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subject: Treatment for road-rage? Date: 9/25/98 2:16 PM Hawaiian Standard Time I've been to a psychotherapist recently
for treatment of anger and frustration. When I am working on a computer
project, and encounter an unexpected difficulty, I experience frustration.
When this happens, I clench or ball my fist several times, and I feel better
afterwards. Encountering an unexpected snag makes me feel powerless, which is
not a pleasant feeling. Because I have hands that enable me to
manipulate my environment extensively, I get to thinking that I can do
anything. When I run into a situation where I can't do what I want, I
experience frustrated emotions. Balling my fist gets these frustrated
emotions outside of my body (see more below). I used to keep anger bottled up, and
never spoke up if someone was doing something that bothered me. If someone is
poking me in the stomach all the time, and he knows that it is wrong, it
becomes impossible for me to be happy. I think that anger is an emotion that
drives me to speak up and say, "You stop this right now, or
else...". That I am angry is not my fault, it's the other person's fault
for doing wrong things to me. What I need to do is to speak up about what is
making me angry. Sometimes I write letters telling people off. Sometimes I do
it anonymously. When I do that, the angry feelings have been pushed out of my
body, and I am able to have more patience with people.
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Motorcycle Safety Re: Road Rage Date: 1998/09/02 I
ride a Motorcycle... and had I not had superior brakes, I would not be able to
type this message, I'd probably be DEAD! Yup, Ready to push up daisies.. Please
people, look in your mirrors before you change lanes! Introspection
at the end of each close call identifying only the things you could have done
differently (which is all you have
control over) will make you a better and safer rider.
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Large Vehicle Avoidance Subject: Re: Driving my
car today Date: 9/22/98 2:29 PM
Hawaiian Standard Time Well,
I don't know if this really qualifies as *rage*, but it brought up an interesting
point. Like you said, it always makes me wonder just what the hell are they
thinking. It
especially makes me wonder when they cut right out in front of my trailer
pulling rig. This is an extended cab 3/4 ton 4X4 pulling a large boat on a trailer.
The total rig weighs in at around 9000 lbs. It is nearly forty feet long and
I always drive with headlights on for added visibility. Are they asleep?
Maybe drunk or blind? Maybe they just have a death wish. Never ceases to
amaze me. "58"
is spam blocker.
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Pet Peeves Driving
Pet Peeves
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Why Do We Rush Subject: Re: lack of
RAGE? How can this BE? Date: 9/5/98 8:42 AM
Hawaiian Standard Time Leave
for wherever earlier, REMEMBER where you are going and THINK if time-saving
is even an issue....I've noticed that in my own road rage...I'll start fuming
on the way to the store on Saturday morning...I've got ALL frigging day, but
I'll be ready to kill. My
theory is that technology and society have created a lifestyle where everyone
is rushing to meet an overload of commitments daily-thus they feel
rushed....think about how many commercials on TV and Radio refer to
"Your Busy/hectic/ schedule..." and so on. We're constantly being
programmed to "higher productivity" and increased
"efficiency" for the Corporate Pseudo Deity and I'm sick of it. So
if I am slowed down, it's because I've made a decision to REBEL! I'm going to
SLOW down and Smell the Carbon Dioxide, damn it!!!
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Stress Factor Subject: Re: lack of RAGE?
How can this BE? Date: 9/6/98 6:08 PM
Hawaiian Standard Time How
very true, Weird Song Woman. As
an ex-mortician, we'll all get there, some a little faster than others. Big
companies what big profits, (nothing wrong with that) but at the expense of
the people who make big companies big profits. Work
harder, faster and burn out after you have replaced yourself with two more
like you when you started. Once we (big company) have squeezed the life out
of you, GO TO HELL. Does
anyone else have the feeling that we are all being laid off because no one is
buying, therefore more lay-off. Less buying, Get the picture? And now get
behind the wheel of your vehicle and think happy thoughts. While the car
ahead of you is pissing you off by just being there. Until
next time, safe driving.
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Irritating Types?
Subject: Re: Fellow
ragers unite! Date: 8/31/98 6:12 PM Hawaiian
Standard Time Gentlemen,
I need your input. What type of "driver" (I use that word loosely)
causes you the most frustration: Gramps or Soccer Mom? Let
the debate begin! Neither
of the examples you cited are out to intentionally cause trouble. Indeed,
they may cause some agrivation, but usually are not even aware that they are
doing so. The ones who cause the most irrational emotion to be displayed by
their fellow travellers are the 'self appointed traffic cops'. The
ones who intentionally like to play rolling road block. The
ones who must force their will upon others at any expense, even if it means
getting innocent bystanders killed by the actions of those whom they enrage. "59"
is spam block.
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Cycling Rage Subject:Re:
Road Rage After
reading the thread on the cyclist who murdered the woman, it got me thinking.
I don't condone at all what he did, but I can empathize with at least a
fraction of the frustration he may have felt. Sometimes I want to get off my
bike and confront the person who almost hit me by their inconsiderateness.
Sometimes when I get to work, I am seething with frustration. I don't like it
that these small things get to me so much... so how do you all deal with road
rage?"
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Evading The Police Subject: Re: Evading
Cops Date: 9/24/98 2:11 PM
Hawaiian Standard Time Anybody
ever ditch a cop on your tail? I
did a couple of lose-em maneuvers as described by the original poster, but
only one was to evade actual hot pursuit: I
was travelling home late at night, over a relatively new stretch of semi-rural
4-lane highway. It was a full moon, and the weather was clear. I had recently
added some engine tweaks to the moderately Dinanized BMW M6 I was driving at
the time, and wanted to see if I could tell the difference. As I watched the
speedometer climb, I tried not to think about loose lug nuts, blowouts and
the like. I got up to an indicated 160MPH, when I figured I'd had enough, and
let off. [1] As
I was coasting back past 150, I passed the only other car on the road in my
direction - a white sedan. I didn't realize it was a county sheriff until I
was past him. He was pretty surprised too, as the lights didn't come on for a
few seconds.[2] I
thought briefly about stopping, but by this time, I had about a quarter mile
head start, and was still carrying a lot of speed, so I just kept going for
about another mile, and ducked off an exit. I also figured, WTF, I'm already
going to jail if they catch me...[3] I
hit the off ramp with the ABS chattering, blew sideways through a red light,
and made for cover. I
found a tree-lined cul-de-sac, and parked in front of a motor home, and sat
and shook from the adrenaline for about 10 minutes. Luckily, I wasn't that
far from home, and after waiting another 15 or so minutes, drove slowly home.
[1]
That, I think was as fast as I ever wanted to go in that car. It was really
stable up to that point, but it just didn't feel "right" to go any
faster. Since then, I've seen slightly north of that speed in a newer 911
turbo, and it felt completely natural and controllable at that speed. [2]
I'd love to have been in that car to hear/see his response. [3] My (then) girlfriend (whose father was a cop) in the passenger seat yelling "what are you doing??? Go... GO!!!!" also helped my decision somewhat. :)
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Bus VS Bikes
Subject: Re: MUNI Driver
Advocates Harming Cyclists Date: 9/18/98 5:21 AM
Hawaiian Standard Time If
a bicyclist is crazy enough to weave in and out of traffic/ pass my vehicle
on the left on Market Street or speed up when I am trying to pass them to get
to the curb then they deserve to be run off the road. Your
comments are exceedingly unprofessional. If anyone -- a motorist, bicyclist,
or pedestrian -- is behaving unsafely, it is your LEGAL OBLIGATION to pursue
the SAFEST course of action possible. Your
comments are also absolutely apalling in their own right, given what their
apparent disdain for human life, and most particularly as part of a thread
with the title "SF Cyclist Memorial."
I am disgusted with you as a human being, and I regret the fact that my tax
money is used to overpay you. Muni
drivers as a group don't have the very best reputation for courtesy or
friendliness. I am reminded of the uniformed Muni driver a few months ago who
beat up a gay fellow on a bus, apparently just because he didn't like
homosexuals. And the union planned to go to bat for this cretin. Then there's
the driver in Hunter's Point a couple of years ago who responded to a man
harassing a female passenger on his bus by throwing her off, whereupon her
tormentor promptly got off the bus & raped her. Not exactly the highest
standard of care that common carriers are legally required to provide. But in
truth, most of the time I've used MUNI I've found the drivers reasonable
folks, if perhaps a tad surly occasionally.
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Comparison I viewed my classmate's Newsgroups postings and comments. I found them to be very informative and some were kind of humorous. A lot of people used all kinds of different formats, which made this more interesting to view. They covered all of the issues from the postings that they chose. I could tell that people did put quite a considerable amount of time in doing this part of their pages. I think we have all learned about what people are thinking. There are so many ways to perceive and process this information and it was interesting to look at the different variations presented. |
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My advice to future generations is to start this section especially early. I found it to be a pain in the you know what. It is very time consuming. You have to go through so many postings that people put up that don't actually say anything. Also try to find something to do with the aspect of Cyberpsychology that most interests you. |
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