Week 2: Modification
Event: Finding Parking at the UH Parking Structure
| Day 1, Monday, November 5, 2001 |
Motivational Statement: "It could be worse" |
| Feeling, thinking sensations, appearance, acts | Once again, there was no parking at UH, and the "Lot Full" sign was once again illuminated. I felt like screaming!!! (feeling) I couldn't believe people still go to school at mid semester. (thinking) I thought that by now, people would stop coming to school. I was so frustrated!! I started to drive faster to get to an open stall before anyone stole it. (sensations) |
| Bridge (Determination-Red, Resistance-Blue) | Determination-Red--I started to think of other scenarios--what if I didn't have a pass, and had to find parking on the unsafe street? |
| Self-regulatory sentence | "It could be worse" |
| Modified thinking, feeling, sensations, appearance, acts | After I realized that other people needed to park for school too, I became grateful for the parking I had...some others don't have the luxury of a parking pass. I realized how stupid I was, and started to slow down and became more patient while looking for a stall. |
| Global Rating Scale | Stress:
4
Successful coping: 10
Satisfaction with self: 9 Hope for future: 10 Effectiveness/productivity: 9 Negativity or selfishness of others: 4 |
Event: Dealing with my House Guest
| Day 2, Tuesday, November 6, 2001 |
Motivational Statement: "It could be worse" |
| Feeling, thinking sensations, appearance, acts | I came home late again, and my house guest was upset again. (feeling) I couldn't understand why she treated me like a child. (thinking) I was upset she still saw me this way. I told myself I'll always be a child in her eyes. I stormed off because I was too upset to talk. (sensations) |
| Bridge (Determination-Red, Resistance-Blue) | Determination-Red--What if no one cared about me?--Other people don't have people around them who care where they are or what time they come home. It made me grateful to have someone who cared. |
| Self-regulatory sentence | "It could be worse" |
| Modified thinking, feeling, sensations, appearance, acts | After I thought about it, I knew that I should be grateful that someone does care about me and she's only scolding me because she cares. I apologized and told her I should have been more considerate of her feelings. I told her that I would call to tell her I was going to be late. I felt better after we came to an understanding. |
| Global Rating Scale | Stress:
3
Successful coping: 9
Satisfaction with self: 8 Hope for future: 9 Effectiveness/productivity: 8 Negativity or selfishness of others: 3 |
Event: Driving
| Day 3, Wednesday, November 7, 2001 |
Motivational Statement: "It could be worse" |
| Feeling, thinking sensations, appearance, acts | A car was pulling out of a drive way and an old man didn't see me approaching him, so I had to slam on my brakes to stop myself from running into him. (sensations) I got so mad (feeling)-I said to myself, "Old people shouldn't be driving!" (thinking) I honked my horn as he drove away. (sensations) |
| Bridge (Determination-Red, Resistance-Blue) | Determination-Red--I told myself, I could have hit him, and we both could have been hurt. |
| Self-regulatory sentence | "It could be worse" |
| Modified thinking, feeling, sensations, appearance, acts | After reassessing the situation, I realized that not all old people are bad drivers, and maybe he just didn't see me. I felt really bad terrorizing an old man like that. Now that I think about it, at that age, I too would want to feel that independence that all drivers feel. |
| Global Rating Scale | Stress:
4
Successful coping: 9
Satisfaction with self: 7 Hope for future: 9 Effectiveness/productivity: 8 Negativity or selfishness of others: 3 |
Event: Fight with Boyfriend
| Day 4, Thursday, November 8, 2001 |
Motivational Statement: "It could be worse" |
| Feeling, thinking sensations, appearance, acts | We seem to fight about the same things over and over again. (thinking) I always feel that he never has the time for me and he gives his friends a higher priority than me. (feeling) I always get upset because he never agrees with me on this issue. I always feel like giving up when I talk to him about this. (sensations) |
| Bridge (Determination-Red, Resistance-Blue) | Resistance-Blue--He could be a loner and not have any friends. I need to stop being so pessimistic about him not having time for me...I would rather he have friends than none at all. |
| Self-regulatory sentence | "It could be worse" |
| Modified thinking, feeling, sensations, appearance, acts | I realized that it is not the end of the world if he puts his friends first. I want to make new friends, and establish new connections. When I knew he understood this, we came to a compromise and set up a schedule of when we would call each other. By doing this, I knew he loved me and cared enough to set time aside just for us. This made me feel way better about our relationship. |
| Global Rating Scale | Stress:
3
Successful coping: 9
Satisfaction with self: 9 Hope for future: 10 Effectiveness/productivity: 9 Negativity or selfishness of others: 3 |
Event: Dealing with Grumpy Co-Worker
| Day 5, Friday, November 9, 2001 |
Motivational Statement: "It could be worse" |
| Feeling, thinking sensations, appearance, acts | I don't know what it is about this girl, but she's constantly grumpy. Does she want to make everyone miserable too? (feeling & thinking) Obviously it works, because she affects the entire mood of the staff. I feel like shaking some happiness into her system!! (sensations) |
| Bridge (Determination-Red, Resistance-Blue) | Determination-Red--She could not come into work, making more work for us. |
| Self-regulatory sentence | "It could be worse" |
| Modified thinking, feeling, sensations, appearance, acts | I thought about this, and came to the conclusion that maybe that's part of her personality and I shouldn't let it bother me. I told myself that if the opportunity presents itself, then I'll try to cheer her up, if not, I'll just ignore her. |
| Global Rating Scale | Stress:
3
Successful coping: 8
Satisfaction with self: 7 Hope for future: 8 Effectiveness/productivity: 7 Negativity or selfishness of others: 4 |
Event: Conversation with my Mom
| Day 6, Saturday, November 10, 2001 |
Motivational Statement: "It could be worse" |
| Feeling, thinking sensations, appearance, acts | I swear, my mom thinks that I'm super woman. She thinks that I can be in 20 places at once!! (thinking) It's so frustrating that she can't understand the concept of time, and traffic (feeling). I wish she took these variables into consideration when she asks me to do things for her. |
| Bridge (Determination-Red, Resistance-Blue) | Determination-Red--I could have no mother to bug me. I tried to think what would happen if she stopped calling, and I realized that I would be sad. |
| Self-regulatory sentence | "It could be worse" |
| Modified thinking, feeling, sensations, appearance, acts | I came to the realization that some people have no mothers at all. When she did call again, I apologized for being selfish and told her what time traffic occurs, and that she needs to take that into consideration when she asks me to do things for her. I felt better about myself and the whole situation after that. |
| Global Rating Scale | Stress:
3
Successful coping: 10
Satisfaction with self: 8 Hope for future: 10 Effectiveness/productivity: 8 Negativity or selfishness of others: 3 |
Event: Morning Wake-up Call
| Day 7, Sunday, November 11, 2001 |
Motivational Statement: "It could be worse" |
| Feeling, thinking, sensations, appearance, acts | As usual, my 7:00am wake-up call came again. I don't know why I still get upset (feeling) about it, but it's aggravating (sensations) to know that my family will continue to give me these wake-up calls no matter what I say (thinking). |
| Bridge (Determination-Red, Resistance-Blue) | Determination-Red--I thought, if they stopped calling, I would be worried sick! I'm glad I have someone in my family to keep me updated. |
| Self-regulatory sentence | "It could be worse" |
| Modified thinking, feeling, sensations, appearance, acts | After I thought about it, I know that I would be sad if they didn't call me in the morning--I would be lonely. Now I'm actually grateful that they call--they keep me up to date with my family happenings. |
| Global Rating Scale | Stress:
3
Successful coping: 9
Satisfaction with self: 8 Hope for future: 9 Effectiveness/productivity: 8 Negativity or selfishness of others: 3 |