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My Talk Conversation Daily Round Standardized Imaginings Community of Relationships

Assignment #l, "MY TALK"

I. Description of the speaking event.

A. The time: The event takes place on a Wednesday afternoon, at lunch time. B. The Participants:
Mom (Steven and Sharon's mother)
Steven and Sharon John (Sharon's husband)
Mrs. M (John's mother)
Maile (John and Sharon's daughter Ä age 4)

II. Notes on the Transcription.

The transcription format used reconstructs as accurately as possible the sequential relationships among the items of talk. As the reader moves down the page, the next item of talk encountered is the next item of talk actually spoken. The columns represent the various participants, and every tenth line of talk is numbered in red at the left of the page, Typewriter half-spaces are us d to indicate places where one person speaks before the other is finished. Notations in brackets "/ /" are notes on the transcription, or "stage directions," while notations in parentheses "( )" are either subjective interpretations of the transcriber, or are notes on affective responses. Places where "x x x" occur are portions of talk which were unintelligible. The page numbers appear in the upper-right corner of each page. It must be remembered that the transcription and tape recording represent only a small fraction of the actual "display" of My Talk, and it cannot possibly reconstruct the actual event. However, the transcription and tape recording, examined in conjunction with the following objective analysis, provides a much more scientific description of the event than could be obtained by a simple reporting of the event.

III. The Functional Analysis of My Talk.

My analysis of my talk will follow a reverse sequence of Professor James' "Hexagram of Talk," in that it will move from the "Display" (that which shows in the transcription and tape recording) to "Topic," then "Argument," "Sequence," "Relationship," and end in a discussion of the "Setting." Continual reference to transcription line numbers will be made, so it is advisable to separate the analysis from the transcription portion of the assignment when reading and analyzing this report. Each step in the Hexagram is lettered alphabetically in the headings, and subheadings that appear follow a standard outlining procedure so that the interrelationships between the functional components can more easily understood .

A. The display.

To get a feel for the pace and movement of the exchange of talk, play the tape through at least twice before examining the transcription; and then play the tape while following the transcription at least twice. This allows the reader/listener a chance to get more of a total picture of the talking event than if the data were examined in another manner. Finally, read the analysis and compare it with the transcription and the portions of the tape referenced in the transcription, and a clear picture of the event will emerge, along with an understanding of the nature of the talk and how it functions as a whole.

B. The Topics.

The diagram on the following page is constructed to show clearly not only the sequential relationship of the topics talked about, but also the spatial relationships present (embedding and juxtapositioning). Completely enclosed blocks represent topics clearly initiated and terminated, while blocks connected by "passage-ways" indicate that some topical connection was present. Blocks within blocks are topics that were initiated and terminated (embedded) during the time span of another topic. The line numbers to the right of the block show the point of initiation of the topic.

Topic Diagram
Part 1Part 2


The topic diagram shows just how ordered the sequence of topics really is, an order that is not so easily observed through examination of the transcription, and even less apparent when listening to the tape. It can be seen from the diagram that most of the topics that are initiated out of the clear blue sky" are short-lived (short, embedded discussions), while some topics serve as links to a long chain of related topics. For example, the dog coming in leads to John's story of how he first encountered our dog, which leads to a story about the dog where he works, which leads to a story about his experience with a spider at work. Similarly, the talk about the kids going out in the car leads to John's story about taking the kids out the day before, which leads to Mom's story about driving the kids (in a schoolbus) and getting into an accident. This type of chaining gives the conversation a smooth flow, and encourages each participant to branch off into topics of his choosing, while still retaining a sense of consistency.

This chaining of topic is in fact, characteristic of most conversation in general, for without it, talk would seem to be a random contribution of ideas, rather than the dynamic interplay between people and ideas in a common setting.

C. The Arguments.

Two arguments are presented in the transcription, both of which are unique in the manner in which they are conducted and resolved. The first is the exchange between John and Sharon in lines l through 10, and the second is the simultaneous exchange between John and Sharon and Sharon and Maile in lines 160 to 199, The moves made in the exchanges are explained on the following page, and an analysis of them follows.

Argument #1- "Signing the Check.?

1 S - (tells John how to sign check).
3 J - (gives Sharon "don't you think I know" look).
4 S - (explains why she told him how to sign).
10 J - (changes subject)...RESOLUTION

Argument #2 - Double exchange about "Money for the Car" and "Going out.?

160 J - (Asks S. if $ can be used for car).
160 M - (Tells S. Mom said she can go).
163 S - to M. "No:"
164 S - to J, "I don't know.
166 M - (whines)
167 S - (tells M. to Shutup).
169 S - (Asks J. how much he needs).
171 J - (Says he's not sure what problem is) .
176 S - (Says she thought it was oil pump).
180 J - (Says he got a new pump).
183 S - Concedes; "Oh."
184 S - (Says 'find out what's wrong and what's needed). RESOLUTION #1
186 M - (makes imploring sound).
189 S - Angrily to M. (informs M. that she already said she could go).
190 S - (Tells M. to get off her leg).
193 M - (repeats 160 question).
196 S - (Asks Mom if M. can go).
198 Mom - (says ?Yes.").
199 S - to M. "Okay." RESOLUTION #2

Arguments may end in one of two ways: resolved or unresolved. In these cases, all of the arguments are resolved, but each in different ways.

When an argument ends in a concession by one party, that concession may be expressed explicitly, implied, hidden, or denied completely. The last two ways are not as obvious as the first two, but are nonetheless concessions. An explicit concession, as in when a person says "I admit I made a mistake," or "You're right," or something of that nature, does not occur in either of the arguments above. Neither does a denial, which is when a person makes a justification for ending the argument like "Well, I know you don't know what you're talking about, so let's drop it!? The first argument ends in a hidden concession, which is accomplished by changing the subject of conversation. This is an often used device, because it appears that the person changing the subject did not make a concession at all. This is intrinsically tied to the idea that admitting error is a sign of weakness; an idea which is culturally bound, in my opinion.

An impiled concession occurs in the second argument, and is communicated by the tone of voice when Sharon says "Oh," The resolution follows when Sharon says that John should find the problem and what is needed to fix it; a somewhat neutral statement that takes the sting out of giving in.

Another way that an argument may be resolved is illustrated in the second argument, Resolution #21 Seeking the authority of another party. Sharon asks Mom if it's okay for Maile to go, Mom says 'yes,' and everyone's happy. No justifications, no sting, no hurt. This is by far the simplest way to resolve an argument, and possibly a reason why so many encyclopedias and dictionaries are sold in the US, Everyone respects an authority who is smarter than they are, and conceding to an authority is far less painful than conceding to a peer.

D. Sequence.

Because of the format for the transcription, the sequence of talk can be followed visually with relative ease. A number of adjacency-pairs are listed on the following page, and are described as either necessary, probable, delayed, or optional. These classifications mean that a response, or group of responses in an exchange sequence were either required to occur; likely to occur; likely to occur but not required immediately; or not likely to occur, but were visibly related to the preceding portion of the sequence,

1. Adjacency-pairs; probable condition.

ADJACENCY-PAIRS


Probable condition

10 J - (Asks if "I gotta sign it and print it - right?"),
12 St- (Says he doesn't have to) Sh - "I dunno:"

Delayed condition

275 St- to Mrs, M, "Did it work?"
278 St- ?Did,,.?"
280 St- "Did it work?"
281 St- ?Did it work over there?"
282 Mrs. M. - "I left there when that was going on."
282 Mom - ?No, no. It hasn't worked anywhere.?

Necessary condition

49 St- (asks if Mom got bologna).
53 Sh- (says Mom got cheese).
179 Mom- (Asks Steve if he has change).
182 St- (says it's all here).
222 St- (Asks Maile where she's going).
224 M - (tells Steve where she's going).
345 Sh- (Asks Steve if he bought cigarettes).
347 St- (Says he put them in the room).

Optional conditional

All remarks made by Mrs. M on page 2 and 3 of the transcription may be considered as optional.



In line 10, John's question "right?" receives two responses; one from Steven and one from Sharon, but neither is really required, John constantly uses that "right?" in his speech. rarely requesting a response. The fact that his question is answered by both Sharon and Steven shows that the question was not really specific, but just asked to see if it would get any response, He does this ?right??-type of question in lines 39, 85, and 209 also, and gets no response.

2. Adjacency-pairs; delayed condition.

In the exchange between Steven and Mrs. M (later to include Mom), in lines 275 to 282, the question "Did it work?" Is not considered urgent enough to evoke a response from Mrs. M until it is repeated for the fourth time, at which time, it changes from the status of a question that does not just have a chance of getting a response (probable condition), but it becomes so necessary, that it is imperative, The result is that it receives two responses; one from Mrs. M and one from Mom,

3. Adjacency-pairs; necessary condition.

These pairs have certain features that distinguish them from the other pairs, and make for the necessary condition. In each pair, the person to whom the question is asked is explicitly clear, that 18, they are direct and directed questions, Also, they are questions whose answers can only be obtained from the person asked,

4. Adjacency-pairs; optional condition, Mrs, M 's interjections on page 2 and 3 of the transcription are all obvious responses to John's speaking, but serve only as "reinforcers" to his talking, similar to head-nodding in conversations, They do keep her as an active participant in the conversation, but her remarks do not demand attention because they are not asked for either explicitly or implicitly, In fact, this mode of participation seems to be her primary mode used throughout the speaking event.

E. Relationship.

The overall relationship among the various participants in this talk event was one of a casual, relaxed feeling toward one another. Certain specific role-types and role-pairs were observed in analyzing the talk. The primary role types were; l). John - the "story-teller," 2). Mrs. M - ?head-nodding" affirmer, 3). Steven - joked around a lot, 4). Maile - demanded attention constantly, 5), Sharon - authoritative, initiator of conversation, and 6), Mom - easy-going authority figure.

Four major role-pairs emerged l). John and Steve - actively involved in John's stories, 2). John and Mrs. M - talker - listener, 3). John and Sharon - quarrelsome; and 4). Maile and Sharon - botherer and"botheree. n

F. Setting.

There were very few constraints placed by the setting on the amount or type of talk conducted. Unlike any families that talk very little at the table, this group had no reservations whatsoever, and the topics included many things that some families would never permit to be discussed at the tablel such as dogs eating fish-heads and "yucky" spiders crawling on people. There was some topical tie-in to the setting when the discussions of Food and Coffee came about, but it is not likely that there was any cause-and-effect relationship there, except for the fact that coffee was being drank.

IV. Conclusion

From this report, I can see that talk is not ,just something that simply happens to people, but that it is a dynamic, ordered Drocess that follows rules of structure and function in order for it to exist and work for us.

Conversation
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Assignment 3: My Daily Round Setting


A. LOGGING ACTIVITIES IN SETTING

Time/Description

(i) 4:00 A.M.
(ii) Sleeping: 3 hours
(i) 6:55 A.M.
(i) 6:55 A.M. (ii) 1 min.; (iii) at home in bed; (iv) me; (v) the alarm-radio sounds. With eyes closed I reach to turn off radio; (vi) I open my eyes with 6:55 staring directly at my face. I lay back in bed, I hear the pattering of rain outside my window. I pull my blanket up around my neck, close my eyes and fall asleep.

(i) 6:56 A.M.
(ii) Sleeping: a little over 1 hour

(i) 8:09 A.M.

(i) 8:09 A.M. (ii) 4 min.; (iii) at home moving from bed to bathroom; (iv) me; (v) my eyes open - it's 8:09; (vi) Boy, did I over-sleep... I dash off to the bathroom, I quickly wash my face and brush my teeth. (I had planned to wake up about 7:30.)

(i) 8:14 A.M. (ii) 7 min.; (iii) at home, seated on carpeted living room floor before table; (iv) me; (v) my roommates are all asleep; (vi) I am thinking about logging of daily round. It is relatively quiet except for the buzz of the refrigerator and the rhythmic pat-pat-pat- outside the living room window.

(i) 8:20 A.M. (ii) 23 min.; (iii) at home, in living room moving to kitchen; (iv) me; (v) I turn on the stereo-radio to break the silence and to drown the pat-?at-pat- of the rain. (vi) I hope the music isn't too loud. I don't want to wake anyone. I move to the kitchen and put on a full pot of coffee (which makes nine cups).

(i) 8:42 A.M. (ii) 26 min.; (iii) at home, in bedroom; (iv) me; (v) I look out my bedroom window. The sky is filled with dark clouds; it is still raining quite heavily; (vi) What shall I wear to class? Will it be raining on campus? Should I wear shorts or something warm? I choose to wear my faded jeans, a yellow T-shirt and my navy-blue hooded sweatjacket. Note: I have tennis class at 9:30 when it's fair weather we meet on the courts; when it's raining hard we meet in the classroom.

(i) 9:10 A.M. (ii) 21 min.; (iii) in my car headed east on the freeway; (iv) me; (v) The rain is pouring hard. (vi) My vision through the windshield is obliterated by the oncoming sheets of rain. I can hardly make out the lines on the road. Funny, how all the cars ahead are sticking to their lanes with great precision. The pace of the moving cars doesn't seem to be slower despite the rain. I am somewhat uncomfortable/afraid of the speed at which I move. The windshield wiper on my side (driver's) needs to be repaired. The rubber part has torn half off. I've been meaning to repair it; now look what I've gotten myself into! I wish I was home in my bed.

(i) 1:14 P.M. (ii) 11 min.; (iii) walking from parking structure to St. John's (upper campus); (iv) me and Judy; (v) It's drizzling; (vi) Judy and I trek up campus. Near the pigeon cages our paths diverge. I look at the time on my watch: 1:16; I've got 14 minutes to get to my Japanese Literature class.

(i) 1:26 P.M. (ii) 3 min.; (iii) sitting in the third row from the front; (iv) me; (v) sitting and focusing my mind; (vi) on Professor Araki's lecture; listen and take notes.

(i) 2:20 P.M. (ii) 3 min.; (iii) walking from St. John's to Moore Hall (which is just across the road); (iv) me; (v) walking; (vi) with umbrella in hand as wind lashes rain against my umbrella. I am having a hard time trying to keep the umbrella in one place, namely over my head. Cars drive by. Why don't they have the decency to stop and allow me to cross rather than make me wait in the wind and rain and cold...

(i) 2:24 P.M. (ii) 56 min.; (iii) sitting in Moore Hall room 111 second row from the back of the room; (iv) me; (v) listening and noting of Linguistic lecture; (vi) My mind keeps running off to my broken windshield and my logging "trip".

(i) 3:21 P.M. (ii) 17 min.; (iii) walking from Moore Hall to the parking structure; (iv) me; (v) It's raining; I am walking back to the car, trekking through mud-puddles and dodging hideous ponds.

(i) 3:38 P.M. (ii) 20 min.; (iii) in Judy's car; (iv) me and Judy; (v) I embark into Judy's car and I apologize for being late (later than usual). (vi) We decide to go directly to Holiday Mart to purchase new windshield wiper blades. The radio is on as we traverse along. Judy regresses about her class and in turn I do likewise.

(i) 3:58 P.M. (ii) 36 min.; (iii) Holiday Mart, in the automotive department; (iv) me, Judy and sales clerk (v) upon reaching the automotive department; (vi) Judy and I decide to comb different counters (shelves) in search of windshield wiper blades. My search is interrupted by a somewhat familiar sales clerk. The sales clerk interjects, "May I help you?" I turn to face him and he says, "I know you, don't I?" I respond, "Yes, we've met .." I can't remember his name though I remember his face. I explain to him what I need and he suggests that I should go to Ala Moana Volkswagen to get the windshield wiper blades as they do not carry what I need. Judy is standing nearby contemplating the transaction. I thank him and bid farewell.

(i) 4:35 P.M. (ii) 11 min.; (iii) in Judy's car; (iv) me and Judy; (v) Judy and I are on our way to Ala Moana Volkswagen. (vi) The radio is on; we talk about the sales clerk---how long it's been since we last met him, wonder ing whether he had a girlfriend or not, etc.

(i) 4:46 P.M. (ii) 10 min.; (iii) in automotive parts department of Ala Moana Volkswagen; (iv) me; (v) Judy remains in the car. I enter the automotive department; (vi) I approach the sales clerk behind the counter and inform him of my windshield wiper dilemma. He asks for details---make and model of car. He disappears into the back room and returns with two wiper blades. He fills out a sales slip and tells me to pay the cashier. I glance at the amount---"What $7.80 for two measily rubber strips" (internally said)

(i) 4:56 P.M. (ii) 13 min.; (iii) in Judy's car, heading home; (iv) me and Judy; (v) I am complaining to Judy (vi) about the "outrageous" price I had to pay for the windshield wiper blades. Judy jokingly consoles me with, "Just think, you could have gotten (no) of (items) just for $7.80."--lines.

A#3: My Daily Round Setting


B. MICRODESCRIPTIONS OF SENSORY OBSERVATIONS

(ii) Stretchings and Exercises


"I am standing in the living room, having been removed from my bed by the sounding of my alarm clock (after a restful six hours' night's sleep). I am moving towards the kitchen and feel some tension in my neck and shoulder muscles. I rhythmically move my head forward and backward several times with my eyes closed and feeling relaxed; I hear and feel a "crick" at the lower portion of the back of my neck. I stretch out my arms as far as I can over my head. I feel the muscles in my arms, the muscles along both sides of my body tighten and pull. Concurrent with this stretching action is movement with my mouth, as I drop my jaw, round my lips and let out a deep "yawn". My eyes tear; there is a thunder-like vibration in my ear; my lower jaw quivers. I slowly drop my arms to my side. I shrug my shoulder. I feel relaxed, my body feels relaxed."

B. MICRODESCRIPTIONS OF SENSORY OBSERVATIONS (iii) Blushing


"I am about to disembark from the elevator on the third floor of Moore Hall. As the door of the elevator opens, I see a man on crutches moving towards this elevator. I step in the doorway and place my free left hand on the side of the door while holding my books in my right. The man steps into the doorway with a smile. As he is about to take another step into the elevator, the doors begin to close. I cannot hold the door back; the man and I are pressed between the doors. The man manages to push the doors open again with his crutches. The man enters the elevator laughing and I step out of the elevator blushing as I turn to watch him descend behind the doors. I feel my cheeks warming; warmth settles around the back of my ears and neck. My eyes move rapidly from side to side as I try to avoid direct eye contact with the man. The heat sensation settles along the side of my face and forehead. I feel flushed as I can hear the laughter, yet. I smile 'cooly'; the man remarks as the doors begin to close, 'Thanks, anyway' with a grin from ear to ear.

C. INVENTORIES OF OWNERSHIP (ii) Documents and Mementos b) Personal-Biographical


"Looking in my room, I find a lot of stuff. There are a lot of things which I think don't even belong in my room. Maybe as I do my list of things which go into this category, I can clean up here a little. This is a list of things I feel belong in this category:

1. First, I look on my bookshelf. I find many things which fit in this category:

a. A second place trophy I won in a girls' judo tournament in 1969. It was quite a while back, but it holds a lot of memories for me.

b. Pictures of some of my friends from high school. There are about 30 pictures. As I look at them, I wonder how they are and what they're doing now.

c. My high school yearbook for the years 1971-1973. Sometimes I look back and see who wrote in it and what they wrote

d. On my graduation cake there was a cap and a diploma I kept those to remember my graduation party.

2. The next place I looked was on my walls. There are the things I found:

a. Flags and posters of places I've been to, such as Disneyland, Knott's Berry Farm, Niagara Falls, Japanese Deer Village, Magic Mountain, Missouri.

b. There is a poster which was given to me as a gift from the Foundation for the Junior Blind.

3. After looking on my walls, I next looked at my bedroom door. It's filled with memories for me. It's sort of like a scrapbook in itself.

a. Souvenirs of places I've been to such as Missouri, Ohio, Michigan, California.

b. A pompom from a homecoming game in high school.

c. Favor from a banquet in high school.

d. My name tag that I had while with the Junior Blind.

e. My old judo club patch.

f. High school banner.

g. A lei my grandmother made for me for my graduation.

h. A kukui nut lei my judo instructor made and gave to me when I got my black belt.

After finishing the inventory of the door, I went to my desk and looked through it.

a. An album with pictures of me when I was born and on until I was 12. The pictures of me when I was 12 and on are in my parent's room.

b. A scrapbook with letters from my boyfriend. Also has pictures in it. I look through it a lot since he's not here.

c. There is a ceramic snail I got for Christmas from a friend.

d. Two stuffed animals. Its two mice hugging each other. I got it from my boyfriend for Valentine's Day.

e. 4 pictures.

f. A lamp which was made for me by a friend.

g. A little vase with straw flowers in it. It was to me from a friend for Christmas."

C. INVENTORIES OF OWNERSHIP (iii) Personal Effects: Selected Inventories a) Purse/Wallet
"I look first through my wallet. These are the things I

1. Money - $23 in bills and $1.28 in change
2. My license
3. My social security card
4. Americlub card
5. Picture - boyfriend, friends
6. Stamps
7. Phillips charge card
8. Bills
9. Receipts of purchase
10. UH ID card
11. Bandage
12. A card certifying that I can operate the AV equipment

Next, I look through my purse.

1. Kleenex tissue
2. Brush
3. Pen/pencil
4. Scissors
5. Keys - for car and house
6. Matches
7. Cigarette and lighter
8, Scratch paper

A#4:
My Standardized Imaginings


A. INTERIOR DIALOGUE

(i) Overlays of Comments to Self

"I am sitting at my desk examining my checkbook and notice that I have not recorded the figures for four previous checks. I am trying to recall to whom and for what amount I made out the checks to. I can't remember a single item with the utmost certainty. I guess I'll have to wait for my bank statement before I'll ever know. See what happens to people who procrastinate. Perhaps I deserve the inconvenience of having to wait.

"I am standing on the bathroom scale weighing myself. I note that I am three pounds heavier (111 pounds) than what I noted previously when stepping on the scale three days ago. Wow! I better watch my weight and eating habits. By my calculations (if I continue to eat as much as I have been during the past three days), I'll be twenty-five pounds heavier in the next twenty-five days. I think I'11 starve myself today and cut down on dinner

(iii) Preparing Schedules

"I have a lot of work to do this month. As I look at my calendar, I see that I have papers due next week and an exam the following Monday. If I want to finish the papers and go out the weekend before the paper is due, I have to do the paper before that weekend comes. That way I can go out Friday and Saturday night. Then I can study for the exam at work during lunch and Sunday night. I might go to the library to study. I wonder if my girlfriend would like to go to the library with me? I better make a note on my calendar to call her up."

(iv) Reviewing/Making Plans and Lists

"I am standing in the middle of my bedroom gazing about my room, hoping that my seeing something will trigger a recall for something I need. I am preparing a list of items to purchase I am going to Ala Moana Shopping Center tomorrow after class. So far my list includes: facial tissue, toothpaste, Wilson Tennis balls (from Long's Drugs---on sale), nylon stockings,--

I gaze at my dresser and I remember I've been meaning to buy sachets for my dresser drawers (as the contents within are beginning to take on the odor of the wood) I add 'sachet' to my list.

I gaze at my shelf and notice my pack of typing paper; I recall that I have only about six sheets of paper left. I add 'typing paper' to my list.

I feel like I'm missing something very important, yet I do not feel like furthering the search."

A. INTERIOR DIALOGUE

(viii) Unmentionables Within the Relationship

"I'm talking to my mother in the living room at home. We've been talking about a lot of stuff that I'd never talk to my father about. I feel like asking her something which no one knows about except my close friend. I know my father would get really mad at me. Especially since I'm his girl. But I find I can't ask my mom about it either. Am I afraid of what she might say? I remember I asked her once, 'What if I wanted to get out of the house? Would you let me go?' She answered that she would. 'But would you let me come back if I wanted to come back home?' She said, 'Yes.' But I find I can't ask her again. This time it's true. I want to move out. But I'm scared for some reason. I just can't tell her right now.

B. FEELING ARGUMENTS

(ii) Making Resolutions

"I am sitting in my Japanese Literature class. The class is relatively quiet except for the sound of Professor Araki's voice. Out of the silence, I hear a 'growl'---it is my stomach 'talking'. I am embarrassed as I sense that the girl sitting next to me heard my stomach. Why me?! Boy, oh, boy, I should have had something to eat before I came to class. So stupid! I'll never attend class again on an empty stomach."

C. FANTASY/DAYDREAM EPISODES

(ii) Construction of Catharsis Stories

"I'm sitting up in bed, trying to get over the dream I just had. I felt myself falling. I heard myself crying and screaming. I suddenly get up and I feel so relieved that it was only a dream and not true. I'm afraid to go back to sleep."

"I sit in bed. My mind is traveling around. I see a dog. He's chasing after me! I've got to run! He's foaming at the mouth. Does he have rabies? I hope not. What if he bites me? -- Thank goodness, my nom calls me to eat dinner. I snap out of that one fast!"

(iv) Working out Alternative Realities

"I'm sitting in the library reading my Statistics book. It's very quiet. I feel tired. My eyes feel heavy and my body is relaxed. I amaze myself. I read my book and turn the pages, but I don't realize that I am reading. I find myself talking to someone, but I don't know who it is. Then I snap out of my 'halfsleep' state. It's my girlfriend!"

C. FANTASY/DAYDREAM EPISODES

(iv) Working out Alternative Realities

"I am riding on a bicycle back at home (on Maui---on the farm). The sun is shining---not a cloud in the sky. The birds are flying overhead. I am coasting down our driveway en route to pick up our mail. I reflect upon the reality that I am able to balance on this two-wheeled vehicle without thinking or not much control. I am watching the birds fly overhead. I feel like I am one with the birds. I can fly! The world sweeps by me. I am with the birds, yet I am seated on a bicycle. I feel excitement and freedom. I find myself turning and braking as I approach the mailbox."

D. THE ELEVATED REGISTER

(i) Praying/Invocations

"I am standing before the grave of my deceased grandmother chanting/praying with palms pressed together. The chant/prayer consists of a repetition of ;Namu Amida Butsu'---seven times. I am not, as I reflect, certain of the meaning or reason for this ritual. I feel that I am paying respects to a 'grand' person as I can recall; my grandmother deserves my respect and honor."

(iii) Meditations/Readings of Scriptures

"I feel alone without my boyfriend here with me. I take out this mini Bible with the new Testament. I read First Corinthians paragraph 13. It eases my mind a little and relaxes me."

E. ROUTINE CONCERNS: SELECTED INVENTORIES

(i) Privacy

(b) from the NOSE of particular Others

"I am sitting in my 1:30 class, after having hastened from the parking structure to Moore Hall in the hot afternoon sun. I feel hot and uncomfortable; my back is wet---my blouse is clinging to my back; I can feel wetness under my arms. Boy, I hope the person (a guy) sitting next to me doesn't smell my B.O.I I must smell awful I wonder if he can smell my B.O.?I Maybe he has a cold and his nose or nasal passage is congested..."

(i) (c) from the EARS of particular Others

"I had a very filling lunch. I decide to go to the library and do some studying. I feel a pressure coming inside of me. I look around and see if there is anyone sitting next to me or behind me There is someone sitting in the carrel to my right. I try to hold my burp in but I can't. Burp! I check if she heard. She doesn't seem to be annoyed or interrupted by anything. I guess I'm safe.

A #5: My Community of Relationships

A. NOTICING OBSERVATIONS

(ii) Relationship Events

(a) Noticeables About People You Know (physical appearance, mood, etc.)

(1) Disoccasioned Mentionables

"Susie, one of my roommates, is talking to me about a problem she is having with her term paper. As she notes facts on a piece of paper, I notice a silver bracelet on her right wrist. I feel like commenting on the 'charming' bracelet as I have never seen her wear it before. It is an attractive bracelet. She keeps on explaining her problem and I don't want to interrupt her."

(iii) Auditory Pickings-up

(b) Sounds, Noises, etc.

"It's 10:30 at night as I sit in my room and do some homework. I stop for a while to rest my mind and stretch. I squint my eyes and close them for a while. I can hear so many different sounds. In the background, I hear my mom and my sister talking with the television on. I listen a little more and I can hear my dog's toenails tapping on the floor as he walks around. Outside I can hear the wind blowing through the trees and bushes, rustling the leaves around."

B. DESCRIPTION OF TRANSACTIONS

(iii) Having an Argument

"My sister and I don't fight very often, but when we do, it gets pretty loud, but never violent. This one time we were having a disagreement on something which isn't as silly as the usual stuff. This time, it was about me being 'daddy's favorite' She keeps saying that my dad spoils me and treats me real good and that I can get away with a lot of stuff with my dad. I get really mad because I don't think she's right. My dad almost kicked me out of the house once and rarely talks to me anymore. He says that I don't give a damn anymore about anything. Well, the fight ended in a draw. My mom came to the rescue.

C. rEPORTING JOINT ACTIVITIES

(iii) Writing/Receiving Notes, Letters, Memos, Ads, etc.

"Every day I check to see if I have any mail. There is usually one for me. Most of the time it will be a letter from my boyfriend. If not, it's a letter from my cousin who just went to the mainland with her husband to live. Sometimes I get special offers from education-oriented companies. Once in a while I receive a note from the veterinarian saying that my dog is due for a check-up and things like that."

D. NON-JOINT ACTIVITIES

(vi) Having a Mental Exchange with Someone

"My sister and I have just had one of our silly little arguments. We both are sitting on opposite sides of the room just staring at one another. I look at her and in my mind I'm thinking to myself how my sister has no manners at all. She had no business going into my room like that. I can feel my sister telling me a few things, too."
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