0. My Proposal for TV Ratings on Anti-Unity Values (AUV)
in Gender Behavior
by Jocelyn Hostetler
1. Preface
The purpose of my previous report, Report 2, was an interactive project. It mapped the threefold self in a gender relationship. The report utilized self-witnessing observations and analyzed how gender behavior interacts in the three areas of the threefold self and how it is engaged and operative in the relationship. I picked an opposite sex couple, whom are my good friends, and applied the unity model and other ideas we are studying in class to their relationship.
Report 2 allowed the couple to expand their concepts and ideas about their relationship. It potentially allowed the couple to grow in their relationship. It permitted the couple to look at their behavior, thoughts, and concepts in an objective and scientific way.
The purpose of my Report 3
2. Introduction
3. Class Oral
Presentations and Lecture Discussions
One class oral presentation I would like to discuss in this
section of my report is Suzanne Howard’s presentation on
Some ideas from the presentation on gender unity I found worthwhile to think about or were in agreement with is a quote about the theory, Conjugal Love 196, and the idea that feminizing the church does not mean men will leave or that superior rights are to be given to women. According to Reference 11 for conjugial love to happen, a husband must voluntarily put his wife’s judgment above his own. I thought about this in terms of my relationship with my parents and what it must be like for someone in a unity based relationship.
I completely respect and value my parent’s opinions and thoughts about my behavior and thoughts. I take their ideas above my own and put their judgment above my own, because my parents have a unique relationship with me that no other person has. I think the same kind of voluntary action that I utilize while putting my parent’s judgment above my own is the same kind of voluntary action that husbands use on their wives.
“It is instinctive in a wife’s love to unite her husband’s will to her own, for in this way a wife becomes one who belongs to her husband, and the husband one who belongs to his wife. Thus the two become one person”
This quote from the oral presentation was worthwhile for me to think about because I think it would be nice to feel this way about another person. I actually do not know if two people can become one person but it is sort of a beautiful concept to ponder. The concept that two people can agree in all things and develop a deep unity that can surpass even death is great stuff. This unity would take precedence over all other things in life. Developing this unity would simultaneously begin a bond with the creator of man and woman. WOW!
A couple ideas I disagreed with or about which I was not clear in my own mind was the justification of why conjugial love does not come to us automatically and that the lord rewards the couple in a conjugial love relationship by creating one angelic mind out of two imperfect people. I had so many questions running through my head after thinking about these ideas.
If our evil tendencies we inherited from our parents can only be broken down by a person being born anew by the Lord’s help, a process called regeneration, and if these tendencies and proneness to evils are unbroken, but is reinforced by a succession of parents, becoming more prone to evils, and eventually every kind of evil, then I pose the question, if this were true, why aren’t more people being born anew by the Lord’s help? If the Lord created man and woman then why are there so many other religions out there? Are Buddhists, Taoists, and Muslims wrong? What are all the people that do not believe in the Lord doing wrong? What about people in the world that do not read the bible and have exposure to Christianity, do they not get to experience conjugial love? Are all the homosexuals in the world wrong? My father is a homosexual, is he wrong and do I need to not accept his lifestyle because he is not living up to his full potential? Does the Lord think my father can change? How is my father suppressing his “strongest desire” to be united in a conjugial love in a marriage relationship? What is heaven like for him? Did my father pass on evil to me? This whole “Lord” and creator of man thing is a little bizarre and seems far-fetched.
Another class oral presentation that interested me was
Brigitlynn Duclos’s on
Another idea I found worthwhile was that conversational style is both a consequence and indicator of ethnicity, including how and what meaning is expressed during conversation. I am in agreement with this idea. Moreover, I think it is important to constantly remind yourself of this idea when communicating. It will allow for a better understanding of the ideas and motivations behind what is being verbalized.
I did not disagree or was not unclear about any ideas discussed in the presentation. I understood what Brigitlynn discussed and agreed with all the ideas.
Another oral presentation I would like to discuss in this
report is Joshua Kent’s on
A couple ideas on gender unity that I found worthwhile to think about or were in agreement with was the topic of alignment or status and status among people of the same gender. I think alignment and status among people of the same gender is related to gender unity because where the speaker stands in an immediate social group related directly with behavior in conversations. If a goal is gender unity with the person you are speaking with, an alignment is an important part of that. If gender unity was my goal I would be sure and align my style of conversation with the person I am in dialogue with. I would even align my body to be in alignment with theirs so the other person would feel that they have my full and undivided attention. I think alignment is an important facet of gender unity.
A few ideas I disagreed with or about which are not clear in my own mind is the idea of gender related to display, not identity and the idea of ideas.
According to the presentation, Donna Williams is a woman with autism and spoke as a male or female by imitating what she had heard from others in society. This “imitation” supported the claim that gender is related to behaviors that are chosen, not of identity. I believe that gender is related to behavior but ALSO related to identity. I am sure I am a woman. I do not choose to behave like a woman all the time but no matter how I behave, I will still be a woman physically and physiologically. I do not think I would be able to change that even if I change my behavior. I think that no matter how I talk, my identity will always be to the female gender, even if I pretend to talk like a man. My thoughts might change but I would still be a woman internally.
What are all ideas that we are presented with, in not only Joshua’s presentation but also everywhere? I am confused and unclear because I have so many different ideas and concepts filtering through my mind on a daily basis. I get these things from college classes, colleagues, professionals, books, television, and radio. What does it all mean? What if we are all wrong? What if everyone is right? What if we are right and wrong? How do we REALLY know? It just seems like so many thinks make sense but at the same time make no sense at all. I confuse myself on a daily basis. The more gain knowledge, the more unclear things seem to me. I have many philosophical questions running through my head quite often...what is life, why am I writing this paper, does it matter; these are some of the things I am unclear about.
4. My Proposal for AUV Ratings on TV (Anti-Unity Values)
AUV (anti-unity values) Ratings is a scale to help a person identify any behavior in the media (i.e. television, movie, radio) that promote barriers or resistance to the conjoining or unification process among an opposite sex couple.
5. Conclusion
Gender relationships reflect the cultural beliefs and practices within a society. Our societies portrayal of gender relationships on television reflect the society in which they
exist. We live in a patriarchal society. This male-dominated, hierarchy structure is reflected in the media. This assignment helped me to identify social and cultural attitudes in our society regarding gender relationships because it increased my exposure to new ideas and concepts. I rarely watched television for any reason but pure pleasure. This assignment forced me to watch television for experimental purposes. It forced me to pick apart dialogue and other forms of behavior and relate it to the model of gender unity we are studying in class.
This new awareness is useful because I have a new method of how to look at television programs. This new awareness of anti-unity values that are promoted in the media allows me evaluate how these AUV’s affect me and other people.
6. Future Generations
My advice to future generations is starting your work early. It will make this process of writing the reports a much more fluid process. I would recommend writing at least a paragraph a day so you are always thinking about the topics and it is fresh in your mind. It is necessary to start early because preparing and writing the reports is very time consuming. A person can go as deep as they want with the subject matter so it is a question of how much do you want to apply yourself.
Dr. James provides an open forum where every student can
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matter of his class. Moreover, his web
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of you questions.