I previously finished Report 1 which was based on Gender Unity. Our class needed to look up certain articles given to us by our instructor, Dr. James, and pertain them to the Unity Model as best as we could. Our report was set up with a Preface, Introduction, Annotated Bibliography on Gender Unity, Conclusion, and Future Generation. The Annotated Bibliography section was the area where we had a certain amount of articles to look up in four different categories.

~How the assignment helped you identify with your own ideas of gender relationships?

~Could the approach to "unity" have a significant impact on the future of gender relationships in our society?

If you would like to see how Report 1 turned out for me, you can go to the link above. You can also check out the answers I gave for the conclusion section as well.

As for Report 2, I will be mapping the Threefold Self in my Gender Relationship. I need to do self-witnessing observations in three areas. These areas consist of: Dominant or Control Areas (Sensorimotor Self), Negotiation Areas (Cognitive Self), and the Trust and Mutual Dependence (Affective Self). I will also explain the difference between man and woman and how they react in these areas from my experiment. The set up is similar to Report 1, with it starting out with a Preface and Introduction. The third section is the difference, In Report 2 we have a section called My Experiment, and it consists of 3 sections. These three sections are Design, Data, and Analysis. Then like Report 1 again, there is a Conclusion and Future Generation section.

Defining Self-Witnessing would be observing yourself in every action based on Cognitive, Affective, and Sensorimotor effects. Some examples of these from the Generational Curriculum would be:

-He based his report on his feelings, thoughts and actions during that particular week. He collects his data morning, noon, and night. He also related his report to the Threefold self model.

Lisa Naka in G-19 also showed self-witnessing strategies throughout her Report 1. She had to take her actions that she performed in WebCT, Exploring the Generational Curriculum, and registering and emailing the instructor. She needed to observe all of her steps cognitively, affectively, and using the sensorimotor to get the results she needed.

Defining the Threefold Self is a "joint product of biology, culture, and socialization in gender relationships."

An individual's threefold self is based on "the affective self which effects feelings. Secondly it is based on the cognitive self which effects thinking and reasoning. Lastly the sensorimotor self which effects sensations, perceptions, and motor acts performed in gender relationships." Some examples from the threefold self in the Generational Curriculum would be:

~Jujubee's Emotional Spin Cycle: The Four Options and the Two Bridges (G-16)

-"She focused on the Threefold self as the emotional spin cycle and the four options linking it together by the two bridges."

~Naito did this report in G-19 and it related to the Threefold self in the ways of learning behaviors cognitively, affectively and using the sensorimotor actions but at the same time it related to Self-witnessing or self-efficacy as well.

I will be doing my experiment on the gender relationship among my husband and myself. I have to collect data or observations in three areas of the threefold self (Cognitive, Affective, & Sensorimotor). After I observe these areas, I will analyze and discuss what occurred.

-Throughout my experiment, I looked into the Dominant or Control areas of my relationship with my husband. I read questions given out loud and we would discuss who was more dominant in these particular areas. Next I looked into the Negotiation Areas or our relationship and did the same with some questions given. Finally I looked into the Trust and Mutual Dependence of our relationship and did the same with some questions given in that particular section.

Who gets to hold the Remote Control?	Husband *	Wife	When it comes to this, my husband usually holds the remote because we really do not channel surf. We usually decide together on what to watch so it isn't a control issue.
Whose choice prevails in what to watch (home movies)	Husband *	Wife *	In this situation, we are really equal when it comes to watching a certain show or movie, because we have similar taste in movies etc.
Who chooses restaurants to go too?	Husband *	Wife *	This is another area that we are equal in deciding where to go for dinner. We really like similar foods and we are both willing to compromise if the other is in the mood for something particular.
What interaction dynamics goes on in each other's appearance? (clothing, hair etc.)	Husband *	Wife *	We really are not controlling when it comes to how one wears their hair, or what clothes to wear. If we do say something to the other it is just to help them, not a anger issue of them wearing something
How much influence is each partner willing to take from the other regarding how to behave with friends or family?	Husband	Wife	In this situation I am more willing to take into account behavior in front of friends and family out of respect for my husband. However, when it comes to being around friends, my husband doesn't take into account behavior issues as well. He will joke around with friends etc a great deal.
How do they talk to each other and what does the talk reveal about their cognitive and affective self?	Husband	Wife	When it comes to talking and dealing with the cognitive and affective self, I am more aware of how my husband would feel and what he might think when I say certain things. Due to this I look out for his feelings more. When it comes to my husband, he doesn't always think before he speaks, so sometimes he can say things in ways he didn't necessarily mean. On the other hand he has gotten better over the time together.

How do the two partners see each other's dominance or control motivations?	Husband *	Wife *	In our relationship, there is not one who controls or dominates the other. We have equal control in what happens in our relationship.
How do they use the "equity philosophy" in their relationship? (sharing, work, duties)	Husband *	Wife *	For the most part we both negotiate and agree on chores around the house. Yet we still have disagreements when it comes to certain things not being done, but this doesn't occur too often.
How does each react when one shows motivation to influence the other (e.g. in changing habits, beliefs, loyalties, personality traits)	Husband	Wife *	When it comes to motivating one another in good ways, we are both very encouraging towards one another. We always help in whatever ways we can to motivate the other. As for changing bad habits etc. I able to change easier. My husband has a harder time changing habits he has.
What does each partner think of the other's opinions (dislikes them, ignores them, isn't interested, argues against them, etc. or opposite of these)	Husband *	Wife *	I always take my partner's opinions into account because I like to know how he feels about certain things going on or just advice he may give. I am a very good listener when he needs to talk about anything. As for my husband, he has more work in this area because he tends to have more selective hearing when I am telling him a story. When it comes to getting advice, he is usually good about this but can get easily distracted. I don't believe he isn't interested in me, he just finds thing that grab his attention more that I do sometimes.
What do the two seriously disagree or argue about?	Husband	Wife	The only time I tend to get upset with my husband or argue with him is when he acts disrespectful around friends. He doesn't mean to be intentionally mean, he usually is doing it in a joking manner, but it gets irritating after awhile and can bother me. The other thing that may cause us to argue would be finances. Such as buying large expenses that is out of our budget, this can be either one of us.
How much agreement or disagreement exists between the partners regarding God and the afterlife together (or separate)?	Husband	Wife	We usually agree when God is brought up. We are both Catholics and have the same beliefs. When it comes to the afterlife together, we don't really discuss it too much in depth. We do know that we want to be together in the afterlife though.
How much are the two partners intellectually influenced by each other?	Husband *	Wife *	I find that we are both influenced intellectually by one another. We always learn new things from each other. Whether I explain something I learned in school to him, or if he explains something to me he learned at work, we both enjoy learning from one another.

How motivated is each partner to remember relationship things (important dates, celebrations, joint memories, intimate events, the preference of the other for various things)	Husband	Wife	We are both good at remembering important dates such as birthdays, anniversaries etc. My husband is really good at surprising me on important dates. Celebrations, joint memories and intimate events are also remembered well. When it comes to the preference of the other for various things, we are both good at this. Yet, I go out of my way to get certain things he enjoys.
How motivated is each to the idea of putting the partner ahead of everything else-friends, family, career, attachments?	Husband	Wife	I am good at doing this, sometimes too good. I am not trying to sound conceited but I always put my husband first no matter what the situation or circumstance may be. As for him, he does do the same for the most part, but he has little projects he does that he likes to spend all of his free time on instead of doing things with his wife.
How committed is each partner to the idea of total unity (e.g. feeling free to raise and talk about any topic, feeling motivated to eliminate all disagreements between them by wanting to change for the sake of the other) ?	Husband	Wife	We both find that total unity would be a nice idea. We always feel free to talk about any topic, and we would like to eliminate all disagreements. However totally changing yourself of what you feel and believe for the sake of the other is a more difficult area. The reason for this is because we both want have our own feelings or opinions about things. We do however do things with respect of one another but totally doing everything in our life this way can be difficult

~What is the difference in the way the man and the woman react to this list? If the two discuss it together, do they agree or not? Which items do they disagree on and why?

The difference among my husband and myself in relation to the list above is where we disagree on finances, when my husband jokes around with his friends too much, disrespectfully. Yes when we discuss together any issues or just the list above we agreed more than not. As for the implications above, a majority of these actions, feelings or thoughts, etc have gone on throughout our relationship. They have not just came about. When this project came up however we discussed each of the items above clearly and thought about each before we came to conclusions.

1) These observations help me in assessing the level of my relationship by: looking at the disagreements among our relationship and trying to better these problems so the disagreements can diminish.

2) Explaining these observations, they show areas that can be worked on and also show areas that are good in our relationship. Things are this way maybe because our relationship is still beginning in a way, three years is a long time to be married but look at those that have been married for 20-30yrs. This can relate to Report 1 where I discussed the verbal of the threefold self. The reference I used for this topic in my Report 1 was: Behavioral Technology of Discourse Analysis

3) I now understand gender relationships in a clearer view in terms of unity, equity, biology, and culture. In terms of unity I can see how people can have difficulties reaching this level and how there are some positives and some negatives that go along with it. Equity seems real clear to me only because I feel this is the level I am in with my husband. We are both on equal levels with one another, but we can also have disagreements from time to time. Biology is clear in the fact that men and women are definitely different in the way they view relationships, and how they are involved in them. Culture is clear because men and women are seen in different levels concerning dominance. Luckily in America women are free a strong dominance issue. Not saying all relationships in America are free from this problem.

4) The implications from my data is that there isn't a strong dominance level from one over the other. The sensations from one another show how we should act towards each other. We are on an equal level in every category I observed (cognitive, affective and sensorimotor). We are good at negotiating ideas a majority of the time. We are very strong in the trust and mutual dependence area, yet there are always some small areas we could work on.

5) Other issues? The only thing that may be brought up in a relationship not at the unity model yet may be how much quality time is spent together. I know females need quality time with their husbands and some more than others. So this can become an issue for some relationships. In ours however, we make sure we have at least once a week where we do something together, such as going to see a movie or dinner just something to do together. Early in relationships, couples tend to be more clingy to one another and want every second of their day to be with their partner. We are not like that anymore, not saying we were not in that stage though.

This assignment helped me identify my ideas and understanding of gender relationships at a clear definite perspective. When doing this assignment on my own relationship, I get a better look at how relationships are and understand the differences and agreements much better. I was able to see and feel agreements and disagreement. This was very useful in my view because I could see areas that need some improvement in my own relationship with my husband. We were also able to look back and think of how we used to react to issues in the past compared to now and we have improved in that. My views have changed from the beginning of the semester because at first; I felt very strongly about achieving the unity model ,or looking at what would be the best way to achieve it. Now I still look for ways to help my relationship grow, but I don't feel this model can be reached as easily as making your husband do everything you feel is necessary. I understand a husband should want to do as much as he can to help his wife be happy, but men and women are different. They will have disagreements from time to time because we all have our own opinions about certain things.

I suggest to the future generations that the next step in investigating this topic further is to look into your own relationships not matter what type and see how to better them. If you are not in a relationship look at some of the areas of disagreement among G-20 Report 2 and see what you would do if in a relationship. When in a relationship look at the disagreements and try to work on the source of the problem, so you can make it better. I think this is good to do whether you believe in the Unity Model Theory or not. For some more advice, read over some of the G-20's Report 1, to get a better concept of this topic. You can also look under Dr. James' Lecture Notes; he gives some detailed understanding of the model. Good LUCK!!