for victims of domestic abuse. The authors of this site defined domestic abuse as an abuser who uses force or intimidation to assert control over the partner. The site lists various different types of abuse that can often occur, for example, physical, emotional, verbal, spiritual, sexual, and economic abuse. It discusses the various symptoms that can often lead a spouse to be abusive or violent. The site also makes mention of the effects that abuse can have on the victim. I chose this site because I feel that it applies to the topic of mental abuse. Personally I feel that all abuse, physical or not, is mental abuse because the effects of the abuse can leave definite emotional scars. Although domestic abuse is often discussed in social circles, there is a bias concerning what can be constituted as abuse. Most often sites like these will discuss extreme versions of abuse and leave out other important ways that abuse can occur, Dr. James and Dr. Nahl’s readings encourages us to look at those abuses that are often overlooked.

- G25, Moa - Outline 4

On Mentalhelp.net one of the many topics it covers is the topic of “What Makes for a Happy Marriage?” It provides some healthy ways that healthy marriages are structured and developed. It emphasizes that compatibility is critical in a marital relationship discussing five areas in which both the husband and the wife should agree upon and deal with: 1) friendship, 2) role expectations, 3) emotional intimacy, 4) sexual expectations and 5) visions/goals.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 10

In this weblink, it focuses love compatibility test for couples based on hundred serious questions developed by Dr. Andrea Adams who is a relationship expert and does statistical research. Dr. Adams provides two options in finding your compatible significant other, 1) the online compatibility test that is based on a hundred questions and learned behaviors and 2) the astrology analysis which analyzes personality based on planetary influences at birth.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 10

In this weblink, it explores what are egalitarian marriages. This weblink showcases the works of Pepper Schwartz and Phillip Blumstein and how states that in the present a true egalitarian marriage is non-existent and near impossible.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 6

This Psychology Today website offers an enormous amount of information on different personality types. The Relationship Center provides many self-tests one can take to aid in determining specific characteristics of your personality. There is even a self-test titled the perfectionist-do you set the bar too high?

- G24, Adams - Outline 8

This site introduces you to some of the best ways to overcome martial conflict and many ways to restore love to a marriage. Marriage Builders offers very informative and free web pages about marriage and family relationships. The site offers discussion forums on many topics ranging from emotional needs and affection to helping couples in raising children. This site is both useful and informative.

- G24, Adams - Outline 4

This web site offers information on marriage, health, and relationships. The site provides information on free community workshops. It offers information to individuals on second marriages. This link provides an enormous amount of information on keys to a successful and happy marriage.

- G24, Adams - Outline 4

This site provides an abundance of information about marriage. The site offers information on marital tips, love and marriage and marriage problems. This site also provides information on workshops and marriage courses. The site offers information about marriage laws as well. It addresses the issue of intimacy in a marriage and talks about the important issue of marriage partnerships. The site is easy to navigate and provides many resources regarding the topic of marriage.

- G24, Adams - Outline 4

This website provides information on selecting a marriage partner. The site lists many characteristics in the selection of a marriage partner. One of the most important characteristics of a marriageable person is the habit of happiness. It also gives an analysis on the qualities which men and women, happy and unhappy possess. Many of the traits and characteristics relate directly to the unity model of marriage and some do not.

- G24, Adams - Outline 6

This website offer us more spiritual guidance in selecting a marriage partner. We should be reminded that choosing a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions we make in life aside from accepting Jesus into our lives. The site provides many values, which are directly in line with the teaching of the Reverend Geoffery Howard. We are reminded here that a persons actions and looks speak volumes, therefore we should be advised about these very virtues when selecting a marriage partner.

- G24, Adams - Outline 6

This link provides an enormous amount of information for all members of the family. It offers information specific to the husbands and wives. There are links provide for children and teenagers as well. The site offers information about healthy lifestyles for all members of the family. It also offered a fun category about lazy husband humor.

- G24, Adams - Outline 2

Bella Online is a website that contains many different topics and how they are all related to women. At this particular portion of the website, you will find articles about relationship advice as well as some statistics about relationships. There is also a forum where people are able to discuss various topics with other people.

- G24, Ako - Outline 1

This website discusses the aspects of a Christian marriage. It contains various articles that deal with the principles that are associated with a Christian marriage. This site discusses marriage that continues for all eternity and also addresses marriages that may be going through difficulties.

- G24, Ako - Outline 4

This is another website that deals with marriage from a Christian perspective. This site contains letters that have been written to pastors and the pastors’ responses to those letters. It is also emphasized in here that marriage is a lasting bond and that divorced is strongly discouraged.

- G24, Ako - Outline 4

“Conflict over domestic duties and chores around the house is second only to conflict over money in a marriage.The key thing to remember is to not ask your spouse for help in getting chores done. Asking for help sets the stage for you having to do all the work. Here are more suggestions on how to divide up household tasks and how to cope with an uncooperative spouse.” This explanation to the website was so interesting I had to insert it. This site contains article on how to handle household chores together. It basically is a how to guide in handling your husband in order to get some help.

- G24, Buchner - Outline 4

This website lists the “Top Ten Things Teens Should Know About Marriage.” It is a useful link in exploring the topic of a person’s childhood and its effect on their marriage because it explains several Anti-Unity Values, for example- cohabitation before marriage, and by doing so teaches the basis for successful Unity Model marriage in the teen’s future.

- G24, Buchner - Outline 3

This website is a great place to read articles about marriage, sex, and religion issues. You also have the ability to view message boards on many topics and join forum and chat discussions on those topics as well. It is interesting to see how women today actually view their relationships and the steps they take to make them better.

- G24, Buchner - Outline 2

This link is Myer Briggs’ personality types of people who are likely to marry, what type of people they are to marry, and different personality attractions people look for. It also gives explanations why we choose a certain type of personality when we have a certain type of personality. It brings up questions for people to think about when considering someone.

- G24, Wong - Outline 7

This link is an experiment on newlyweds in finding out similarities of attitude-related domain and personality-related domain. It gives several positive results those similarities of characteristics are shown by the couples.

- G24, Wong - Outline 7

This website is very popular in today’s society. It allows individuals to meet each other online and to begins dating without seeing each other. I thought this site was intersting because you have to first complete a compatibility profile in order for them to find your “true love.” It made me think about the Unity Model of Marriage and whether their profile follows the concepts of the model.

- G24, Buchner - Outline 5

This site gives relationship help and advice. It gives a different perspective from the Unity model because it says that every couple needs space in order for the relationship to work. It helps in understanding the importance of the Unity model for today’s relationships

- G24, Buchner - Outline 5

This link is about Q and A from a Catholic point of view of the relationship between a man and a woman. They use biblical scriptures to support their reasons, which are interesting. They also compare the relationship of a husband and wife to God and his church.

- G24, Wong - Outline 2

This link is an observation on men and women monologues that relates to the cognitive level. It evaluates the quality of the monologues, the time, conversations, and other factors, which can determine “how close” and man and woman can be. It also brings up dependence, interdependence, and independence from the other person.

- G24, Wong - Outline 2

In this weblink, marriage compatibility is chosen based on astrology rather than intimate and internal interconnectedness. On the main page where you put down some information about yourself and your spouse there is a quote saying: “Right Choices are hard, but Astrology can make it easier.” Express Starteller also provides tarot readings and elaborate conditions for your relationships for 2006.

- G24, Antonio - Outline 10

Obviously from the title, you can tell this is in the dominance perspective. This website gives tips to women on how to treat a man like a man. Tips include not undermining the husband and giving him space with his friends.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 9

This website focuses on questions on have to have and maintain a healthy marriage. They include answers to questions including actually defining what a healthy marriage is and what are the most important factors in sustaining a healthy marriage. These findings were based on scientifically sound research.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 9

This is website is a place where you can purchase books by the author Dr. Frank Gunzburg. He specializes in saving couple's marriages. In this site, you can how his tactics works by reading through a conversation he had with a man. Gunzburg focuses on things such as understanding what the real problem is and how to connect with the partner emotionally.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 7

This website claims to be the #1 site for helping couples staying in love. This site has a variety of things to offer, such as love stories, tips, and date night ideas just to name a few. This site focuses on couples and married couples.

- G25, Delapena - Outline 7

This article deals with a couple therapist explaining how husbands and wives deal with their relationships through rewarding behavior. If one partner decreases their normal rewarding behavior towards their spouse, the spouse will feel like they are not getting back anything (rewards) from their significant other. This can also work the other way around, where a spouse gives plenty of rewarding behavior, therefore, the other spouse feels like they are receiving plenty of rewards from their partner. Two questions were asked to this therapist, “How can I know what he/she likes?” and “Why should I have to tell him/her what I like? He/she should know what I like without my saying.” I thought these could relate to anti-unity values. One must learn everything about their partner in order to change themselves to please their partner. If a partner is unwilling to let their spouse know something about them, they are only going to stay in this anti-unity stage. They will never be able to move on into the Unity Model of Marriage.

- G25, Fields - Outline 10

I chose this site because it tells you why your mate may not help you. It gives statistics, to let you know that you are not the only one life this. And it gives you tips on how to get your mate to help out around the house.

- G25, Georgeo - Outline 1

I chose ivillage because it has 10 tips to get your mate to help out. It has tips for singles and those that are dating, love and marriage, understanding men, common problems, friends and family, and sex. I think that these are major issues affecting those married and those that are not married, so this site really helps with thinking through everything, and tips on how to sort it all out.

- G25, Georgeo - Outline 1

I chose this site because it gives advice to people who have come to them with real life situations hoping for some advice. Since this section talked about being able to observe couples and distinguish what model they are living in, I figured to list a link that people can look at and relate to when it comes to real life couples, the kinds of situations they deal with and look at good advice that is given to couples with a husband that yells, contradicts or embarrasses her.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 5

I liked this site because it lists different issues that a married couple should try to stay away from. Things like belittling your mate, withdrawing from an argument and so forth are all examples of falling into the dominance model. No matter what, if a couple wants to live a successful marriage they do not want to be in the dominance model, but always trying to achieve the unity model.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 2

This site talks about the one way to have a good marriage is to respect your partner, which means to let them be themselves and not try to remake them. However, it ties in to what we are learning because we do not want to change our individual selves, but in a unity model of marriage, we are to adapt to each other by getting rid of old habits and gaining new ones to better fit each other.

- G25, Hasegawa - Outline 1

I wanted my last site to be something about the male ego. Every site that I found stressed the importance of the male ego. This site advises women to stroke her man’s ego because it will lead to better communication, better sex, and he will want to spend more time with you. This is an article that Dr. Laura could have wrote herself! I thought this represented what we are learning because it is another article that supports a man’s confidence being built, and dismisses the woman. A man’s ego and his confidence is, too often, put before a woman’s ego and confidence.

- G25, Kim - Outline 9