G16 Forum Discussions Part 3
Date: 09:00pm Feb 21, 2002 HST
Name: Isabell
In response to Jay Akasaki #216
Hello. This is in response to your
message on the elderly woman who was tailing you. I trully understand how you were feeling
when you saw the car tailing you close behind. I really hate it when people do that to me.
It makes me feel like im trapped in a way, and that they are trying to "push" me
along. Also when the car followed you into the other lane, now that would make me feel a
little weird. I think that on the whole you handled the situation on a more positive note,
not going to the extreme of waving her aside. To tell you the truth, I can relate to the
woman a little. Don't get angry now, but sometimes I catch myself following people a
little too close than I think that they would like. However, trust me it really isn't my
intention, sometimes I just don't realize how close I come, but as soon as I do, I quickly
give them some room, and I cringe at the thoughts they must be thinking about me.
Therefore now days when people follow me closely I just think to myself that they probably
don't even realize it themselves, and I give them a little while to actually realize that.
Then usually to my knowledge on the most part they will soon move back a little. Just try
and think happy thoughts :).
Date: 09:20pm Feb 21, 2002 HST
Just the other day I got into a
fight with my ex-boyfriend. We were arguing about things that we really shouldn't have
been arguing about. But nevertheless we did. He was mad because he said that I constantly
let my ex-boyfrind before him hurt me. He was frustrated at the fact that no matter how
many mean things that he did to me, I would always end up forgiving him and be his friend
again. About two hours into the argument (I know tell me about it) he suddenly began to
tell things that my friends have been telling him. He said that when he had asked my
friend about how I was doing (since we had stopped talking to each other)he simply told
him "same old sh!t". And how my other friend told him that she wouldn't blame
him if he decided to just walk away from everything. When I heard this, I was very hurt. I
couldn't believe that the people I trusted and cared for would say such things about me to
someone who they haven't even known for that long. I was ready to stop talking to them. I
just couldn't believe it. It took a little while, but I realized later that I didn't know
exactly what they meant by what they said, and Im sure that they didn't mean it in a way
that would hurt me. I rationalized that it was totally possible that they could be saying
it to comfort him or maybe some other reason. But in the end, I felt a better about the
overall situation, and I no longer am doubting my friends.
Date: 09:37pm Feb 21, 2002 HST
in response to slick.........
really can't believe how
judgemental that professor is. you know what, you should just ignore him. i think that it
is great that you are getting an education and being a mother. That alone is very hard
work. i have a freind who has kids and goes to school also. you should just concentrate on
the great job that you are doing and disregard ignorant people like your professor.
Date: 10:14pm Feb 21, 2002 HST
Slick - I just reread your post and going along the lines of Psyloche and Latte, I think you really should go and talk to your teacher about what happened. You could visit them outside of class during their office hours and bring your friend, if you have to (for support for you, as well as backup for what you heart) - tell him/her how you felt and how you'd appreciate it if they wouldn't bring it up in class. Your teacher should know how you feel about this because latte is right - it could possibly happen again.
Your teacher should be open-minded and understanding should you go talk to him/her. If they aren't, then it's a possibility to go complain about it to the Dean or a higher authority.
Whatever you decide, good luck on it. But you don't deserve to have your personal life publicly announced in front of class, and to have it blasted and criticized is fudged up.
Date: 07:13pm Feb 22, 2002
HST
I have been trying really hard to get along with a certain group of people. I am currently on a board of directors for this soccer league, and I have been trying to get along with the other board members, but it seems that we all have our own agendas of why we are on this board. To make a long story short we had a meeting this past Wed. with the general membership, and it was very unpleasant. The general membership would like to see certain people outsted from office, but don't want to impeech at this time. They basically just told us that we need to get our act together and communicate with one another.
Today I decided that I was going to take the suggestion by the general membership and try to resolve this situation in a business like manner. So, I sent out an e-mail today to all of the board members explaining the situation that I saw, and how I felt that we should resolve it. Well, I received a response from the president (the person no one likes!) saying that she felt that I she does not want someone whispering in her ear and telling her what do and blah blah. When I read that letter, I hit the roof. My very unattractive three-fold self came out, and I began my jouney onto the The Negative side of the Four Options. I instantly felt rage, became very irrational in thought (saying I wanted to strangle her), and the acting out by writing a very defensive letter to this person. With this situation I seem to have a very negative spin-cycle that has developed because I have a very short fuse. When I finally calmed, I had to laugh at myself because I couldn't believe that I let someone so "ignorant" get on my nerves, which to me is a let down because I should know better, and realize that not everyone is aware. So, I thought about why I was upset, and I guess I was "ruminating" after reading the letter, and that helped for the anger to stay.
In this situation I lost, and wasn't able to cross the red bridge, and stay on a positive vibe. However, I do realize how I need to counteract this sort of feelings. I need to remind myself that sort of situation is not important and is very trivial. So next time I can prepare myself when I know that I am going to communicate with person, by taking a deep breath and saying something like okay calm down, and reiterate your opinions to her in a positive manner with no sarcasm. I don't know its a start!
P.S. Are there any women interested
in playing soccer, if so contact me via e-mail. Then I can get you set-up, the season
begins on March 17th, and all games are played on Sundays. dthonu@hawaii.rr.com 
Date: 07:20pm Feb 22, 2002 HST
In response to Guadalupe Maria:
I think that you should commend yourself rather than feeling down about school and personal life. Just remind yourself that you have made the effort to be in school, rather than just working and not accomplishing something as big and important as school. I know that sometimes it seems like we have this endless list of things to do, and of course they all occur at the same time, but don't look at it in a negative way. Again remind yourself that you are filling your brain with information that you normally may not get, and that is an added bonus for yourself because now you have learned something new. I remind myself constantly that I am gaining knowledge everyday, and then I see others who don't attend school and are just doing the same old thing everyday with no new stimulation. And if you are on the Dean's List then that means that you are doind just fine, don't create anymore worries than you need, remember don't "catastrophize".
And anyway when school is over and
you have your degree, you'll be happy that you earned it!
Date: 11:16am Feb 23, 2002 HST
Wow-Everyone has been so busy.
I have really had a wild ride these last couple of weeks and been crossing bridges, burning bridges, and wondering where the heck the bridges are.
First off, I sort of got a little obsessed with the postings, I was checking them like 10 times a day. I thought, wow, I better get a grip or a life. Then the worst happened.
The less I checked the easier it became to not check the postings. Then I would check and there would be 20 new messages. Oh my, how can I ever read them all? I'll read one or two then catch up at night I rationalize.
Check again-70 new messages. Aaargh-I am a total loser. Blue bridge, wearing blue suede shoes. Wearing a blue man group t-shirt.
So far in the weeds, don't care anymore, apathy sets in-these people are so wonderful, so much better than me. Should I just drop this class and get a W-can I still get a W? The process continues.
Check day before yesterday 120 new messages-lions and tigers and bears, oh my. This has gotten out of hand.
Today I successfully ran through over 200 messages. I am not a loser, I am capable, I do have too many things in the hopper and that is okay. The way to eat an elephant is to start at the tail and I am now chewing thoroughly. Today, I finished that elephant and I feel soooo fabulous. When I looked at our suggestions for posistive actions I realized I procrastinated and I own it and I had to get on with the business of this business.
I think I was subconciously trying
to foil myself. C'est la vie-I am on track now and the past is the past and It's good to
be back!
Date: 11:22am Feb 23, 2002 HST
Name: Dana Jones
To Aloha Spirit-
How are you doing? I got really sad
when I read your message of Heaven only knows when (so sorry) and you were down in the
dumps. You are such a bright spirit and I so look forward to your words of wisdom and
encouragement. I never fail to smile or feel good when I read your messges, even when the
subject matter is sad-you bring out the sunshine even in the worst situations.
Date: 11:31am Feb 23, 2002 HST
To Jeany-
I noticed you had a lot of responses to your "catalog crisis." I'm right there with you honey. I love browsing through catalogs and occasionally treat myself to a little something, something. I still have a denim outfit from the Saks catalog in my closet that make me look like a sausage when I put it on. I kept thinking I'll lose a few lbs and it'll look great-hello it's been six months-sausage alert still. I'm actually beginning to like that "sausage look."
Once I went into my favorite little
boutique in my old town and was feeling a little saucy and tried on several outfits-I
wanted one outfit in particular. Well, the darn thing wouldn't fit my size 12 stomach-when
I say to the oh so slim salesgirl "aargh, my stomach looks horrid" she says
don't worry, when a woman has had a couple of children something has to give-Hellooooo, I
have no Children!!! I was fit to be tied. Instead of giving her the old "you are a
piece of work" speech, I just told her I am sorry that she ovbiously doesn't
recognize good living-MEOW! Catty, possibly, but I thought, honey, have a bologna
sandwich-you're toooo thin and leave the rest of us "american average" girls
alone.
Date: 06:47pm Feb 23, 2002 HST
To: Dana Jones
Welcome back, it's good to have you here again! =) Meanwhile, I think I'll go jump off a bridge of my own and take a swim to China. Hehe. I laughed reading your last post about this forum - I was in your position when I first started, I was like checking this thing like four or five (hundred) times a day. It's addicting, isn't it?! More addicting than my coke, err, I mean .. coca cola habit. Yah, that's it.
Procrastination is easy, and once you get on the track of avoiding doing that task, it's easy to just keep doing it. Then, you beat yourself up on it with guilt and negative thoughts. Worrying about doing the task is easier than actually doing it - or making the effort to start.
But ... it's good that you took that
intial step and got through the postings. That's the hardest step of all! You're on your
way, chica!
Date: 06:56pm Feb 23, 2002 HST
Blue bridge, red bridge, purple bridge, black bridge. Look around and you'll find me hop-skipping through the various colors of the spectrum.
However, pay special attention to the blue bridge because I'll be needing to hop, skip, and jump across that sucker soon! The source of my anxieties? This 1st rough draft of the paper!! I've started working on it, but it's been difficult locating sources, trying to summarize, etc. Location of my mind: Negative about self, pessimistic thinking. Right on target.
Five hours spent in front of the television was a cozy distraction technique. Did you know that the Bermuda Triangle could be explained by natural occuring weather phenomena? Or it is actually possible for humans to naturally combust?
Okay, all blabber set aside, I am worried about doing this paper. I don't know if I'll be able to make the next week Thursday deadline .. or if my paper will be done well enough .. if I'm going to be able to locate enough sources .. or if I'm on the right track. There must be some of you guys that are sharing this frustration.
Avoidance is easy and couple that worry with pessimistic thoughts and you have got an easy recipe for staying in the negative zone.
I am letting myself feel negative and it's pulling me down and stalling time. It's a waste of time because my worrying isn't doing anything - heck, it ain't writing my paper for me. Next step - cross that bridge. That will mean putting my worries aside and just DOING the paper. Starting up on it. First step is always the hardest.
Kay, here we go!
Date: 07:55am Feb 24, 2002
HST
To AlohaSpirit-
Imagine my "blue bridge over troubled waters" when I had to ask my husband what an "annotated bibliography" was.
I am right there with you on this paper situation-our first draft is due on Monday-huh? How did that creep up on me. I finally broke down and read the "examples" from past generations-Hello-those people are brilliant, but. . .I feel like we are capable of handling it.
Also, saw the show on the Bermuda Triangle too, I prefer to think we can spontaneously combust-makes for better tabloid fodder.
You're FABULOUS, and don't worry
about the "coke"(cola) habit-I'm on that bridge with my new obsession- oolong
tea-I am on a constant state of "arousal" (ain't psychology grand with all these
terms)and loving it!
Date: 12:19pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
Help! Does anyonehave a clue how to edit something they have saved in html? I keep opening the page I want to edit, but my curser won't function-It is like it is written in stone.
I now have 3 pages saved here, 2 pages saved there, and without putting them all together I don't have much of anything besides a paper that is going to be horiffically late and furthermore, incomplete.
I fell off of the bridge and am now
drowning in self pity. If I don't get some help soon I'll be drowning in Stoli-eek
Date: 01:45pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
To: Dana
You're a Discovery Channel watcher (I love that, TLC, and the Animal Channel - when I actually do watch tv), tea drinker as well! Very cool - I love Oolong Tea, and my now favorite, Earl Grey (and Green Tea, Iced Tea, etc) Thanks for the positive vibes! I'm getting my butt out of the house and into Hamilton Library for some serious homework completion. By the way, our paper is due this Thursday 2/28! -- No worries about turning it in on Monday. Seems like you're really stressed out about. Nope, we've got about four more days, girl.
I wish I could help you with your
HTML editing - .... did you have ti saved in Microsoft Word? I'll do my best to try and
help you via this forum - post away cuz I'll be checking this forum again later on today.
Anyways, though ... keep up the Good work, Good luck and Aloha!
Date: 02:29pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
This past week was very stressful
for me. I took two tests on Wednesday and Thursday. These test took a lot out of me and as
hard as I tried to stay positive and think positive, there was too much information to
memorize or relate to for me to stay focus. Trying to memeorize different types of
Psychology Methods and Ilokano vocabulary and sturcture, brought me down. Crossing the
Blue Bridge here was difficult to do. Someone once said, if I thought positive, the result
should be positive. As much as I studied, I always had that thought at the back of my
mind, that maybe, I might not has studied enough. But, I did not dwell on that and
hopefully, I passed.
Date: 02:36pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
Name: Benjamin Mendoza
Tuesday and Thursday, I put the crossing of the Red Bridge into action. I like the Winter Olympics and the different events that are showed. One event I enjoy watching is Figure Skating, and watching Michelle Kwan is a plus. I prayed for her to come in first place after the short program and to win the Olympics.
While watching the short program on
Tuseday, there was some people yelling at the television, putting the USA team down,
hoping they would lose. When it was time for the USA skaters to skate, these bunch of
people again yelled at the television hoping for the USA team to loose. I began having bad
thoughts about this particular group of people but I didn't have to act out my fustrations
because there were other people there that said the thoughts that ran through my mind. I
just sat there and laughed silently. I thought it would have been stupid of me to act out
negatively because it was just their opinion. Although Michelle Kwan did not with the
Olympics, she got a medal, something not all skaters can get in one Olympic Game.
Date: 04:51pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
To AlohaSpirit-
Regarding my debacle on the computer-since it was only two pages-and mainly consisting of the stuff regarding class links, etc. I decided to just re-type the buggah.
Have a hoot at Hamilton & about Thursday being the due
date-what a welcome relief!!! Sigh! Thanks for the heads up!
Date: 04:55pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
I was driving down Univer. Ave. and
reached right by Varsity theatres. I switced lanes to the left turn lane, but stopped
where people turn in, right before Varsity theaters. I had a red light for a while so
usually you leave a gap wide enough for cars to fit. I waited there for a few and saw a
car in my right side view mirror coming my way. He drove along side me and pulled in the
gap I had left for the turning cars. I couldn't believe what he had done! He didn't even
say thanks and in fact he was luaghing with his friend. The light turned green and he went
into the next lane. I thought about the bridge technique and went back-n-forth. I reached
his car and was about to look at him, then realized it wasn't worth it. I figured it could
be worse and he could have done something more dangerous.
Date: 05:03pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
In response to Psyloche
I totally agree with you! It seems
people are getting more rude and reckless on the road. It seems people don't even say
thank you any more and don't even stop to see where they're going. It's hard to use bridge
techniques to better yourself when everyone around you is getting worse!
Date: 06:49pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
I have a friend that always comes
over to relax a little. He is currently trying to kick a very bad addiction. So I feel
that he is always welcome in my house as long as he's sober. My roomates on the other hand
don't agree with me. They always get mad whenever he comes over. One of the main reasons
why they get mad is because he eats all of our food, and that's the truth. I can
understand some of their arguments, but I feel that they could make different decisions
when they put him down, or let what others say bother them. Who the hell cares if they
think that since he comes over that our apartment is a drug house? I don't care. Anyway, I
see that by not thoughtfully thinking out what they feel they miss the opportunity to
cross the red bridge.
Date: 06:58pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
In response to Ben Hello Ben! You
forgot to add the test in emotions class. Well I see where you are coming from. I was
stressing about the tests we had to take this past week too. There is one exception, I
didn't get down on myself, I just got pissed off. The one thing that helps me is
remembering what my parents always tell me "Just try your best." I know,
sometimes that is not good enough to settle upon, but we can only do so much. Stay
optimistic when that feeling comes over you, because it feels better going into the test
thinking that you did what you could.
Date: 07:09pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
Since school started, I really
didn't get a chance to relax with friends. That really sucks! I feel that friends are very
important for my upbringing. We've been through a lot of shit together. Now that I started
to go to school, it doesn't feel the same. My time seems to always be monitored. Oh well,
I guess that is how it goes. I just have to graduate and party later. Thinking positively
helps me to be in the right state of mind so that I can get things done. Maybe it comes
with age?
Date: 07:23pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
In response to Dana I know what you
are going through. Sorry I don't have a clue on how to help you. I'm completely computer
illiterate. Last night, I was working on my paper for Monday, and I switched screens for a
moment only to come back to a blank screen in Microsoft Word. Everything was gone. So at
about 2:00 in the morning I had to try and rewrite at least part of it, because it is due
tomorrow. I had to work with only the 4 pages that I had saved on my disk previously. I
almost had a heart attack. If you saw me, I looked like I was boxing with my computer. I
was stuck and didn't know what to do. At that point I didn't care about any bridges. All I
wanted was to see my paper. My only advice is to hang in there.
Date: 09:11pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
To Jay-I laughed at the "boxing your computer"-great visual and probably a wonderful stress reliever-teehee.
I really admire you being there for a buddy in need. It seems your roomies are frustrated and food is the one thing they have control over. They can't, with a good concience, kick someone who is down and working to pick themselves up, but food, ahhhh, that's another story. Being around someone who is kicking an addiction sometimes makes people a little aware of their own habits and frailties. Heaven forbid we look within ourselves, we are such fragile little creatures aren't we.
Well, must work on my little mess
I've created and pray for the best. Looks like it's going to be a loooong night.
Date: 10:03pm Feb 24, 2002 HST
To: Jay
You're a loyal and true friend, indeed. It's very hard nowadays to come across a friend like that who will be there for you and help you along your way when you're stuck in the mud. You are trying to help your friend in his recovery by letting him come over and kick back. Your roommate may see him as some (former) druggie that always comes over and eats all their food. It could be that you and them see things differently. Have you talked to them and told them what's up? Or gave your friend a head's up of what's going on so he doesn't eat as much food?
I hope things will work out. I
admire your loyalty to your friend.
Date: 12:51am Feb 25, 2002 HST
in response to Slick ... Some people
just don't know how to think before they say anything, then there are the other people who
just don't seem to care (nor realize) that they are saying something stupid. I can't
believe that your prof. said that AND I don't think that he should "get away"
with it. I don't mean that vengence or retaliation are in order, but I think that he
should be told that he was out of line. Hey, I would even gladly volunteer to have a talk
with him for you. I am not a parent but I know that there are many duties and obligations
in life that hold an immediate trump card over attending school. Don't get me wrong. I
love school. I love learning new things, but some profs. forget that, when it comes down
to it, school is just a stepping stone and that it's people like US (who even wish to
continue out education) that provide THEM with their jobs.
Date: 01:24am Feb 25, 2002 HST
One of my students recently earned
the privelege to represent the state of Hawaii in a national speech contest. He won
scholarship money and an all expenses paid trip for himself and a chaperone to compete at
nationals. The problem is that nationals is on the day of the state championship speech
and debate tournament and since my entire debate team will be competing, I feel obligated
to be with the greater number (especially since I am the only DOE recognized coaching
staff). The student's parents may not be able to attend and so I have asked the principal
to check among the faculty. I received a call from my student's parent who continues to
receive calls from the district rep. for the national competition -- let's call him
"joe shmoe" -- requesting the name of the chaperone. I called "joe"
and let him know of my current "dilemma". Over the weekend he left a message on
my answering machine (may I add, in a very nasty tone of voice) that he needs the
information NOW!!! Okay. I am not very good with taking orders, but I REFUSE to be spoken
to dispectfully, especially when I have made every attempt to solve this dilemma. So, I
called him back and told him that I have done everything in my power to find a chaperone
and that I am only waiting for the principal to get back to me. I also told him that I
cannot go because I have to attend the state championship tournament, which my student is
sacrificing to go to this national tournament. THEN I told him that I would appreciate it
if he not leave rude messages on my machine and that he stop bothering my student's
family. Now, I do feel bad for saying this, but I refuse to harbor the anger just because
I didn't say anything. I believe in choosing my battles ... was I wrong to choose this
one?
Date: 02:58am Feb 25, 2002 HST
Over the weekend I was at work
trying to help out people who aren't even in my department. They were really busy, and no
one could answer the phone. I answered the phone for them, but I was not able to help the
caller because I don't work in their department. I put the caller on hold, and tried to
let someone know that the person on the line needed some help. I was told that since I
picked up the call, it was my responsibility to help the caller. I was pretty pissed
because I was trying to help them out and they wouldn't even acknowledge that fact or do
their own work. I am sorry to say that I told the caller someone would be with them
shortly and just walked away. I probably won't answer the phone for them anymore either.
Date: 03:01am Feb 25, 2002 HST
loquor
2/25/02 1:24am I believe in you loquor. I think as long as you did it in tone that
wasn't antagonistic and requested that he do those things, I think it's ok. Ya gotta stand
up for yourself sometimes....
Date: 11:35am Feb 25, 2002 HST
In response to Dana and Alohaspirit,
My roommates knows what's up. We talk about this situation from time to time. Plus they
were around when I was going throught a similar ordeal. Maybe I said toooooo much. Oh well
screw it. Hah. Anyway, The reason why I don't let the situation of eating all of our food
get to me to a screaching halt, is because I like to see that my friend is eating. You
see, the type of drugs that he was doing stopped him from eating. The more you do the
drug, the more you won't eat. It's one of those effects. But anyway, thanks for your
opinions.. It's good to know that I'm not going nuts.
Date: 11:38am Feb 25, 2002 HST
Hey Alohaspirit,
How are you doing, buddy? I was
watching the closing ceremony of the olympics and saw Jim Shea, the skeleton guy on the
stand. Then I thought of you. Though I dont exactly sure who you are, but I have read some
of your pervious posts. Anyways, I know midterm is here and I hope you can take strength
from examples like Shea's because this is your Olympics. God Bless. DWMC
Date: 04:04pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
This weekend was really stressful
for me. I was totally clueless as to how I was going to get report #1 ready. I felt
overwhelmed by everything that I need to do this week. I sometimes make the mistake of
looking too far ahead to what I need to do later rather than what I need to do now. All
the stress made me have a horrible headache yesterday. The headache in addition with the
stress made me really irritable. I caught myself "snapping" at work and at home.
After I was aware of my foul mood, I still didn't try to change my actions. Looking back
on it today, I feel a little guilty. I was a really negative person to be around this
weekend. The bridge thing wasn't happening for me this weekend. Oh well, it's a new day,
and a new week.
Date: 04:17pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
I think one of the great things
about going to college is it helps you to be a more critical thinker. You try to see
things through different cultures and possibilities. With this, comes open mindedness and
tolerance I think. Well I was on my 7th night straight of heavy drinking when some guy at
our party was saying how the Japanese are so annoying and saying how he looked down on
them for their interest in our western culture. My reactions to this when I finally
realized what the shmuck was saying, was anger and wanting to engage in aggressive or
destructive behavior. But I remembered what this class is encouraging. And I was able to
cross the red bridge and tell the guy how he is just looking at a culture through his own
eyes and how he is not thinking open-mindedly. I told him in a calm manner that I strongly
disagreed with his ignorance and that he should think about what he says before talking.
This worked, and my friends and I were calmed down at him and said we would not let him
come over again.
Date: 05:22pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
I know some of you have problems with morning noise. For me it's usually incessant cooing pidgeons that decide to roost right near my window. But this past Saturday it was a roaring weed whacker at 6:45 in the morning! I mean who does that? Don't they realize that other people are sleeping? Hellooo, most people go out on Friday night and stay out late and would like to *sleep in*. Just because they are an early riser, does that give them the right to wake up/keep up the entire neighborhood? This rude person weed whacked for over two hours...yes that's right...over 2 hours. Does he have that many weeds???
Anyways, I was super irritated. I
had went to bed at about 2:30am and was tired. I put in my ear plugs and put my pillow
over my head and tried to convince myself that the buzzing/wheezing would stop in 10
minutes, then 20 minutes, then 30 minutes. Okay at this point I cognitively understood
that he was going to be at it for a while. So I turned off my alarms, and got up. I wanted
to escape the noise so I took a shower. It really woke me up and made me feel much better.
Maybe the steam relaxed me because when I got out, I wasn't irritated anymore.
Date: 05:39pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
Last week I was very depressed and
had rage agaisnt myself. I took an exam and didn't do as well as I hoped. I did study, but
not long enough. Before the test I ended up arriving late to class and that lead me to
have anxiety, which wasn't good. I then could not calm myself down right a way, which
added more pressure to not studying enough. I then started the exam going blank. I didn't
know what was what, which lead me to depression. As soon as the exam was over I headed to
some where on campus that had the least people as possible and started to cry. There was
no one to blame here but myself. I hated myself for not studying long and hard enough. It
took me a very long time to bridge myself from the negative to the positive. A friend of
mine took me on a long walk with her and we ended up coming up with solutions to my
problem. I slowly, but surely got back to the positive side of the bridge.
Date: 05:39pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
In response to Kapenalani #303:
I can totally relate to your
situation. I am in a campus group that claimed to do all sorts of good community things
but some of the other officers forgot this. They don't show up to meetings, don't do what
they were supposed to do and then complain that the group is "lame"...the nerve.
Anyways, much like you I didn't like the situation and took it upon myself to try to
organize the group. Then I heard gossip that I was trying to take over the group and be
the president. I was so pist off! I did not want to be the president! I was an officer in
another group and had my hands full! I just thought that maybe if we had some organization
and people knew when things/events were and gave suggestions on how they could go about
doing some of the projects (since they didn't know how), then they would try to do it.
Nope...nothing got done and some of them were mad at me! For that particular group, I no
longer go out of my way for them. I just do what I alone am supposed to do and only give
suggestions when it is asked for. I have learned that there's no use in trying to lead a
group that does not want leadership.
Date: 05:45pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
As I went on a long walk with my
friend last week I witnessed road rage. We were waiting for the crosswalk to signal us
that it was okay to cross. As we waited a man in a black truck waiting at a traffic light
that had just turned green started to yell. The three cars in front of him were not moving
fast enough for him I guess and he started to yell. He yelled, "All I want to do is
go F!@#$%^ forward". My friend and I could hear this because both of his windows were
down and he was really loud. I guess what he didn't realize was that the car in the front
wanted to turn right, but had to wait for for people to pass. Still I think something else
during the day lead him to snap. But, honestly he looked like a fool when he did it.
Date: 05:51pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
In response to Sunny - 04:04pm Feb
25, 2002 HST (#330 of 335. Right now I am also feeling the pressure of everything coming
in at once. I also look at things that are to be due far from now and do not concentrate
on the things at hand. I try to jot everything done on a calender or planner or something
just so that everything doesn't seem overwhelming and I don't stress myself out. Although,
there are times where I fly my planner and get totally stressed out. Stressed out where I
cannot get myself out of the rut that I am in. The next day still starts off for me as how
I ended it the night before, so I am trying really hard to keep up with using the four
options method.
Date: 06:03pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
In response to sublime - 04:17pm Feb 25, 2002 HST (#331 of 336). I am very interested in what lead him to say such things about people of Japanese ethnicity and how did he react to what you told him? I just watched a video in class on the differences of Japanese and American cultures and this guy who ever he is who said those things is an idiot. That is why if you have comments it is better off being not said because you never know. Not saying that he should have said what he said, but commenting on anything for that matter. Unless, it is a respectful comment that others will not get upset about and they can comment on as well. Maybe if he was asking guestions on things that he didn't know about that lead to the discussion, but not just blurting out harsh things like that. I am very proud of you for keeping your cool and not resorting to rage. At least you know you handled it in a calm and collected manner.
Date: 06:35pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
In response to SteggyBlue:
I know what you mean about those morning pesky morning noises. Some of my worst experiences with morning noises have come at the expense of cats in heat. Yes, cats always seem tgo want to make out right outside of my room, near my window. Unfortunately, my bed is situated right under my window. The sound of two cats (maybe three) getting it on can be very annoying.
Sometimes I become so irritated that I whip out my super soaker, fill it up, and shoot the cats with water. I know this is an act of rage and that at those particular moments I am in my negative life arena. Yet as soon as I see those cats run in fear I feel a sense of joy within me.
I have tried moving to other rooms in the house, but those irritating "sexual purrrr" noises just seem to permeate through every wall. The super soaker method is my only logical solution to the problem, the cats run away, I am left feeling better about myself, and I can get back to sleep.
--Aftershock
Date: 07:02pm Feb 25, 2002 HST
IN regards to Tracy...
The way I deal
with situations such as test problems is... by telling myself, In 5 years will I still be
worried about this insignificant problem? Or I look at it constructively and say...
"XXXX, it was my choice not to study as much as I should have. I guess I learned my
lesson. There is always next time." This attitude has helped me to get good grades
and RARELY if not never, depress myself. As that guy said in the presentation, "your
dead in 40-50 years anyway." don't waste time disturbing yourself.
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