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kathyhirokane 03/30/01 3:34 PM RE: Welfare rage

hello! i know what you mean. some people actually need welfare, but others take advantage of the system. just recently they caught that lady who was charged with welfare fraud. she was seen driving a brand new ford explorer with vanity plates and had like, tons of hawaiian bracelets. people that knew her were getting suspicious and they reported her. good for her!!! i hate to hear about greedy people taking advantage of the system when it is there to help the unfortunate. then they go and use that money not for their children, but for themselves. how selfish! i hope that in the after-life, they are those children who need the money, but can't because their parents spend it all on themselves!!

sakodash 03/30/01 1:08 PM Welfare rage

I never really got mad before about those people who receive welfare. I always thought that they needed the help and the extra money would help feed and clothe their children. However, I just recently found out a person I know is receiving welfare checks. She definately doesn't deserve it!! She may have a child but she is perfectly capable of working that lazy ass of hers!! She works part-time, just moved into an expensive house that she is renting for a ridiculous amount of money, drives a pretty expensive car, and still has money to go clubbing and drinking on the weekends. How do you figure that? I don't understand our welfare agency!! Don't they check on these people? Oh yeah, plus she's receiving child support every month. To me, it just seems like she's getting free money and just eating it all up. I don't even know if this money is being used for the baby or for her.

sakodash 03/31/01 5:17 PM RE: car rage

Hey Kathy!! We had a loaner last weekend and we had the same problem too. The car needed to be dropped off on Thursday afternoon and my mom thought it would be back by Friday. She called Friday afternoon and they told her it still wasn't ready so they'd call her when it was finished. She didn't want to keep calling so she waited...ALL WEEKEND!! Plus, Monday was a holiday. I thought they at least worked Saturdays!! On Tuesday, she called them back and they told her they JUST started working on it. She was pretty irritated by then. Since she doesn't like driving cars, we switched and she drove my truck and over the weekend we put on over a 100 miles on this 2001 Corolla!! I hope they didn't get too pissed off!! Well, have fun with your loaner...sorry it went so bad for you. My mom was pretty mad at the car people too!!

kathyhirokane 03/30/01 3:27 PM car rage

i had to bring my car in to get fixed (the window wouldn't go up sometimes), so i called the dealership and made an appointment and made sure i was able to get a loaner.i get to the dealer today and drop my car off. then i go to pick up my loaner, but obviously they forgot that i had requested one - we ended up waiting for half an hour to be helped and to get a loaner.then, i called the dealer around mid-afternoon, and they hadn't even started working on the car yet! they said that they were closed over the weekend, so...i probably won't even get my car back till tuesday! i can't believe it! why even make an appointment if they aren't even going to be looking at the car until days later?plus, the loaner they gave us had so little bit gas! why is it that whenever you get a loaner, there is never any gas in the tank???

skyblue 04/01/01 5:27 PM RE: dumb people rage

You go girl! I would've been upset if anyone blocked the driveway of our garage without asking my family/me permission first. I can empathize with your rage because one afternoon, I came home to discover a huge 4x4 truck blocking our two-car garage driveway. The owner of the truck was our neighbor's friend. I stepped out of my car with a digusted look on my face and was about to tell him to move his truck. However, the truck owner rushed out and apologized for his actions. It's amazing how some people are so rude and inconsiderate that they don't think to ask before parking their vehicle. I'm glad that you spoke up! I bet the guy was embarrassed for making such a foolish mistake.

kathyhirokane 03/30/01 3:38 PM dumb people rage

last night i walked outside the house and noticed a big white car parked right in front of our driveway. i didn't know who owned the car, but figured they were around somewhere. i was debating whether to have the car towed when the owner comes walking out of my neighbors house. i told him to move his car, since it was obviously blocking our driveway (which is illegal, duh!!!). the look on his face was like, 'oh, did not know i parked in front of your drive way, blocking the way so that no one can get out'. hello???? what if there was an emergency and i had to drive somewhere? i wouldn't be able to get out of my own driveway! some people have no brains!

virtual-b 04/04/01 12:04 PM RE: court rage

Well, the hearing was held this morning. In a way, I feel like there is closure, but another way, I feel empty. I admitted guilt and took what the judge gave me. Then, the other party had this one last jab. That hurt, but I guess when you're at fault, you just have to take it and say I agree. I guess, "carlisle" is right, what makes me feel the worst is my disappointment and shame in myself, rather than anything a judge says. I keep thinking that I should have not done that, and I should have done this. It's a self-rage in a way. We learn in psychology that in the abc model, the antecedent event leads to consequences, but is mediated by our beliefs. Thus we have abc. The incident and court hearing are the antecedent events, which are mediated by my beliefs or thoughts of "I should not have done that" and "I made a big mistake" lead up to the consequences, which is guilt, sadness, shame, and remorse. So I have to change that b to get a better result. I feel funny analyzing myself. A psychology major trying to use psychology to heal himself/herself. That's ironic.

carlisle 04/02/01 8:36 PM RE: court rage

I understand to well about getting into trouble and then having it catch up with you. Someone that is very close to me is going through almost the same thing. But, what this person did can never be changed. The person made a mistake and they are paying for it. The only thing that I can do, is be there. And tell this person that they need to pay there dues and get on with their life. You can rage only so much, until you make youself sick. My close friend is dealing with it, and my friend is not blaming him/herself anymore. It will take time. But, as long as you know what you did was wrong, than good. Blaming yourself and kicking yourself in the butt is not going to solve anything. But, it just might make you a little angrier at yourself. Pay your dues, and live you life that is the only thing you can due. Getting on with your life is a lot more important then raging against yourself.

oshale 04/02/01 12:28 AM RE: court rage

I know what going to court is all about. Whatever it is, it is very intimidating experience. But what i noticed was, it is not as bad as it seem to be. I had to go court for not having insurance card in my car when i got pulled over but I went to the insurance company right away and got affadavit and when I went to the court, the judge was pretty understanding and i got away without any fine. But while you are in the court room you get to see a lot of people and the judge was very understanding and considerate, of course to certain degree. Someone just told the judge i couldn:t afford to have insurance but i got insurance right after the citation, the judge didn:t fine him for his effort. Isn:t that great? I think it is not as terrible as it seem. Just calm down and try to handle your current situation because what:s been done is done already and nothing you can do only but the present and the future. So just calm down and think honestly and don:t get stressed out because it:ll be all over by then. Good luck!

virtual-b 03/31/01 10:35 AM court rage

This week I have to go to court, district court. I won't say the allegations, but it's the worst trouble I've been in my whole life. I'm stressed out from the other week when I got the court order to appear in court. I've been trying to build my defense, but really I don't have any. I've resigned myself to just apologizing and receiving whatever the judge gives me as punishment. Sure, the whole situation with having to go to court is killing me. But, what bothers me even more, is how and why I got myself into this mess. It's more rage against myself than rage against going to court. Scared, frustrated, worried, disappointed, sad, all rolled up into one. Geez, I wish that I could fast forward time and be done with this thing. Or better yet, rewind time and just avoid being in this situation. The hardships in this semester are just kicking my butt. I can't wait to get this next few months over with.

shaun56 04/01/01 10:24 PM RE: Violence In The Fish Tank Rage

That is pretty ironic how you happened to find the shrimp before the eel. You should have let me know you were into saltwater aquariums. I could easily catch you stuff from the sea. Whenever we go fishing, we catch some cool stuff that is aquarium compatible. Anyways, as for the shrimp, their screwed man. They have not more than a week at the most I think. Maybe you should take them out and scampi them for me.... Joke man.... Anyways, I don't eat shrimp. But I guess they'll be gone in a little bit. Later~

Daniel1978 03/31/01 10:52 AM Violence In The Fish Tank Rage

So over the vacation I bought another fishtank and set it up. I started out with some beautifully colored shrimp and hermet crabs. I let them sit for a few days to test the water. They did great! I was out a few days later (yesterday) shopping some fish for my little sister (she's 4) when I came across a fish that I've always dreamed of having. The pet store had a Zebra Moray!!! Such a beautiful, powerful fish. I got a few eels, but nothing that compaires to this. I knew I had to buy it. I shelled out the money, took it home and let it get aquainted with it's new home. When I bought it, I knew perfectl;y well that it ate crustacions. My poor, poor shrimp are crustacions. They've been ok so far, but I have a feeling it's only a matter of time... This stinks. I'm a vegetarian and I don't want to see my shrimp get killed (well...I kind of do...) AND they were'nt cheap! Now I wait here knowing it's only a matter of time before the eel's tank mates go bye bye. It makes me angry. Oh, well.

purple848 04/07/01 4:12 PM RE: Smoke rage

I feel rage against people who smoke inconsiderately of others. Probably, the woman who was smoking when she was walking ahead of you wouldn't even know if you stopped and waited to avoid her smoke. You are a victim of inconsiderate smoker as many of us have been. Maybe the smokers don't mind the smell of the cigarette smoke, but they should know that there are many people who don't like that smell. The smokers may think they are being polite when they ask people "Do you mind if I smoke?" befoer they light their cigarette, but it's hard to say, "Yes, I do. So please don't smoke." I especially don't like to smell the smoke of the cigarette when I am eating. It ruins a good taste of food. I hope smoking people are aware of the direction where their smoke is heading. I think people who smoke in the place where a non-smoker can inhale their exhaled smoke are being selfish. They are satisfying themselves by smoking, while they know the second-hand smoke is a possible cause of cancer.

gemini-gal 04/02/01 12:13 AM RE: Smoke rage

I hate smoke from cigarettes too! I'm not saying that smokers are bad and dirty people because friends and relatives of mine smoke. However, I hate it when the smoke around me makes me smell bad. Second hand smoke sometimes give me headaches and makes me gag a little. I don't like it too when people aren't considerate and they blow their smoke all over the darn place. I'm glad that most places are non-smoking areas now. I think that one of the worst places for smoke is nightclubs and bars. When I come out, my hair and clothes smell so bad and what's worse is that the smoke smell clings on to your clothes for days.

lavaflow 03/31/01 11:59 AM Smoke rage

Last week, I caught a bus to go to Hamilton library. It was Saturday so that only two other people and I got off at the school. One girl and I seemed to go to the same direction and she was walking in front of me. As soon as start walking, she lit her cigarette and I was surrounded by smoke as I followed her. I don't nomally care smells of cigarette smokes but there were no other people around the campus since it was on Saturday so it seemed that her smoke was really destroying clear fresh air. Also, I didn't like when my hair smelled like the smoke because I just took shower before I left my place. I became a little annoyed and thought about alternative path to the library but I didn't want to take a longer path so that I kept walking. I recognised afterwards that I could have stopped walking and waited at somewhere until she'd gone.

kakela 04/01/01 4:02 PM RE: Tailgating rage

I guess sometimes people have to make doodoo really bad or something. That is what I have to tell myself so that I don't get all mad with people who drive like that. If I make it funny then it doesn't seem that bad. I know that if I had to go really bad, i would be driving like that too. Gotta try and make excuses for people who drive really crazy, unless they are driving around in those little custom honda jobs. Then it can be assumed that they drive like that because they like too. Well, maybe they have to go and make doodoo really bad too sometimes.

sakodash 03/31/01 5:24 PM Tailgating rage

On our way home today, there was this guy in a Civic tailgating everyone!! He wasn't even tailgating us...we were behind of him but we were getting so angry just watching him tailgate one person after another. The other people just like didn't really care, they just moved out of his way. Guys like these need to be brake checked!! I don't understand the point of tailgating...it isn't gonna get you anywhere any faster. He could have changed into another lane many times but no he just recklessly went his merry little way. What a dick!!

gemini-gal 03/31/01 5:53 PM Too many commercials on TV rage!

You guys know what this is about right? Darn, there are just too many commercials on tv now days! When I was watching one of my favorite shows on MTV, it felt like it took forever to get back to the show. I can even remember when I was watching a show and then the commercials came on so I switched the channel to MTV just to avoid watching commercials. I remember watching an entire music video that was at least a little over three minutes long and when I switched back to the show I was watching...the commercials were still going on! I just wanted to throw the remote at the television! Instead I screamed at the tv set "Come on you f--#%^$! tv station...too much f--&^$ commercials! Ah, commercial rage! The commercials now days are really dumb too. Like this one commercial was advertising perfume and cologne and it came across like a condom commercial. It was very sexual with a lot of bare skin and at the end of the commercial I was like..."oh, they're selling perfume!" DUH! Nevertheless, there are way too much commercials and I can't stand it especially when my favorite show is on and it feels like forever to get back to it.

meow24 04/04/01 4:12 PM RE: Sue the State

i really don't think that the strike will last more than a week even if it happens, but if we have to be in a situation to sue the state, i won't just sue them for the tuition. i would sue them for all the time i invested in this semester plus the time i would have to waste to come back to school again for the following semester. i was planning to start working as soon as i graduate in this may, but if this thing goes too far to a point where i can't get my degree, i will sue them to make up the whole thing.i don't know why cayatano's keep saying he doesnt have the money to pay our teachers and professors. i don't even want to mention about all the projects hes planning to do or did. i wonder where hes spending the money he gets from the cigarrett companies. i know they are getting like millions of dollors.

Number11BUS 04/03/01 3:25 PM RE: Sue the State

Watashi NO and the gang, Just sto you will know, the legislature can call a special session and/or a special hearing any time they want--including the negotiations for the unions and the state, including a strike settement, including a budget that works, including about anything that affect the well being and safety of the State of Hawaii. The stale mate the Gov is helping to fuel does not have to be this way. The whole bunch of elected officials need to work all this out in a democratic process. This divide and conquer approach does not work all the time. HSTA and UHPA are not asking for unreasonable items. Education is important and the citizens of the State need to keep the pressure up on the Governor, Legislators, Mediators to come to a fair agreement. It really is silly the elected officials are not paying more attention to business and less attention to ego trips about who is the most important here. I must assume the elected officials don't mind being embarassed at a national level for not taking care of regular business. Keep this in mind during the elections of 2002. You still have power too. Number11BUS

mightymousesa 04/02/01 10:47 PM RE: Sue the State

Here is an update that will give you some more rgae! It appears that the legislature will go out of session on May 2, 2001 so if the strike is not resolved by then, then the faculty will probably strike again in the fall!!Things are really going to get bad before they get better!! BEWARE!

kakela 04/01/01 4:07 PM RE: Sue the State

Yeah I heard the same thing. I also heard that UH will be required to give back tuition after so many days on strike and that if they don't or can't, then the students can sue for their tuition. Somebody who knows all these rules should put out something that we can read to let us know what the hell is going on and what we can do. In my english class we discuss this stuff often and most people think that because o this rule about tuition, that the strike will not last more than the 2 weeks or 20 days or whatever because UH and the state can't afford to reimburse all the students.

Watashi_No 04/01/01 2:18 PM Sue the State

I don't know if this is going to happen, like anything else that affects us right now with the teachers strike and all but I heard it on the news. The news report said that the ASUH president was inquiring whether the students can sue the state (I think it was the state) to get back our tuition or something if the teachers strike longer than 20 days. Now I very, truly hope that the state and teachers settle this strike business, but it would be very good for the students if this thing did go on for awhile if the students did sue. I know that if this whole semester was for nothing I am going to be really mad! I worked hard since the beginning, and I will not lose all that hard work just because of this whole thing not being settled. I atleast want my money back, it doesn't make sense for the school to be able to keep the money if we aren't getting our credits!! I don't know anymore, I just hope the students can do something, and we wont get screwed over!

SpoiledBrat 04/01/01 9:15 PM RE: gas pump rage

I totally understand what you are writing about. I go to the Tesoro gas station and they have twelve pumps, three in each row. I hate it when some people don't go behind the first car and stay at the third pump leaving the middle pump empty. I don't think anybody likes taking the time to parallel park. The other thing I hate about gas stations is when there is a little gas left over in the pump and when I take it out to put it in my car the gas spills out right onto my feet. That has happened to me many times. I have never been really upset because usually I'm wearing slippers, but it worries me to have gas soaked into my slippers.

kakela 04/01/01 3:57 PM gas pump rage

At the Chevron by Kahala Mall the gas station is set up so that two cars can fill up at the same time in the same lane one car in front of the other. I think there are for lanes with two sets of pumps for each lane. This means that 8 cars can be filling up at the same time. Where the rage comes is when you follow a car into the same lane and instead of moving up to the second pump and allowing you to pull in behind at the first pump, they stop at the first pump and block you out. This has happened to me twice at this Chevron. Both times the station was packed with cars trying to fill up gas and others trying to get to the car washes that people have there so often. There is not a lot of space to ove around so it is good that people cooperate. the first time the bastard gets out of his car at the first pump and starts to fill up the gas before realizing that he is blocking people from getting to the second pump. The second time this happened the guy got out and realized that he was blocking me from the second pump and got back into his car and moved up. It is good that they both realized that they were being inconciderate to the other drivers waiting for the pumps but tht first bastard realized a little too late.

kakela 04/01/01 4:01 PM Punahou Punk-ass Kids

I put this episode of rage in my report 2.One night a while ago my brother and I were watching some TV and heard cars driving up and down the road so we went outside to see what was going on. There were these kids setting up cones in the middle of the road and trying to knock them down with their cars. These were nice cars and the kids were dressed well, so you can arrive at the conclusion that they were preppy kids who were just acting stuid. There was about 10 of them mostly boys. They were also throwing the cones at eachother's cars and putting the cones on the tops of the cars, then accelerating and braking really hard to get the cones of the cars. What pised me off was the fact that they were hitting the cars that were parked on the street, my truck included. When I saw that I went into the house and grabbed my baseball bat and stood out in the street. They saw me and immidiately stopped the cars and pulled over. Some of them began to pick up the cones and put them away. My brother's friend who goes to Punahou lives a few houses down and saw what was happening and came over. He told us that they were Punahou punks and confirmed my initial feeling that they were just preppy punks acting stupid. I walked over to the honda that was driving the most wrecklessly and tapped on his window with the bat. He rolled down the window and I stuck my head in the car and got right in his face. I could tell that he was scared. He was mumbling and appologizing and couldn't look me in the eye. I told him in a not so nice way to pack up his cone and go away. They went away and I went back in to watch the rest of my TV show but I did miss about 30 minutes of the movie, piss me off.

shaun56 04/02/01 4:47 PM RE: Thoughts on Preppy Punk-ass Kids

Yeah man I totally agree with you. There are some people who just have to learn to keep their fricken mouths shut. One time at this bar in Pearl City, we were drinking and singing karaoke. This young punk walks in with a group of friends. Everyone knew that they were not of age so it was just a laugh to the people of age. Anyways, I was standing at the bar, and this young punk asks me what I am looking at. I tell him his hair, and he says, what problem. I gently put down my beer and say, only if you got one. We walk outside as his friends gather around him. My friends stumble outside, laughing and joking, telling me to kick his ass. He makes all big for a second, and then I pushed his ass onto the ground. He got up and swung at me, but I dodged, and pushed his ass on the ground again. As he was trying to get up, I put my foot by his face and he cringed. I told him and his friends to beat it, and of course as preppy punks usually do, they did. We all had a good laugh at it, and partied the rest of the night on. I guess what they need sometimes is just a reality check. Most of the time, they go around in their flashy cars punkin' people out, and running away. Next time you run into these lil punks, give them a reality trip. Hopefully that will teach them from actin' as if, you know. But then again, some never learn.....

kakela 04/01/01 5:21 PM Thoughts on Preppy Punk-ass Kids

I love to hate them. I went to a private school and I can tell the kind so fast. Most of the popular boys in my class were like this. They act stupid like running up the escalator that goes down and are really loud and drive custom job hondas and crap thinking that all of that makes them Speed Racer. I wrote about one experience I had with the Punahou punks that were acting stupid with the road cones. I knew that I could threaten them and they would not fight back because kids like them are hollow. They probably never got into a real fight before and poop in their pants when some stranger threatens them. I know because some of those guys I went to high-school with had experiences like that where they pissed some guy off and the guy got right in their face and made them all scared regardless of what they say later. One time my friends and I were hanging out and there was a big group of these punks that were making stupid comments at us so we walked over to the one that looked like the leader of the group and grabbed him. He and all his friends were shocked and did nothing as we kicked the hell out of the guy and threw him back at his friends. they picked the guy up and just went away. I is really funny to see how they react when the people they want to irritate or intimidate are not intimidated and walk up to them and threaten them back or actually start hitting some of them. What do they expect? You pick a fight, your gonna have to expect a fight.

SpoiledBrat 04/01/01 9:27 PM Parking lot rage

I truly dislike driving through the walmart parking lot. It is constantly crowded and people walk in the middle of the road. What is extremely irratating is when people wait on the side or drive up and down the rows looking for a close parking space. If a car is leaving and the person waits that is fine, but there are people who just park on the side just waiting for somebody to leave. Everybody likes to park close so they don't have to walk far. That is just irratating. Who cares where you park just park the car. And who cares if you have to walk just get off your lazy butt and walk. I'm sure a lot people need the exercise. Another problem is when people are walking they choose to walk in the middle of the road and not to the side. I also hate it when they walk their kids on the outside of them leaving them closer to the passing cars. They need to pick them up or move them on the inside away from the cars. That concludes my parking lot rage at walmart.

purple848 04/05/01 3:06 AM RE: feeling OLD rage

I can relate to your story, although I have never involved in any type sports. I feel like I'm getting old when I can't remember things like I used to. I am reminded of that every time I take exam. I am lazy, so I don't study for the exam until the last minute. Since my memory is getting bad, I can't remember all the terminology and concept that I learned, and I get bad grade as a result of that. It wasn't like that before, you know. I couldn't get a good grade since back then, but I could get an OK grade by studying a night before. But now, I can't do that any more. I can't stay up all night to study either. I try to stay up and study a night before the exam, but I become sleepy soon and end up waking out of sleep on my bed in the mornig of the exam day. I don't wanna get old anymore!

virtual-b 04/04/01 12:19 PM RE: feeling OLD rage

I understand what you're saying. A lot of times I look back and say I wish I knew then what I know now. I would change a bunch of things. I guess that's a part of growing old. When you grow older, you realize how much more important the simple things are. I'm not just thinking of physicality. I'm talking about precious memories that can't be relived or done over. I cherish those moments, but when I was actually experiencing them, I thought nothing of them. The young want to be older, and the old want to be younger. Weird. Not so much as a rage against time, but a growing acceptance of it.

shaun56 04/01/01 10:33 PM feeling OLD rage

Well, here it is..... I coach a soccer team for the HYSA league rright... I have a team of 13 and under boys who I just started coaching for the spring season. They are good kids, with okay attitudes for their age, but lets not get into that. So every friday nights we have pick up games for anyone in the soccer club of Mililani. Since I am a coach, I am expected to show up and monitor. So I decide to play, to see if I actually retained my skills up to par with my soccer knowledge. I can honestly say that I do still have it, and I'm not being concieted. But I can honestly admit that I do not have the same legs as I did before. I did fine that night, but the next day and today, I am just killin'. I feel like an old fart. I cannot believe how a couple of years can harm you so badly. I honestly feel like time is flying and I am getting older faster. It kinda pisses me off because there's so much still that I want to do. I guess I'll just have to do them all quickly.

oshale 04/02/01 12:19 AM waiter rage

This is another one from the restaurant where I felt rage again. It just happened today and I was reallyin a good mood. The hostess placed us(my boyfriend and I) into this corner area. We were given the menu but the waiter failed to show up.Usually they ask for drink first but I think we waited about 10-15 minutes waiting for him but nobody even looked at us. I looked around waving my hand trying to get there attention and finally someone said(one of the waitress) who is suppose to take care of them? I was so astonished. They totally didn:t know we were waiting. They didn:t even know we arrived or someone who was in charge of that area didn:t care enough to look around for us. Finally he arrived saying he didn;:t see us. Ya, right. I wasn:t fuming or anything. But the more I thought about it more mad i got. It wasn:t the wait, it was the fact that they didn:t eeven notice us. Anyway, the waiter was really apologetic so I didnt stay mad for that long. I calmed down and enjoyed my dinner and I was no longer mad. So the night ended up to be pleasant after all.

kingwheelah 04/02/01 1:12 PM A Personal Accident

Speed, leaving late, etc. are just some of the things that describe my driving style. I realise that I have bad driving habits as expressed by myself and by my passengers. I feel all of this has changed in a matter of a day. I have never really gotten in trouble with driving besides a very minor fender-bender. Last night, my girlfriend got into a three car accident that left her without a car. I am happy to say that she came out of the accident with no harm done to herself or anyone else. She was not the cause of the accident, but the fact that she was driving under the speed limit is what I think saved her life. A bus was coing off the on-ramp and entered into the highway. The bus entered the lane, but went over into the next lane causing the car in front of my girlfriend to slam on his brakes. Luckily, my girlfriend was at a safe distance when she slammed on her brakes. She hit the car in front of her which then hit the bus. The driver and my girlfriend had the same story to tell, but the bus driver had a different story. A couple of witnesses stated that it was not my gf's fault nor the driver she hit, so the cops ruled it as an accident. The point I am trying to make here is that this has drastically changed the way I drive. I went to the movies last night and I was driving about 5 mph under the speed limit the whole way to and back. I abided by all the rules and I shocked my passengers. I have realized that I have to stop putting myself in the situations that I do (for example speeding)that could put myself in danger and also endangering the life of another person. I drove this mornging also and I am still overly cautious of the way that I am driving. I plan to use this to my advantage and to curb the bad driving habits that I have. There's nothing like an accident involving a loved-one to kick you in the ass to make changes! Pardon my french...

carlisle 04/02/01 8:50 PM RE: Girl rage

hello mr. man. Well, sometimes it is easy for guys or people in general to blame the female hormone on the monthly period. My husband gets pissed of at me when I bitch at him for no reason. But, we have come to an understanding. I told him to tell me to cool it, if I am raging about nothing. Maybe that is what you have to do. You men need to stop blaming the monthly period on womens mood swings. Sometimes it could be that the girl is just naturally in a moody mood. Understand your friend a little, and talk to her about her raging feelings.

kathyhirokane 04/02/01 6:01 PM RE: Girl rage

hello. you have probably heard this a thousand times, but until you have a period, you wont know how it feels. it's not just cramps, but it's bloating, headaches, bodyaches, etc... i don't think your friend is mean to you intentionally, but you could be more understanding, especially if you know she is having her period. also, don't be quick to blame everything on the menstrual cycle! some people are just like that, regardless of their period! and why do girls always have to be energetic, lively, and refreshed? why aren't guys like that?

shaun56 04/02/01 4:34 PM Girl rage

I have this friend who is a girl. We are close, but yet we are far. Every month, she starts to take things out on me and makes me feel kinda crappy. I don't understand why some girls must take their hormones out on other people. Why do they seem to choose the closest person to them, and bash the hell out of them. I do not know how it feels to lose a bunch of blood every month, but I do know that the emotions are still controllable. I wish that all girls were to feel energetic, lively, refreshed, and happy like some girls do when they get their period. I think that a part of the problem is the learned helplessness of the feelings involoved with the period. I think that girls are brought up to think negatively about their period. I know some girls who are totally the same when they have it or when they do not. I guess the only reason this bothers me, is because the horror is shed on me. What can I do???

purple848 04/04/01 3:05 AM RE: RAGE AT LIFE

I am very sorry for what had happened to you in such a short period of time. You must be hurt very deeply. It may seem so hard for you to view the world surrounding you as bright right now. Maybe this is a commonplace remark, but I believe that time heals your wounded heart. I believe in the power inside us human beings, and even though we may be overwhelmed by grief, we can get back to our lives as time passes by. There will be the time comes, for sure, that you will be able to think back these sad incidents and accept what each incidents really meant to you. And you know what? You've experienced too many sad incidents already, so from now on, only the good, pleasant, wonderful things will happen to you. So please hold on and pass through this difficult time.

ktootree 04/03/01 6:48 PM RE: RAGE AT LIFE

I have experienced a similar situation to yours, but not exactly the same. A few years ago, my great-grandmother died a somewhat unexpected death. It was hard for me to deal with it because that was the first death/funeral that I was old enough to remember. Then less than a couple months later, my great-grandfather passed away. He was so distraught with his wife’s death that his own health began deteriorating and he passed away. That was another blow to our entire family. I think the one of the hardest things for me to deal with was seeing my mother so sad about her grandparents death. Although, the most difficult thing was seeing my grandmother and aunties (the deceased were their parents) having to deal with such a great loss in less than two months. Since then I have experienced 6 deaths that have occurred close to me—2 of my uncles, my aunty, 2 friends, and the most recent, my grandfather. The death of my grandfather in ’99 was definitely the most difficult to deal with because I was very close to him. I still shed some tears when memories of him enter my mind, so I feel your pain. The most difficult times for me personally have happened within the last 2 years and I too went through a period of despair and telling myself, “I just want to disappear from this earth. I don’t want to be here no more.” I think I was more distraught than in a rage. The way I have tried to deal with those kinds of thoughts is whenever I feel them entering my mind I quickly try to block it out and not think about it. Then, I pray that those kinds of thoughts be removed from my mind and for comfort. Although I do stumble once in a while, I have been doing much better than before. Well, I thought I’d share my story with you and tell you that you’re not alone. Life definitely has its lows, and although we may not see it right away, certain events happen for a reason and may turn out for the better. I've heard that life’s trials and tribulations should not be looked upon as the end of the world, but as life lessons, which teach us and mold us into stronger beings in the end. I’m very glad to hear that you are not giving up. Although fighting on is difficult at times, it is a definite step in the right direction, so keep your head up. =) “…also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us…” Romans 5:4-5 (NIV Bible)

Number11BUS 04/03/01 3:38 PM RE: RAGE AT LIFE

Supreme-Finess,When you are "down" and depressed because of real events happeing in your life you need to give yourself a break. You can't always be everything to everybody. Getting on line is a time-consuming task. You have to weigh that with sleeping, eating, other classes--turn the volume down where you can, make allowances for yourself, request a "make-up" approach to your semester schedule. You appear to be getting the spunk back in you and can accomplishe all kinds of great things when you get the extra servings off your plate. Pat yourself on the back for sticking in there and getting all the things done that you did get done. All is not all a waste. Yes, it has been a tough period for you. And you are okay. It won't be this way all the time. Take care of what you can, ask assistance when you need it, and leave the rest to a higher power. Get a good night's sleep and start fresh again in the morning.Number11BUS

carlisle 04/02/01 8:25 PM RE: RAGE AT LIFE

Sometimes life throws you a curve ball, and in turn you hate the world for it. You hate the life that you are currently living in and sometimes you wish things were different. I have not experienced two deaths so close together, and a break up too. But, I have experienced lifes curve balls. It is not any fun let me tell you. Depression is all part of the mind. But, sometimes it can take over. It can take over in ways that can destroy your life. I suffered from it for 3 years until, finally I went into a downward spiral. Doctors put me on medication to keep me sane and to help me deal with the depression and anxiety. But, what did it do? It made me feel sick to my stomach. Relationship problems was part of the whole rage against life situation. Until one day, I decided to take myself off of the medication, with the dissaproval of doctors. Then I made the first step to turn my negative feelings against my life, into positive ones. I could not blame life for the trails that I went through, because I am what makes my life. I was tired of life running me, so I took full control of it. I fought my depression, which was very hard but, I made it. My grades have never looked better, and let me tell you, my grades suffered because I LET my life's rage take control of me. Stand up for yourself, that is the only way that you can make your self better. People can help pull you through things but, you are the only one that can truely understand. Because you are what makes life worth lively, not anybody else. I am glad that you are getting your life in order. I am glad that I did, because everything that I went through was a learning experience, and it might just give me the knowledge to help other people. e-mail me if you guys want to talk.

Supreme-Finess 04/02/01 4:44 PM RAGE AT LIFE

Life's trials and tribulations has put my life at an all time low. Honestly I feel that life has dealt me a bad hand and I am forced to play them. 8 months ago my grandmother had passed away. A month and a half ago my grandfather had passed away. And my girlfriend of six years has decided to move on with her life without me. This has been one unbearable year and semester. I haven't got online for almost 8 weeks because I just felt like giving up on everything. All I want to know is how could life be so cruel sometimes. It can kick you on the ground while your down and you still have to find a way to keep on moving. I am just about out of strength and tears to go on. But I have come to a point in my life where I must go on. I cant let them win. If i give up now, I admitting to my self that it has got the best of me. I would have surrendered all of my will if I just give up on school, work, and ultimately my mental and emotional well being. I cant do that just yet. Not when I am so close to graduating and nearing the end of my academic career. So this is my rage. Rage at life! Rage at all the negative things that has decided to take me down. My rage is to fight back and to block all the negative things that has tried to bring me down. So now I am back, I am gonna take control of my life once again; though it is tough, I must do it for my sake or get swallowed up in the darkness of my life. All I do is remember what a person said to me before they had passed away- that is; "Through the darkness comes a brighter day"- well, I am still trying to find it but i believe one day i will.

cjn 04/08/01 8:28 PM RE: Boyfriend does not like shopping

I totally agree with you. I always feel like I have to rush things when I want to take my time and look at things. Even if I ask my boyfriend's opinion on stuff, it is like I am bothering him. He does not even pretend to be interested in it.

leis 04/06/01 2:18 AM RE: Boyfriend does not like shopping

I understand that it is happy for you to enjoy shopping with your boy friend. However, I know that there are some guys who surly don't like going shopping!!! My husbund also doesn't like going shopping with me. (Even when he used to be my boy friend.) He often says that he has something better to do than shopping, or that he feels tired soon whenever he goes shopping. However, I want to enjoy shopping with him. What I do to fill this gap is to give him a chance to do what he wants equally as much as possible. During shopping, as I often notice that he seems to be tired, I usually say to him having a seat and waiting for me. Otherwise, as there are some shops that even he wants to go, I let him go to the shop. Then we continue to do it. This seems to be a fuss, but it is still happy for me to go shopping!

meow24 04/04/01 4:02 PM RE: Boyfriend does not like shopping

do you know what you can do to change them? do the same thing next time you go out w/ him to the one of his favorite place . he will ask you why you behave that way. then you tell him that's how he behaves when he goes shopping w/ you. he will surely learn how to behave next time you go to shopping w/ him. if he doesn't learn his lesson, there is no sense of wasting your time w/ a guy who doesn't respect your way of life.

TVR 04/03/01 12:36 AM RE: Boyfriend does not like shopping

I guess your right about consideration. But how I see it is that if you don't want to be rushed and you know your boyfriend will rush you. Why don't you gals just go shopping by yourselves! Why do women insist on having their boyfriends come with you!I think the reason why guys don't like to go shopping is because they feel they have better things to do. There's nothing that they can learn or find interesting about look at clothes. Especially, if they aren't for them. But, I do feel that we should more considerate about this topic. I know you girls try to make us happy by going with us to places that aren't interesting to you gals. This is why I totally agree that guys should be more sensitive to womens needs.

mightymousesa 04/02/01 10:54 PM Boyfriend does not like shopping

Okay, I understand that many guys do not like shopping BUT tell me why they have to make the girls they are with uncomfortably rushed while they are shopping! We sit through your crazy hiking trips that go no where. And we go with you to look at cars etc. Consideration goes a long way!! Learn that lesson and learn it quick!Your girlfriend will appreciate it!

TVR 04/03/01 12:17 AM RE: Obsession rage

I know exactly how you feel. I also have a girlfriend that acts this way. She always seems to get worked up whenever a certain person is talked about or is present. She total hates this girl and it seems like she can't forget about it. Even if their on the opposite side of the building she can't get over it. Anyways, what I wanted to know is how does your boyfriend react whenever you feel this way. Most of the time I feel that i'm stuck and there isn't much for me to do. Most of the time I may just listen to her and that usually makes it a little better. How about your boyfriend?As for me, I usually tell myself that it's not important and is stupid for me to feel this way. Why should I feel bad when it probably doesn't bother the other person. I'm putting added stress on myself when I don't really have to. When I think like that I usually feel better. Maybe this could work for you also!!?

sakodash 04/02/01 11:41 PM Obsession rage

I'm raging at myself. I don't understand. I feel obsessive!! I've noticed recently that whenever I get mad at something I think about it constantly...I just can't stop. I let it bother me and bother me until I get so worked up that I can't think straight. It usually has to do with a certain person that I hate because of her selfishness and bitchiness but yet whom I cannot avoid due to circumstances beyond my control. Sometimes, the things I've heard she's said about myself or those that I love bother me so much that it actually interferes with my daily life. I was sitting tonight watching Friends with my boyfriend when all of a sudden I started bitching about "how could she say this" and "how could she say that" right out of the blue. Tell me that's not a little crazy!! I just wish I could just drop problems and just forget about them. I don't understand why I think things over and over and over again until I get madder and madder and madder. Help!!

rie2001 04/03/01 12:22 AM Sky Rage

I just came back to Hawaii this morning. I took 7 hours trip by plane. 7 hours is long enough to make me tired. Plus, there was a kid keep screaming in the airplane. I tried to go to sleep but his shrill voice drove me crazy! What made me even mad was that his mother was sleeping for whole time her kid was making such a annoying noise. I almost cried out... God, help me!!

Supreme-Finess 04/03/01 1:11 AM RE: Strike Rage!

Here! Here! Personally,I dont know what to say about the whole thing. All I know is that the professors are very imortant to the University and the State and should be getting their due. Its pathetic what they are getting paid as compared to the other states. Classes like psych 409 has made me open my eyes into my own self, and how i deal with rage. I've never done that before until being in a class that has made me deal with those issues. I also admit that i needed it the most, because i feel that i lost many important things in my life due to rage. Rage at myself and rage at people, so you see, it would be ashame to lose professors and classes like ours, that make us search and explore our own minds and self and teach us to grow. The state has money to build fountains and pave the roads, then surely the state has money to make the cost of living much better for our professors.

TVR 04/03/01 12:54 AM Strike Rage!

Gosh, why can't the State and UHPA make some kind of agreement that will make them both happy. I know that the State can get the money some how. They seem to have to money to fund programs that are totally unnecessary. So why can't they cut those funds and just give them to the teachers. I feel that the teachers do deserve it and would be a good investment for the State. This is what the Governor has to think about. It might put a strain on them for a couple of years but if the university has good professors they probably can attract other good professors. And with these professors they probably can make more money for the university. Thus, both the State and the University will be happy.If the teacher's go on strike for a little while that would be alright. But what will happen if it lasts for a long time. They better find a way to save the semester or there will be a lot of anger students there well have to talk to.

Supreme-Finess 04/03/01 12:55 AM rage at wage

I just found out today that a coworker who has no prior experience at retail was getting paid 11.00/hr. When i heard this I was very upset. Not only because she was getting paid more than I was but she had no experience. I had three years retail experience and my starting was less than hers. I nearly walked out of my job. However after a few hours of thinking about it at work; i realized that it would be foolish of me to actually do that. You see, hears my dilemma; if any employee is found to be talking about wages or salary of another worker or their own, they can be fired. So I could not talk about it because I can be fired for it. Man, I just got a promotion so I really don't want to screw it up yet I feel cheated. Maybe it is because of the fact that I did not receive that much when I first started. Or maybe its because I was at my job when it made its debut;and was there from the very beginning even before and it opened and she just got hired at my workplace like a month ago and she is getting paid more than me when i first started. I think it maybe a little bit of both. Well, I guess its not her fault but i'm pissed! She put 10.00 on her application where it stated her "desired pay". I guess I should have written down a higher amount when i filled out mine. Damn, maybe i'm raging because I feel like an idiot right now and dont know why I just typed that. But anyway, this whole class is about identifying rage and learn how to better manage it and learn from it so you cant deny that I identified the causes; however, trying to dissipate it is what i am left with. I figure that if i cant do anything about, then i might as well live with it. I cant talk about it nor could i do anything about it. Its just one of those times and situations where it was better off not knowing about it, and also one of those situations in life where it sucks and you cant do anything about it. The most dreadful thing about it is that I have been having alot of those lately. Oh well, all i can do is try hard and wait until the clouds go away so I could shine my brightest.

meow24 04/04/01 3:49 PM RE: PLANE RAGE!!

i travel quit a bit during the vacations, so i've experienced air rage a few times. my worst rage was when i was on the Korean air on my way back to hawaii from korea. half of the people on the plane were japanese and other half were koreans. however, korean men were continuously smoking in the lavatory. the smokes were filling up the plane and i was really getting upset. i told one of the flight attendant about it but she didn't do anything to stop it. i really hate second hand smoking, so i was really getting mad at these people. but there were too many of them and i couldn't do anything except keep complaining. guess what?! they smoked their way to hawaii. i've been on korean air several times but that was the first time i experienced smokers on the plane. i really wish they would all die miserably from the lung cancer!!

snowhawaii 04/03/01 1:55 PM RE: PLANE RAGE!!

Hi,I was working for an airline company before. So I experienced air rage quite often especially when I encountered those passengers who lack common sense.Your story that the guy was talking on his cell phone on the ship made me a bit scared. You know or you may not know, but cell phone-use is prohibited because it puts out of order of mechanics of the aircraft. So in that sense he put all other passengers in danger.If you pay attention, you might hear such an announcement saying please don't use cell phone...I know there are those inconsiderate people everywhere.When you encounter somebody who uses the cell phone on the ship next time, you'd better warn him immediately or tell a flight attendant.Otherwise your flight may be delayed because of mentenance.

PHYRE2001 04/03/01 1:12 PM PLANE RAGE!!

I went to Maui this weekend during spring break for a family gathering. I never really noticed what air rage was about, but doing report one on air rage was almost fictional to me. I never would have imagined in a million years that people could actually act that way. Well, I never really experienced "air rage," but I got a sense of what it was all about. Actually I got a combination of both air rage and cell phone rage. There was this man that was sitting across the aisle from where I was sitting talking on his cellular phone right before the plane was about to take off. There he was talking away, and loudly. I don't understand what was so great about his conversation that he had to let the entire plane know what he was talking about. Anyhow, the flight attendant had came over to inform him that talking on the cell phone was prohibited, yet he continued to talk on the phone. It took almost five minutes before he got off, and I know that the plane was delayed in taking off because he had to finish his coversation. Some people have no consideration!!

Watashi_No 04/05/01 7:52 PM RE: Petition People Rage