The Social Animal
By Elliot Aronson

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Thus, although we generally like people who have attitudes similar to our own, if we encounter someone who likes us in spite of the fact that our opinions differ, we are inclined to infer that there must be something special and unique about us that he finds attractive.

Affective Cognitive Sensorimotor
Spiritual Self I'm glad that I can get along with people with the same interest and those without the same interest. I have people in my life that I like, yet they have different interests than I do. Its kind of hard to find people who have the exact same interests than I do. Just because you do not share the same interests as someone, it doesn't mean that they'll dislike you.
Reflective Self I understand the different relationships I have with people. It doesn't matter whether or not we have the same interests or not. I'd like to have a variety of friends. Ones with same interests and ones with different interests. I have friends who like things such as drinking and partying. I don't really care for thosse things yet I get along just fine with these people. Even if we don't share the same interests as others, it doesn't mean that they'll dislike us. People find it challenging to get to know someone with different interests.
Automatic Self I was able to recognize my relationship with people that I don't share the same interests with. I get an understanding of these relationships. I'm able to see that we can get along with anyone even if we don't share the same interests. Not all people have common interests. I have friends with opposite interests but, yet we are friends. The passage brought to my attention some of the relationships I have with people. It's true, not all people have the same interests as we do. If someone who was the complete opposite of me liked me, I would wonder what in me does he actually see. I would try to see what I have that he likes. What about me that he finds attractive.

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