It’s good to know that divorce, separation and child abuse has such an effect on children because then we can help our children to learn and understand and as the adult we are aware how much of an affect it has on a child. With more experiments and studies maybe people will be able to find how much of an impact divorce, separation, and child abuse takes it’s toll on children and people will be better able to help educate kids, making these kinds of things not so hard on kids.

• http://www.umm.maine.edu/BSED/students/BarbaraCyr/bc310.html
• Divorce isn’t easy on anyone in the family that is involved. There are stages of adjustment: the initial stage where things are changing, transitional period of reorganizing the family members lives, & renewed sense of stability when the parents have settled things and the children live in a stable environment. Joint custody is the popular choice of parents now days but in the past the mother was awarded custody 90% of the time. This site describes the short-term reactions of preschoolers, children ages 6-8, 12 years of age, adolescents above 12 years, and the long-term reactions to divorce. The site even goes on to say that the way parents handle their divorce is the way their child(ren) will manage the divorce of their parents. Fighting and speaking ill of the other spouse will only make the child feel worse and/or angrier. At the end of this site there are helpful tips to help children cope with divorce, some "advice for divorced parents", and "advice for children of divorced parents".
• SAMPLE: Preschoolers aged 3-5= Children in this age group experience feelings of anger, sadness and anxiety. ( Gardner,1992) Boys become noisier, angry and more restless. They tend to sit alone and won't play well with friends and often they disrupt group activities. Girls are angry too - but usually try to become "little adults". Girls are concerned with good behavior and being neat. They may lecture others or scold them as if a parent or teacher. Both boys and girls cry more and become more demanding. At this age, they may regress and act younger than their age. They may resume behaviors previously outgrown, such as bedwetting, thumb sucking, needing a special blanket and may experience nightmares.

• http://www.aifs.org.au/external/nch/issues2.html#effect
• Even though there seems to be a low prevalence of domestic abuse it may be due to the fact that very little official data has been collected and that people do not report domestic abuse as much as they should. There are also a high number of children who witness domestic abuse that could range from abusive language to a homicide. In some domestic abuse cases the children are also caught up in the abuse- physically, sexually or emotionally. Studies have been conducted on the effects of domestic violence have on children’s behavior, cognitive, emotional and social coping abilities. The site lists the effects domestic abuse has on infants, toddlers, pre-schoolers, primary school age and adolescents. There is a list of coping abilities of children and how to prevent children from becoming psychologically damaged from witnessing domestic abuse.
• SAMPLE: Children's responses to witnessing and/or experiencing domestic violence between parents vary considerably. No typical reactions emerge, although there is ample evidence that exposure to domestic violence can and often does influence children's behavior detrimentally. However, at various stages of their development, children are differentially able to understand and cope with what is happening between their parents.

• http://www.omsys.com/mmcd/courtrev.htm#Rcr21592
• Child sexual abuse is devastating when it happens and it is grievously underreported to the proper authorities. The timing of sexual abuse is to be taken seriously even if there are divorce proceedings going on. In divorce proceedings sexual abuse is more likely to appear and not taken any less seriously than if not reported during divorce situations. It is hard for a child to admit that he/she has been sexually abused and the child must be strong in the face of the abuser and other people who don’t believe in the child. Often children take back the accusation for fear of retribution or the child believes the family will be better again.
• SAMPLE: Why Don’t Kids Tell? Sexual abuse is a very private crime and there are seldom any witnesses. Those who may have seen the crime are often too intimidated to speak up. The child seldom feels able to tell about the crime. The victim is almost always told not to tell. Children in our society are taught to obey adults. All children need love and approval from their parents. It may be enough that the offender makes it clear that the victim will no longer be loved and accepted unless she/he submits and says nothing.

• http://www.sun-sentinel.com/news/daily/detail/0,1136,7500000000040268,00.html
• Doctors that train during "weekend" training sessions are performing cosmetic surgery. And the law does not have official sanctions requiring certain standards for performing laser surgery in general. Laser companies send advertisements to doctors (dentists and dermatologists) claiming to the doctors how much more money they can earn. It’s scary to think that more and more doctors are doing "retreats" to learn how to do laser surgery and such, and after two days these same doctors go out and perform these techniques that require a lot of practice to learn and perfect.
• SAMPLE: Anne McGan, who had suffered skin damage from long exposure to the sun, hoped that laser treatments by Dr. Madhudsudan Parikh would smooth out the wrinkles on her face. But she ended up severely disfigured when the laser burned her instead of restoring youthful looks, state health agency records state.

• http://www.flyana.com/rage.html
• Air rage has been increasing in the number of cases and the level of anger. The author of the site states that there are certain things to blame for passengers having air rage. A list of culprits Ms. Fairchild blames is the airplanes cabin environment of which exists toxic chemicals, the cramped seating, there are fewer flight attendants the customers don’t get the 100% service they want, and alcohol and altitude don’t mix which could amplify the emotions of passengers. She writes at the end to be patient and to please tolerate the airplane systems because everyone is in the same environment.
• SAMPLE: Passenger Mr. Finneran, a banker, was fined $50,000 by United Airlines after he assaulted an attendant and then defecated on a first-class food cart during a Buenos Aires-to-New York flight. United said the $50,000 was to clean up the plane.

• http://www.cpsr.org/cpsr/gender/we_cross_gender
• Internet chat is the newest thing, and many people are doing it everyday. Despite appearance, gender, race etc. people help others; the computer is blind to those variables. When people are able to write anonymously, women especially, write messages that are strongly assertive. Men in chat rooms and the like, monopolize the chatrooms. Both men and women agree that they relate to each other differently when they are in chat rooms or how men and women deal with each other on the internet. But women are still slightly discriminated against in certain ways by men in chat rooms or when talking one to one.
• SAMPLE: Both women and men felt that women had more of a "presence" online. It is easier for women to make their voices heard online than in a face-to-face conversation where, as one man said, "women [are] able to drive their point home without the familiar patronizing/trivializing dismissal characteristic of many face-to-face encounters." There are other anecdotal problems with CMC that my respondents did not discuss. For instance, some women report that their suggestions are ignored as much in online conversations as in face-to-face ones. As well, "flaming," a CMC term for the posting of angry messages, is an online phenomenon, which tends to be associated with men.

• http://www.infotoday.com/lu/jul00/hitchcock.htm
• Now that the internet is more popular than ever people can be threatened by anonymous cyberstalkers easier and may not have the ability to do anything about it. There are instances of harassment so frightening because it went beyond an aggravation to name calling, repetitive e-mail harassment and even the victim being followed around the internet by the person.
• SAMPLE: Case example 1- In 1999, "Nanci" went into a Worcester, Massachusetts, romance chat room. Another chatter commented that he did not like her user name. She defended herself and soon the two began arguing with each other in the chat room. But the argument didn’t end. Each time Nanci tried to log onto the chat room, her harasser was there, waiting for her, and became more aggressive. At one point, he told her he’d hired someone else in the chat room to beat her up; another time he posted information he’d found out about her online—who her father was and where she lived—then said he wouldn’t be happy until she was "6 feet under the ground."

• http://www.abuse.com/index8.html
• Environmental abuse of the forests and air and land is becoming more and more prevalent from human activity alone. Population, industrialization, automobile use are all contributing to pollution of the environment. The pollution is so rampant that it cannot keep up with the pollution and in fact is being overpowered by it. Human wastes, garbage, chemicals that we clean with and wash with are building up and polluting the air we breathe and the water we drink, even the recreational things we like to do are being polluted by our own hands. Pollution is outweighing the right disposals for it that we are poisoning our lands.
• SAMPLE: The people most vulnerable to health effects of air pollution are children, the elderly, those who work or exercise outdoors and those with chronic respiratory ailments.

 When I first ran across this issue while looking up rage on the internet it surprised me what I found. There is the stigma that strippers pretty much do what they want and then they can leave at the end of their "work day". But that is not the case, I don’t know if this is for every strip club, the strippers are so shabbily treated that there should be a better policy for them to work by!

• http://www.uri.edu/artsci/wms/hughes/catw/stripc1.htm
• In strip clubs, the dancers are used by their bosses often degraded by having to dance up against customers and perform sexual acts albeit while the customers are clothed. Strippers are told what to do and when to do it, not having free will or to be able to think of what they want to do or if they want to do something themselves. There are regulations of when they can have bathroom breaks, or they can’t sit down when working and they have to always be with customers and have the customers buy them drinks even if the stripper is not thirsty.
• SAMPLE: Stripclub activities are offered in public spaces or private rooms or other isolated parts of clubs (Forsyth and Deshotels 1997). The typical strip club scenario presents young, nude or partially nude women mingling with fully clothed male customers. They circulate through the crowd, encouraging men to buy liquor, drinking and talking with men, and soliciting and performing a variety of private dances (Prewitt 1989; Ronai and Ellis 1989). Women describe their role in the strip club as hostess, object, prostitute, therapist, and temporary girlfriend and say they are there to entertain and attract men and business for the owners.

• http://www.stayout.com/violence.html
• Just being aware of the little cues that a potentially violent co-worker may give can stop work place violence. In some places workplace homicide was the number one cause of death in 1983. Corporations or companies need to establish better workplace safety. In 1993 a report stated that personality conflicts were the leading cause of workplace violence. An employer has to take responsibility for workers violence while the worker is working; the employer may be liable for employee’s actions within the company. This site lists several ideas to help stop work place violence before it erupts into homicide.
• SAMPLE: Often times, the perpetrator's early behavior starts with stealing company supplies, stalking, slashing a colleague's tires, bomb threats, threatening or harassing telephone calls, sabotaging computer databases, or giving away or selling trade secrets.

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