By Mark Tom
Fall 2002 Generation 17
Dr. Leon James, Instructor
The following body of work is a bibliography of articles that discuss the differences between men and women concerning relationships. I chose this topic because I like other have always been curious about the opposite sex. Throughout history society has placed many stereotypes on men and women, how to act how to dress, how to feel, the list goes on. The problem I faced was not on finding differences; it was on understanding the various differences.
It is difficult to discuss the differences between men and women without understanding the differences individually. If you ever observe men and women you will easily see the physical and biological differences between the two genders. What you won’t see is the psychological differences. My bibliography illustrates the differences between men and women individually as well as the contrasting views they share together biologically as well as psychologically.
Differences between men and women go well beyond affecting just relationships. The differences between men and women and how they handle themselves in situations affects the way they may handle themselves in the workplace. Varying emotional states expressed by the different genders allow for varied actions performed in the workplace. Emotions are main components of how people handle themselves in the workplace, unstable individuals are the main cause of workplace violence, something that is a main concern in our society today.
The overall content of my first item for my annotated bibliography deals with the differences between men and women in regards to relationships. The internet-source that I used dealt with rituals of apologies, feedback, and opposition. The overall message from the site is, understanding the way men and women communicate with each other. Many marriage counselors will not stress enough to their patients the importance of communication. Every relationship is centered around communication, more then likely the failed relationships are the ones that lack the proper communication skills necessary.
The site explains the way women and men go about using the words “I’m sorry.” According to Tannen, women tend to say “I’m sorry” more frequently than men, but often what they mean is “I’m sorry that happened,” not “I apologize.” Women in essence are often simply lending concern and empathy to the other individual, in an attempt to establish a connection.
My initial reaction to the idea was that I was stunned to think that we have that much capacity to think in such a complex way. It is interesting to see how researchers will analyze men and women to what they actually mean when saying certain phrases. As an adult, I realize why researchers are so interested in what men and women actually mean when they say certain phrases. In many of my relationships I failed to realize what the underlying message to a certain comment my mate made, which ultimately lead to an argument.
I thought the research was very interesting though. While I was reading the article I began to think if that’s what I really meant when saying sorry. I do feel that men do not actually avoid apologies. I believe it is more that men do not really know what they are apologizing for. Society has raised men and women to encompass totally different gender roles, because of this I believe men were given the responsibility to be more apologetic. Although most arguments are stemmed from a certain act that the man performed which was inappropriate I believe men in general do not know why they are apologizing for certain mistakes that they cause.
After reading the article, I believe that the author is right about women, that women are often simply lending concern and empathy to the other individual. I do not believe that men in general avoid apologies; instead like I stated previously I believe that they say sorry too much without meaning it. I believe that men feel that if their mate hears the words “I’m sorry” it will automatically get them off the hook. So the main problem I see is not men avoiding say they are sorry, but more that men need to understand the behavior that is undesired and that, that is the reason why they are saying they are sorry, not just because saying sorry is socially right.
I believe it is useful. It is important as Tannen says to realize the differing ways women and men think about apologies. By doing so it allows reflection on how often and quickly you apologize yourself. Through realization you are about to acknowledge and take responsibility for your own actions when you do make a mistake.
I found this article using the web search engines. I organized my search by using key words and imputed them into the search file using google.com. I searched “differences between men and women in relationships.” Using only these key words I was able to gain access to many websites regarding my topic of choice. I used google.com because I am very comfortable with the search engine. The applications are very user friendly and allows me the best opportunity to sort through information efficiently.
Searching for my topic was not very difficult. I knew the main key words I was searching for to enter by using the instructions for the annotated bibliography. The most difficult part was reading though the articles to find relevant information for my topic. The Internet is full of interesting facts on the topic I was searching, but only a select few actually met the set criteria I was looking for.
Summary: Understanding the Differences between Men and Women
The site that I looked up dealt with “the differences between men and women.” This site deals not only with psychological aspects, but also with physical aspects as well. The physical differences between men and women provide functional advantages and have survival value. Men usually have a much stronger upper body then women. A man’s skull is almost always thicker and stronger than a women’s. “The stereotype that men are more "thick-headed" than women is not far fetched. A man’s "thick headedness", and other anatomical differences have been associated with a uniquely male attraction to high-speed activities and reckless behavior that usually involve collisions with other males or automobiles.”
The site explains how men and women approach problems with similar goals but with different considerations. While men and women can solve problems equally well, their approach and their process are often quit different. This can be seen in everyday situations. Women always seem to be working out a plan of action before opening their mouth or taking action. Men on the other hand like to jump right into it. They jump without thinking and they often open their mouth without thinking, often saying things that hurt the situation rather then help. The message that the article is sending is that although men and women vary in psychological means as well as physical aspects, we must accept our differences to live a more fulfilling life.
My initial reaction to this site was that it was very informative. I was not only limited to the psychological views and differences but was also given the opportunity to see the more obvious but equally important physical aspects. On thing in the site that caught my eye was the way the author addressed relationships between men and women. One thing that I caught my eye was when the author stated “Men and women approach problems with similar goals but with different considerations.” I thought that was very interesting. It made me think that it is not the goal that is the problem between men and women, it is merely the path that we take in accomplishing the goal.
Relationships between men and women are not impossible or necessarily difficult. Problems simply arise when we expect or assume the opposite sex should think, feel or act the way we do. In general, men and women consider and process information differently. Both sexes reach similar conclusions, but it is the way we process the information and approach it that the author describes as the problem. Due to our difference in thinking men and women occasionally come out with two different outcomes to situations. It’s not that men and women live in completely different realities. Rather, our lack of knowledge and mutual experience gives rise to our difficulties.
One section in the site addressed the idea of the way men and women think. I fully agree with the idea that, men and women can reach similar conclusions and make similar decisions, but the process that they use can be quite different and I some cases can lead to entirely different outcomes.
I believe it is useful in the sense that it allows the reader to recognize there is a difference between men and women. By recognizing that there is a difference allows us as the reader to find a solution or an alternative to the problem.
For my second source I again used a web search engine. I used yahoo.com instead though, but was given similar sites to browse though. I also used different key words in my search. I instead used “how men and women deal with relationships.” The sites that I received varied, but very minimally. Each site that I visited various very slightly but what I found from browsing through each site is that each article has its own unique information, which adds to the colorfulness of my bibliography.
The difficulty was again very minimal. I was able to browse though a variety of sites dealing with the difference between men and women. The hardest part is always cleaning out the irrelevant sources to find the very important or supportive sites. I believe that my searching ability is fairly developed due to the skills I learned earlier in high school. Because of my prior use of the computer I have not felt any forms of frustration while searching.
Source 3: Relationship Problems that Exist between Men and Women
The summary deals with relationship problems that exist between men and women. It makes many references to the idea that men are from mars and women are from Venus. By understanding that both genders are very different the article attempts to get to the roots of the main problem to achieve a balance between men and women. “Without the awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odds with each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex because we have forgotten this important truth.”
In his books, Gray describes men as Martians who hid in caves to avoid confrontations and women as Venusians who need to openly express all thoughts and feelings. This difference in communication style is what causes the most problems in a relationship.
My initial reaction to the constant references to the book Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus, made me feel like I could not fully understand the analogies since I did not read the book. What I did realize is that many of the sites often refer to one main problem, communication. Communication seems to play a big role in many of the problems plaguing relationships. Gray explains that, “We expect the opposite sex to be more like ourselves. We desire them to "want what we want" and "feel the way we feel." If this is true I can see now how this can play a big role in problems with relationships.
One of the outcomes of some workshops that were done included better lines of communications between the two genders, it was much more open because each gained a better perspective on each other’s thoughts and needs. This caught my attention the most because it show that there is a way for the two genders to gain an understanding for each other. John Gray uses his book to ideally explain how differences between sexes can prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships.
My opinion on the matter is that I do strongly believe that men and women can understand each other. If they can do something about understanding each other the problems will seem much more easier to handle. I used to think that fighting with my girlfriend over certain matters were dumb and a waste of time. As I grew up I began to realize the benefits from our arguments. Although I do not promote fighting with a significant other, I do feel that if both parties learn from arguing, fighting and having different views is beneficial to the growth of a relationship.
I thought that the article was very useful because it contained research done on the two genders that related to my topic, which are the differences between men and women. I thought that this was one of the funniest views in the excerpts from Gray’s book. “Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do. We have forgotten that men and women are supposed to be different. As a result our relationships are filled with unnecessary friction and conflict.” I liked this statement because I see it everyday in my relationship with my girlfriend. I occasionally believe without thinking, that my mate knows what it is I want or desire.
While searching for my topic on the differences between men and women I came across an article that dealt with the fact that men are from mars, and women are from Venus. I browsed through google.com to obtain this article. The article and the website was purely based on excerpts from a book written by John Gray. The site did not contain the whole book, but did provide important information from the book that I could use to support and add to my information dealing with differences between men and women.
The search was very simple since I used a search engine to find the article. Searching for this site or specific information dealing with my topic took me no longer then an hour. I thought that the hardest part was distinguishing which part of the research done in the article was most relevant to my subject. The most time consuming part of searching is reading all the way through an article that may be a few pages and finding nothing. If you are strapped for time searching through all the information provided on the Internet can cause minor frustration and anxiety because of the time constraint.
Summary: How Women Deal with Relationships
The article I found deals mainly with the way women engage in a relationship. It deals with the emotional expressions portrayed by women while dealing with a relationship. The article also covers briefly small expressions of emotional support that women appreciate. Again, like the many I have come across this article places great emphasis on communication. “The ultimate way that a woman feels secure and knows that her husband finds her worthy is through his communications and his actions.” Unlike many other sources on differences between men and women this site discusses in more depth the rise and fall of the women if the man does not show the love that she requires. The author explains the women will overdue herself in order to feel loved and will eventually breakdown.
A woman feels emotionally supported when you listen. Unfortunately when a man tries to listen, often he either tries to solve her problems or he feels blamed. Instead of thinking of your reactions, you can focus on listening. The article believes that if you offer your support as a compassionate listener, you will have peace in your home; your tenderness will open her heart. Because this site emphasizes that a man must make a women feel valued, the author explains his view on how good communication can show a woman that she is valued. “He communicates that he values her by taking the time to listen to her problems, and by talking with her about his life. When he helps her with the daily chores of life, she feels loved.”
I believe my initial reaction was intrigue. The article discusses emotional support for women, and explains how men speak 2000 words a day, while women speak 7000 approximately. The article goes on to explain that men principally talk to relay facts, make a point, or achieve a goal, women speak for all of these reasons as well as for many other reasons such as to relieve stress, create intimacy, and form a bond. Until doing such extensive research on the relationships between men and women, I had no idea that there was so much research done to divide the two sexes. Extensive research shows the very intricate differences between men and women, psychologists as myself attempt to take the data from these researches and resolve the problems between men and women.
I thought this article was interesting. It pointed out many techniques that allow a man to emotionally support his woman. May it be, just hugging her to display affection or taking her side when she is upset with someone, there are many ways a man can emotionally help with a woman’s problems. Thorough the many relationships that I have been in, I have learned some valuable lessons in how to treat a woman. I learned just as much from the failed relationships then from the successful ones. One lesson I learned was that women are complicated individuals. Before you judge my comment, let me explain.
One relationship I was in, the girl appreciated the fact that I spoke my mind. I did not just go along with what she was saying, I allowed myself to have an opinion when I felt necessary. I figured that this was what she liked about me, my openness to speak my mind. I realized that there are certain situations were the characteristics that they are fond of, do not always apply to every situation. After asking for my opinion on a dispute she was having with a friend I responded the way that I truly believed. My girlfriend on the other hand was not looking for my opinion on the matter, but for my support for what she believed was right. To make a long story short I got the silent treatment the rest of the day and at the same time learned a valuable lesson about women.
I believe the information on expressions of emotional support is very useful to a male reader. Many of these expressions are very basic ideas, but they are so often forgotten. One of the main ideas stated is “Treat her like you did when you first met her.” I believe this is one of the golden rules of a relationship. Although women tell you they don’t want to be spoiled, they are mostly lying. It doesn’t mean that you have to buy them lots of things, spoiling could also be giving them all of your time. In the beginning of a new relationship you give all your time to the girl. As the relationship continues you begin to give less time and take advantage of your girlfriend always being there. By treating them like you did when you first met them, this allows them to feel like they are of less value to you.
This is an important idea. If as a partner you can achieve this idea you will never feel like you did not support them emotionally. When you first met your partner, you tried as hard as you could to impress her and to be there for her. In this article about expressions of emotional support the author is ideally telling the reader that trying your best to impress her is similar to displaying emotional support.
To locate this article I used a web search engine. Using google.com, I was able to locate many articles on relationship views between men and women. Each article varied in content, but they all similarly stuck to the same idea of difference between men and women. This article was quite useful though. It did not combine both sexes into one gigantic paragraph of differences. Instead broke down each paragraph allowing each one to deal with a different issue. One dealt with just men, one with just women, and one that allowed for a comparison of the two.
Finding the article was not difficult. Searching using web search engines makes finding sources very easy. It directly takes you to articles that deal with the key words you are searching for. The Internet is filled with various search engines now. When I first was introduced to the Internet in high school the search engines were very limited, and the ones that did exist were not always the most user friendly. Today there are so many guides and books that help us navigate through the Internet that searching for information is a breeze.
Source 5: How men Deal with Relationships
My previous article dealt with emotional support for women. This article deals with the other side of the coin, the way men approach relationships. As everyone knows neither of the two species approach anything the same. The article deals with these differences between men and women by focusing on the male point of view. The site discusses that the root of a man’s internal psychological structure is his desire to be competent and his fear that he is not. In essence, he is always trying to find opportunities to prove himself, usually through achievement and power.
The article explains that at the heart of it, a man wants to touch the honest truth, that you love him, that he is “the one” for you. He wants to feel that he inspires happiness in you and that you accept him, trust him, and appreciate him. At his depth a man needs to know that he makes a positive difference in your life. Otherwise he doesn’t even want to live. When a man can actually recognize that his partner is truly happy with him, he is able to sort out his internal struggles of being of value.
While reading this article I found many aspects that they discussed relating to the way I react to relationships. I do, believe that if I look into the eyes of my loved one and see love, I would definitely feel that I love them in return. As a guy I agree with the views that I need to feel that I made a positive difference in my mates life to feel of worth in the relationship. A relationship is only worth staying in if both people in the relationship can learn from each other. The moment that they cannot learn from one another or they refuse to learn from one another, is the moment that the relationship turns sour.
One of the statements that I found most interesting was on the way men and women feel love. “Where a woman feels love for those who emotionally and physically support her, a man feels love in response to a woman’s gracious, and loving reactions to him.” I agree with this statement because I see it in my own relationship. For my girlfriends birthday I decorated her room with numerous amounts of flowers. In return the next day she placed in a manila folder, a long letter and a poem about how she loves me. This in itself made me feel like there was no other form of love that could match ours. The simple way she reacted to me in a letter was the most fulfilling experience in my relationship so far.
I believe that this article is very useful. I feel that for men and women to understand what they want from a mate, they must understand themselves and how they think first. Because men differ from women in what a relationship offers, men need expressions of love rather then emotional support. The article illustrates the ways in which a man knows he is loved. As I stated before the information that the site states, which is that men need expressions of love rather then emotional support holds true in many cases.
The article allows women to understand that although men think very differently from them, men are just as vulnerable in their own ways. There are times in a relationship where a man will ask a woman for her advice on a situation. One of the ultimate signs of trust and love from a man is after they finished speaking and they are waiting to hear a woman’s advice. I believe men are very egotistic and this is a prime example of their egos. The moment they wait for advice on a situation from a women marks the most vulnerable point for the man.
This article was not hard to find since it was a link from a prior site that I used. The reason I used it though was because by just discussing what I found in the section on women would not allow me to hear both sides of the story on the differences between men and women. Gaining the other side of the story was very important for me to present a non-bias view on the differences between men and women.
Because the link was from a site I used previously it was not difficult to find. I used a web search engine to find my piece on the difference between men and women in relationships. The site was named doctorkhalsa.com. Along with the differences between men and women in love, it also presents an overview of the way that men and women confront a relationship.
Source 1: Under The Gun
The article was based off of a newspaper article. The overall message is understanding and prevention of workplace violence. The article cites many incidences of workplace violence and clarifies what is physically and psychologically considered as workplace violence. Many of the sites that I visited discussed the same very issues. Prevention of workplace violence was always a main topic of discussion. “Every workday 16,400 threats are made, and 723 workers are attacked…Employers are under great pressure to respond to workplace dangers.”
Any act against an employee that creates a hostile work environment and negatively affects employee, either physically or psychologically is considered workplace violence. These acts include all types of physical or verbal assaults, threats, coercion, intimidation and all forms of harassment. These are acts that we commonly see among the workplace, it is just sad that many of the cases go unnoticed. Many workers accept the environment that they work in even though sometimes it becomes quite hostile. The lack of action by workers in the workplace adds to the continuing rise of workplace violence.
My initial reaction to the article was that it was very informative. The article thoughly examined how serious the problem is, citing statistical numbers, “723 workers are attacked”. The site cited many studies such as studies done by the American management association. The study reported that 50 percent of the companies surveyed reported experiencing incidents of threats of workplace violence in the last four years.
“Violence had occurred more than once at 30 percent of the workplaces surveyed. Twenty-five percent reported that the incident was by a current employee; 9 percent reported the problem was caused by a former employee. Forty-two percent of companies that experienced an incident began training programs compared to 18 percent that experienced no incidents. According to 25 percent, the victim ignored the warning signs.” Hard data such as this example from the text provides the reader with facts and statistics that they can actually see. It creates a more detailed report of workplace violence and forces readers to acknowledge the problem.
One part of the article that caught my eye was the explanation of a safe way to fire workers. I believe this is important because it fully gets down to the roots of workplace violence. The employees a company hires and their emotional stability allows for either a hostile or safe work environment for the company.
My first reaction was that of disbelief. I was not aware that there were as many reoccurrences of workplace violence. After reviewing the numbers accumulated by the American management association I do believe that there is a problem. Workplace violence should be allowed a second look by outsiders, it is a much bigger problem then many people believe it to be. There is not a moment that goes by that another case of workplace violence is committed. The sad part about this statement is that many victims are so scared of the consequences that they continue to allow it to go on. It is their fear that allows for workplace violence to prosper.
The info that was gathered is very useful. It allows the reader to apply statements made to sheer numbers accumulated by studies. Although it is a useful application, methods of collecting data can easily be bias and produce false claims.
The information that I collected was based off of a newspaper article. I used the state library to locate old articles from local newspapers. To acquire the information for this source, I used old articles published in the Honolulu Star-Bulletin. By searching “relationships between men and women” I was able to access a variety of articles.
Accessing quality information was very difficult. Many of the articles that I came across did not relevantly touch on the topic. Searching through newspaper articles in the library was very time consuming and tedious. I was forced to search though various slides full of old articles. To remedy the problem I had to search each slide using a trial and error method, which proved to take a long time.
Source 2: Types of Workplace Violence
The page that I used dealt with workplace violence. It did not deal with stories of workplace violence and how the author analyzed the situation. Instead the article briefly explains types of workplace violence, signals that promote dangerous situations, causes, and prevention of workplace violence. The site does not attempt to cover every sign of a dangerous situation, but it adds to the list of warning signs that many people should look out for.
There are many types of workplace violence in society. They range from criminal acts against commercial establishments, to violence in public schools. That is actually a scary thought. The idea that workplace violence can not only affect you at your work place, but also can put your children in danger while they are in school. Schools begin to seem like a very scary place now doesn’t it. If everyone really thinks about it, schools are perfect places for workplace violence. Picking on the new kid, the dumb kid, the stinky kid, the list goes on. Everyone in school is an open target to workplace violence and criticism.
My initial reaction was fear. Like I stated earlier, the idea of the types of workplace violence is a scary thought. No one is immune to workplace violence. Everyone is at danger. In school, everyone can remember the kid that got picked on a lot. Although this does not seem like a form of workplace violence, it is. It is one of the most common forms of workplace violence that is often overlooked. Teachers and officials easily overlook the problems that occur in school. I feel that catching workplace violence in school could in essence lower the rates at which workplace violence occurs in later life.
I think the most interesting part of the article is the section dealing with the causes of workplace violence. Factors such as downsizing, layoffs, lack of promotions or advancements, relationships brought to the workplace, or more obvious factors such as stress. Discontent with a job and money are factors that add up to the crimes against the workplace by employees. With the rising cost of living I do not foresee a lowering of workplace violence. The problem I see with the causes of workplace violence that leaves me nervous, is that these causes are very common in everyday life.
I believe that a stricter screening policy on new employees, or even reviews on present employees are necessary. Everyone should be evaluated for symptoms of emotional instability that may lead to workplace violence. Early detection could save a company a lot of stress and trouble from disgruntled employees.
The article was very useful. I believe it allows the reader to see the whole spectrum of workplace violence. I believe a more in-depth analysis of prevention would be necessary. As I began to realize the many aspects of workplace violence, I realized that many of the sites that I have visited list a lot of prevention, but not much on what workplace violence really is. Rarely will you find a page looking up workplace violence that covers school rage at the same time. I feel that school rage is a precursor to workplace violence and should be a necessity when discussing workplace violence.
By using yahoo.com, one of many web search engines, I was able to find this article on workplace violence. The site offered a lot of valuable information. I searched on yahoo using key words such as “workplace violence.” I think that knowing what I do now about what I am searching for and what I feel is some of the main precursors to workplace violence, that I can make a better judgment on searching for topics.
Because this was one of my later annotated bibliography searches, searching using search engines was much more comfortable. There were no difficulties in searching for useful sites on workplace violence. I believe I could have used more detailed articles on workplace violence, articles that might have challenged me to do more critical thinking. Many sites that I probably overlooked could have dealt more with the underlying roots to workplace violence. I believe like everything in history, everything repeats itself. In workplace violence I believe if we can find a basic and understandable pattern we can help contain the anger that is workplace violence.
Source 3: Anger at Desks, Latest Rage
The article is a summary dealing with anger in the workplace. The title “Anger at Desks Latest Rage” portrays the intended message of the article. The article refers to workplace rage as “desk rage,” but “desk rage” does not only refer to workplace rage. I believe “desk rage” can encompose a vast amount of different acts of rage or violence.
Today, such incidents are called “desk rage,” as if the act of sitting behind a desk triggers some brain-chemical reaction that causes one to lose it. I believe that “desk rage” actually refers to a particular sort of rage. Another example is when people talk about “road rage.”
My initial reaction to the article was flashbacks from the Xerox incident. The reason is because the article begins by talking about “going postal,” which in the old days meant an office worker went off the rails and attacked co-workers.
The idea in the article that caught my eye was when the article focused on the real meaning of “desk rage.” The article states that the underlying problem to desk or road rage is that people are just ticked off about their lives.
My opinion on the article I that people who display road rage or desk rage do contain an underlying problem. I believe that acknowledging the problem allows companies to minimize workplace violence.
I believe that other factors lead to workplace violence other then discontentment with ones own life. There is not just one factor that affects the way a person reacts to situations. To say that discontentment with one’s life is the sole reason for rage is to general.
Due to the time consuming past experience with searching through library slides I decided to search the internet for my newspaper article. I used google.com to find the homepage for the Honolulu Star Bulletin and began a search. While searching though Star-Bulletin articles, I came across this article on workplace rage. Using the online newspapers allows people to access many articles that would otherwise not be seen.
By using the internet to locate past newspaper articles I was able to save a lot of time and frustration. Searching through past articles was much quicker since I was able to do a search, which located articles that related to only key words used for my search. Locating articles on workplace rage was much easier to locate then searching for articles on men and women’s difference in relationships.
Source 4: Road Rage
The overall content of this article deals with question and answers analyzing road rage. Road rage is actually roots to workplace rage. This in a sense adds to the person’s frustration, which leads to workplace violence. There are many times that I have arrived at work very frustrated due to situations that I encountered on the way to work. I believe that after listening to one of the presentations in class that the frustration is not from the environment or the frustrating situations that I have encountered, but the people that make up my environment. Mainly the lecture dealt with the idea that we should blame others for your frustration, not the environment and the situations.
What is happening on our roads today is a symptom of pent up anger, not the cause. If you admit to having a problem when you behind the wheel please know its not what happens on the road that triggers your anger. These encounters that you endure on your way to work or to school adds to the likelihood of expressing workplace rage. I believe that road rage is a very distinct root of workplace violence. It is the first type of frustration that we encounter each day before we actually come into work.
My initial reaction was of interest. The reason I took a different look at rage was to find other external factors that may apply of add to workplace violence. I realized that not only is road rage a specific category like workplace rage is, but it is also as I labeled it an external factor that either contributes or decreases the likelihood of workplace rage.
I found the question and answer dealing with “What is the profile of a typical person that is likely to have road rage?” to be the most interesting. I thought it was interesting to see how a site stereotypes drivers that have a higher tendency to display road rage. In my life I stereotype groups of people all the time. I never thought about stereotyping the way a person drives, but now that I look at the people I suspect would display road rage, there is a consistency of similar traits that they would contain.
My feeling is that road rage does have direct correlation to workplace violence. People who demonstrate road rage have a high percentage of chance in illustrating violence or rage in the workplace. Road rage is not an independent event or workplace rage. The events leading up to your typical work day, such as driving to work is just as important to how you confront adversities as the environment that you work in. The article describes their take on how employers should protect their workers from more workplace violence. They propose a screening when applying for a job. Is this right? Is there enough evidence to show that a person who displays road rage has a higher likelihood of displaying workplace rage?
I believe it is right. Many people who illustrate road rage should be screened when applying for a job. Early detection of emotional instability or other factors that have a direct affect on workplace rage should be handled with immediately.
While searching for workplace rage using google.com, I came across this site dealing with road rage. It was interesting that I came across this site due to the fact that I was using google.com as my search engine and I was specifically looking up “workplace violence.” Because this site came up I came to the conclusion that some psychologists see a postive correlation between road rage and workplace violence. The main problem now is for me to read the various sites and decide for myself if there is a correlation or just a myth.
Searching for sites on workplace violence was quite simple. There are so many examples of workplace rage, that finding relevant examples is the most difficult factor. As I saw from citing this page is that workplace rage/violence is not just limited to these key words. Searching topics such as road rage, or even high school rage will produce similar results analyzing the key factors that add to the severity of the problem.
Source 5: The Meaning of “Anger,” how it applies to the Workplace
The site that I found dealt mainly with anger. It does not connect workplace violence with anger; it merely discusses the meaning of anger and how it applies to people. By understanding the operational definition of anger, the article hopes to inform people about symptoms as well as ways of prevention from acts that result from anger.
For most people, anger is not the core issue; it is a symptom of some degree of fear, loss of control, injustice, or significant hurt. The article ideally addresses their definition of anger and how it is incorporated into everyday society or people.
My initial reaction was that it was helpful. The article deliberately examines anger and follows it with techniques in which a person may suppress their anger.
The idea that caught my eye the most was the positive purpose of anger. The positive purpose of anger is to defend a boundary or provide enough energy to assert a right. The interesting thing about anger it that it is blind.
My opinion on the article is that it locates the problem well and localizes it to the degree that a person may analyze it and learn from it. It briefly allows the reader to learn how to harness their negative energies. Using the techniques the author believes “Over time, you’ll find that you still get angry, but that you get un-angry much more quickly.”
Understand that your expression of anger is simultaneously a therapeutic release of feelings and a way of communicating how the situation affects or affected you. The key is to find a way to express authentically without escalating, blaming, shaming, or attacking.
By searching though articles using yahoo.com I was able to come across this site. The article was useful because it gives me as a researcher a new angle to look at workplace violence. It allows me to see the ideas behind anger and how some authors perceive it.
Searching for violence in the workplace was not difficult. The most difficult part about using this site was how I was going to apply what I learned form this site to workplace violence. Because the site did not deal with workplace violence directly it made the relevancy of the article more difficult.
I challenged myself to fully understand the differences between men and women in regards to relationships. I wanted to show that men and women do not only differ physically, but also mentally and emotionally. Through all of these different characteristics can a person fully understand the differences that plague relationships.
Workplace violence is a way of expressing a discontent with an aspect of society or life. It becomes even more deeply rooted when we examine the way men and women deal with or express workplace violence due to their varying emotional and physical states. These two subjects combined call for a deeper analysis and many directions for me to take for my research project.
Why is Everyone so Cranky?
Anger At Desks, Latest Rage.
Honolulu Star Bulletin, Feb. 14, 2001
Does Anger Cause Blindness? Making Workplaces Much Better.
Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting, Relationships Overview.
Closing the Gap between Him and Her.
Honolulu Star Bulletin.
Understanding the Differences Between Men and Women.
Under the Gun.
Honolulu Star Bulletin, Nov. 6, 1999
Counseling, Coaching, and Consulting, Relationships Introduction.
Why Men Are…
Be Gender Wise, Not Foolish.
Men and Women are Different
Communication between Men and Women in the Context of the Christian Community
13. John Gray
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus