Affective Cognitive Sensorimotor
Spiritual Self I value a relationship that has both loves: Eros (physical attraction) Agape (willingly to give all). I value a life-long mate who recipricates back to me. It has been said that one ought to marry ones best friend. One ought to! God must be first or else it will fail through selfishness. I assume that my future wife will feel for me the way I feel for her. It has to be more than just a sex drive.
Reflective Self My goal for a wife is to have one that can also be my best friend. Someone that I can talk to about anything. (Or almost anything). A love relationship has to be based on something more than sex. There has to be a better foundation than that. (On of understanding & compassion) If my love for my wife is based on physical attractions only, in ten years I won't be satisfied with the relationship.
Automatic Self I want a wife that will still be attractive to me even after many years of marriage. When I was in high school, I was voted 'Biggest Flirt' because I flirted with any pretty girl I saw. I had to have more than one girl to satisfy me. I wonder if my wife will still be pleasing and attractive to me after we have been married ten years (or more).

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