I'm happily married and have been for 4 1/2 years. My husband is in the army and, therefore is deployed quite frequently. This is a trial in our marriage, but with a little work and the right attitude it works well for us. Donna Handoe
Feb '96
Honolulu, HI

Relationship is a very abstract thing, especially love relationship. It can drive you nuts but it is also as sweet as honey. I don't really know how to put it into words, but I am enjoying my love relationship now. Amy Lam
Feb '96
Honolulu, HI

In my present relationship I go through all emotions possible. Of course happiness dominate and it has to in order for me to stay in a relationship. However after 2 years, I started to have higher expectations from him and of course not all happened right away, so I felt all kind of negative emotions such as frustration, anger, and sadness. Well I have learned to have more realistic expectations to eliminate disappointment and all negative feelings. Jasmine Chatelain
Feb '96
Honolulu, HI

My latest relationship with a friend Ezra went to pieces for one or two days. Why might you ask? Because he beat me by one game in tennis. That's not a big deal you say. Well, I've been playing tennis once a week while he plays tennis once a year and he beat me. I lost because as Ezra and my other friend knew I was experimenting with a new stroke style with heavy topspin and was hitting the ball out. I really hate it when I lose. I was cocky and thought I could beat him experimenting but I wasn't that good. I was depressed.

Ezra made some wise cracks but he always does because he's a good humored guy and is always up to good. He's a great guy but I was still steamed at him and even more steamed at myself. I think he knew I was steamed because everyone who knows me knows I hate losing to the extreme and I always try my hardest to win. And if I lose I learn my lessons and win the next time. I couldn't hate Ezra because he's so nice. Ironically I was most mad at myself for losing and not playing him seriously like I should have. I was so confident I'd beat him that I was using full force strokes. Luckily he only beat me by one game. Of course needless to say he hasn't won any sets against me. I don't feel any animosity towards him because he hasn't won any sets against me presently. What also steamed me was my friend who I usually beat smoked Ezra while I lost by one game. I normally don't mind losing to a friend but I don't like it when it's something I really like.

Calvin Cheung
Feb '96
Honolulu,HI

Having just left a six year relationship, I have some advise for people thinking about getting in them. First of all for the men, it is so easy to be a good boyfriend or husband, but some of you are too stupid to figure it out. Treat your significant other as something not to be taken for granted. You don't have to bring her flowers everyday, just pay attention to her and her feelings. I don't know, I guess every person is different and I am only speaking generally. But, it seems like I see so many men who think they have "control" over their relationship and end up crying in their drinks because their girlfriends wised up.

And here is my advise for the woman, wise up!!! Don't let yourself be treated in anyway, but the way you deserve.

Robin G. Miller
March '96
Honolulu, HI

In regards to confessions:Hmm...this won't get me in any trouble will it? Well while I was seeing this guy some time ago, I had a little "adventure" with another guy. It wasn't anything serious, it was one of those 'truth or dare" things that leads from one thing to another. The only disappointment that I have in myself is that I never kissed the guy I was seeing because I thought it might hurt me too much when he left. (His father was stationed elsewhere). Yet after admitting to him that I really wanted to kiss him for so long, it turns out, I hurt him instead. I must say that all is well though. I guess despite all downfalls everyone has in a relationship, if you truly love someone, you have the power to overcome the hardships.

Jenny Lumbre
March '96
Honolulu, HI

Relationships have never been my strong point. In the past, I used to jump from person to person and I never really had a chance to sit back and really get to know one individual really well. Now that I am in college I have decided to grow up a little when it comes to this kind of thing. I have decided that I want to get to know a person before starting anything and I will be willing to wait for that "right" person to come along. Relationships, like all things in life, require commitment. It should be something that, even though doesn't last, leaves you with many wonderful memories. That is what I will be looking for this time.

David Asato
March '96
Honolulu, HI

Being that I'm a creative guy, I wanted to impress this girl that I liked. I asked her out one day and she accepted---I was stoked!! Anyway, you can just imagine how difficult it was to impress her. So the time came to pick her up. She stepped into my car. Low and behold, the first thing she does is look at herself in the mirror. She pulled the visor down---POOOOOF! A ROSE falls right onto her lap. ----Awwwwwwwww how cute. We've been together for 4 1/2 years now.

Rowney Martinez
March '96
Honolulu, HI

I've never ever had anything to say about relationships before. Now that I have a good relationship I can say this: It's great when things are good, sad when things go bad and awesome when you've made up....

Jerome Villafuerte
April '96
Honolulu, HI