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kathyhirokane
03/30/01 3:34 PM RE: Welfare
rage
hello! i know what you mean. some people
actually need welfare, but others take advantage of the system. just recently they
caught that lady who was charged with welfare fraud. she was seen driving a
brand new ford explorer with vanity plates and had like, tons of hawaiian
bracelets. people that knew her were getting suspicious and they reported her.
good for her!!! i hate to hear about greedy people taking advantage of the
system when it is there to help the unfortunate. then they go and use that
money not for their children, but for themselves. how selfish! i hope that in
the after-life, they are those children who need the money, but can't because
their parents spend it all on themselves!!
sakodash 03/30/01 1:08 PM Welfare rage
I never really got mad before about those
people who receive welfare. I always thought that they needed the help and the
extra money would help feed and clothe their children. However, I just recently
found out a person I know is receiving welfare checks. She definately doesn't
deserve it!! She may have a child but she is perfectly capable of working that
lazy ass of hers!! She works part-time, just moved into an expensive house that
she is renting for a ridiculous amount of money, drives a pretty expensive car,
and still has money to go clubbing and drinking on the weekends. How do you
figure that? I don't understand our welfare agency!! Don't they check on these
people? Oh yeah, plus she's receiving child support every month. To me, it just
seems like she's getting free money and just eating it all up. I don't even
know if this money is being used for the baby or for her.
sakodash 03/31/01 5:17 PM RE: car rage
Hey Kathy!! We had a loaner last weekend and
we had the same problem too. The car needed to be dropped off on Thursday
afternoon and my mom thought it would be back by Friday. She called Friday
afternoon and they told her it still wasn't ready so they'd call her when it
was finished. She didn't want to keep calling so she waited...ALL WEEKEND!!
Plus, Monday was a holiday. I thought they at least worked Saturdays!! On
Tuesday, she called them back and they told her they JUST started working on
it. She was pretty irritated by then. Since she doesn't like driving cars, we
switched and she drove my truck and over the weekend we put on over a 100 miles
on this 2001 Corolla!! I hope they didn't get too pissed off!! Well, have fun with
your loaner...sorry it went so bad for you. My mom was pretty mad at the car
people too!!
kathyhirokane
03/30/01 3:27 PM car rage
i had to bring my car in to get fixed (the
window wouldn't go up sometimes), so i called the dealership and made an
appointment and made sure i was able to get a loaner.i get to the dealer today
and drop my car off. then i go to pick up my loaner, but obviously they forgot
that i had requested one - we ended up waiting for half an hour to be helped
and to get a loaner.then, i called the dealer around mid-afternoon, and they
hadn't even started working on the car yet! they said that they were closed
over the weekend, so...i probably won't even get my car back till tuesday! i
can't believe it! why even make an appointment if they aren't even going to be
looking at the car until days later?plus, the loaner they gave us had so little
bit gas! why is it that whenever you get a loaner, there is never any gas in
the tank???
skyblue 04/01/01 5:27 PM RE: dumb people rage
You go girl! I would've been upset if anyone
blocked the driveway of our garage without asking my family/me permission
first. I can empathize with your rage because one afternoon, I came home to
discover a huge 4x4 truck blocking our two-car garage driveway. The owner of
the truck was our neighbor's friend. I stepped out of my car with a digusted
look on my face and was about to tell him to move his truck. However, the truck
owner rushed out and apologized for his actions. It's amazing how some people
are so rude and inconsiderate that they don't think to ask before parking their
vehicle. I'm glad that you spoke up! I bet the guy was embarrassed for making
such a foolish mistake.
kathyhirokane
03/30/01 3:38 PM dumb people
rage
last night i walked outside the house and
noticed a big white car parked right in front of our driveway. i didn't know
who owned the car, but figured they were around somewhere. i was debating
whether to have the car towed when the owner comes walking out of my neighbors
house. i told him to move his car, since it was obviously blocking our driveway
(which is illegal, duh!!!). the look on his face was like, 'oh, did not know i
parked in front of your drive way, blocking the way so that no one can get out'.
hello???? what if there was an emergency and i had to drive somewhere? i
wouldn't be able to get out of my own driveway! some people have no brains!
virtual-b
04/04/01 12:04 PM RE: court rage
Well, the hearing was held this morning. In a
way, I feel like there is closure, but another way, I feel empty. I admitted
guilt and took what the judge gave me. Then, the other party had this one last
jab. That hurt, but I guess when you're at fault, you just have to take it and
say I agree. I guess, "carlisle" is right, what makes me feel the
worst is my disappointment and shame in myself, rather than anything a judge
says. I keep thinking that I should have not done that, and I should have done
this. It's a self-rage in a way. We learn in psychology that in the abc model,
the antecedent event leads to consequences, but is mediated by our beliefs.
Thus we have abc. The incident and court hearing are the antecedent events,
which are mediated by my beliefs or thoughts of "I should not have done
that" and "I made a big mistake" lead up to the consequences,
which is guilt, sadness, shame, and remorse. So I have to change that b to get
a better result. I feel funny analyzing myself. A psychology major trying to
use psychology to heal himself/herself. That's ironic.
carlisle 04/02/01 8:36 PM RE: court rage
I understand to well about getting into
trouble and then having it catch up with you. Someone that is very close to me
is going through almost the same thing. But, what this person did can never be
changed. The person made a mistake and they are paying for it. The only thing
that I can do, is be there. And tell this person that they need to pay there
dues and get on with their life. You can rage only so much, until you make
youself sick. My close friend is dealing with it, and my friend is not blaming
him/herself anymore. It will take time. But, as long as you know what you did
was wrong, than good. Blaming yourself and kicking yourself in the butt is not
going to solve anything. But, it just might make you a little angrier at
yourself. Pay your dues, and live you life that is the only thing you can due.
Getting on with your life is a lot more important then raging against yourself.
oshale 04/02/01 12:28 AM RE: court rage
I know what going to court is all about.
Whatever it is, it is very intimidating experience. But what i noticed was, it
is not as bad as it seem to be. I had to go court for not having insurance card
in my car when i got pulled over but I went to the insurance company right away
and got affadavit and when I went to the court, the judge was pretty
understanding and i got away without any fine. But while you are in the court
room you get to see a lot of people and the judge was very understanding and
considerate, of course to certain degree. Someone just told the judge i
couldn:t afford to have insurance but i got insurance right after the citation,
the judge didn:t fine him for his effort. Isn:t that great? I think it is not
as terrible as it seem. Just calm down and try to handle your current situation
because what:s been done is done already and nothing you can do only but the
present and the future. So just calm down and think honestly and don:t get
stressed out because it:ll be all over by then. Good luck!
virtual-b
03/31/01 10:35 AM court rage
This week I have to go to court, district
court. I won't say the allegations, but it's the worst trouble I've been in my
whole life. I'm stressed out from the other week when I got the court order to
appear in court. I've been trying to build my defense, but really I don't have
any. I've resigned myself to just apologizing and receiving whatever the judge
gives me as punishment. Sure, the whole situation with having to go to court is
killing me. But, what bothers me even more, is how and why I got myself into
this mess. It's more rage against myself than rage against going to court.
Scared, frustrated, worried, disappointed, sad, all rolled up into one. Geez, I
wish that I could fast forward time and be done with this thing. Or better yet,
rewind time and just avoid being in this situation. The hardships in this
semester are just kicking my butt. I can't wait to get this next few months
over with.
shaun56 04/01/01 10:24 PM RE: Violence In The Fish Tank Rage
That is pretty ironic how you happened to
find the shrimp before the eel. You should have let me know you were into
saltwater aquariums. I could easily catch you stuff from the sea. Whenever we
go fishing, we catch some cool stuff that is aquarium compatible. Anyways, as
for the shrimp, their screwed man. They have not more than a week at the most I
think. Maybe you should take them out and scampi them for me.... Joke man....
Anyways, I don't eat shrimp. But I guess they'll be gone in a little bit.
Later~
Daniel1978 03/31/01 10:52 AM Violence In The Fish Tank Rage
So over the vacation I bought another
fishtank and set it up. I started out with some beautifully colored shrimp and
hermet crabs. I let them sit for a few days to test the water. They did great!
I was out a few days later (yesterday) shopping some fish for my little sister
(she's 4) when I came across a fish that I've always dreamed of having. The pet
store had a Zebra Moray!!! Such a beautiful, powerful fish. I got a few eels,
but nothing that compaires to this. I knew I had to buy it. I shelled out the
money, took it home and let it get aquainted with it's new home. When I bought
it, I knew perfectl;y well that it ate crustacions. My poor, poor shrimp are
crustacions. They've been ok so far, but I have a feeling it's only a matter of
time... This stinks. I'm a vegetarian and I don't want to see my shrimp get
killed (well...I kind of do...) AND they were'nt cheap! Now I wait here knowing
it's only a matter of time before the eel's tank mates go bye bye. It makes me
angry. Oh, well.
purple848
04/07/01 4:12 PM RE: Smoke rage
I feel rage against people who smoke
inconsiderately of others. Probably, the woman who was smoking when she was walking
ahead of you wouldn't even know if you stopped and waited to avoid her smoke.
You are a victim of inconsiderate smoker as many of us have been. Maybe the
smokers don't mind the smell of the cigarette smoke, but they should know that
there are many people who don't like that smell. The smokers may think they are
being polite when they ask people "Do you mind if I smoke?" befoer
they light their cigarette, but it's hard to say, "Yes, I do. So please
don't smoke." I especially don't like to smell the smoke of the cigarette
when I am eating. It ruins a good taste of food. I hope smoking people are
aware of the direction where their smoke is heading. I think people who smoke
in the place where a non-smoker can inhale their exhaled smoke are being selfish.
They are satisfying themselves by smoking, while they know the second-hand
smoke is a possible cause of cancer.
gemini-gal 04/02/01 12:13 AM RE: Smoke rage
I hate smoke from cigarettes too! I'm not
saying that smokers are bad and dirty people because friends and relatives of
mine smoke. However, I hate it when the smoke around me makes me smell bad.
Second hand smoke sometimes give me headaches and makes me gag a little. I
don't like it too when people aren't considerate and they blow their smoke all
over the darn place. I'm glad that most places are non-smoking areas now. I
think that one of the worst places for smoke is nightclubs and bars. When I
come out, my hair and clothes smell so bad and what's worse is that the smoke
smell clings on to your clothes for days.
lavaflow
03/31/01 11:59 AM Smoke rage
Last week, I caught a bus to go to Hamilton
library. It was Saturday so that only two other people and I got off at the school.
One girl and I seemed to go to the same direction and she was walking in front
of me. As soon as start walking, she lit her cigarette and I was surrounded by
smoke as I followed her. I don't nomally care smells of cigarette smokes but
there were no other people around the campus since it was on Saturday so it
seemed that her smoke was really destroying clear fresh air. Also, I didn't
like when my hair smelled like the smoke because I just took shower before I
left my place. I became a little annoyed and thought about alternative path to
the library but I didn't want to take a longer path so that I kept walking. I
recognised afterwards that I could have stopped walking and waited at somewhere
until she'd gone.
kakela 04/01/01 4:02 PM RE: Tailgating rage
I guess sometimes people have to make doodoo
really bad or something. That is what I have to tell myself so that I don't get
all mad with people who drive like that. If I make it funny then it doesn't
seem that bad. I know that if I had to go really bad, i would be driving like
that too. Gotta try and make excuses for people who drive really crazy, unless
they are driving around in those little custom honda jobs. Then it can be
assumed that they drive like that because they like too. Well, maybe they have
to go and make doodoo really bad too sometimes.
sakodash 03/31/01 5:24 PM Tailgating rage
On our way home today, there was this guy in
a Civic tailgating everyone!! He wasn't even tailgating us...we were behind of
him but we were getting so angry just watching him tailgate one person after
another. The other people just like didn't really care, they just moved out of
his way. Guys like these need to be brake checked!! I don't understand the
point of tailgating...it isn't gonna get you anywhere any faster. He could have
changed into another lane many times but no he just recklessly went his merry
little way. What a dick!!
gemini-gal 03/31/01 5:53 PM Too many commercials on TV rage!
You guys know what this is about right? Darn,
there are just too many commercials on tv now days! When I was watching one of
my favorite shows on MTV, it felt like it took forever to get back to the show.
I can even remember when I was watching a show and then the commercials came on
so I switched the channel to MTV just to avoid watching commercials. I remember
watching an entire music video that was at least a little over three minutes
long and when I switched back to the show I was watching...the commercials were
still going on! I just wanted to throw the remote at the television! Instead I
screamed at the tv set "Come on you f--#%^$! tv station...too much
f--&^$ commercials! Ah, commercial rage! The commercials now days are
really dumb too. Like this one commercial was advertising perfume and cologne
and it came across like a condom commercial. It was very sexual with a lot of
bare skin and at the end of the commercial I was like..."oh, they're
selling perfume!" DUH! Nevertheless, there are way too much commercials
and I can't stand it especially when my favorite show is on and it feels like
forever to get back to it.
meow24
04/04/01 4:12 PM RE: Sue the State
i really don't think that the strike will
last more than a week even if it happens, but if we have to be in a situation
to sue the state, i won't just sue them for the tuition. i would sue them for
all the time i invested in this semester plus the time i would have to waste to
come back to school again for the following semester. i was planning to start
working as soon as i graduate in this may, but if this thing goes too far to a
point where i can't get my degree, i will sue them to make up the whole thing.i
don't know why cayatano's keep saying he doesnt have the money to pay our
teachers and professors. i don't even want to mention about all the projects
hes planning to do or did. i wonder where hes spending the money he gets from
the cigarrett companies. i know they are getting like millions of dollors.
Number11BUS 04/03/01 3:25 PM RE: Sue the State
Watashi NO and the gang, Just sto you will
know, the legislature can call a special session and/or a special hearing any
time they want--including the negotiations for the unions and the state,
including a strike settement, including a budget that works, including about
anything that affect the well being and safety of the State of Hawaii. The
stale mate the Gov is helping to fuel does not have to be this way. The whole
bunch of elected officials need to work all this out in a democratic process.
This divide and conquer approach does not work all the time. HSTA and UHPA are
not asking for unreasonable items. Education is important and the citizens of
the State need to keep the pressure up on the Governor, Legislators, Mediators
to come to a fair agreement. It really is silly the elected officials are not
paying more attention to business and less attention to ego trips about who is
the most important here. I must assume the elected officials don't mind being
embarassed at a national level for not taking care of regular business. Keep
this in mind during the elections of 2002. You still have power too.
Number11BUS
mightymousesa 04/02/01 10:47 PM RE: Sue the State
Here is an update that will give you some
more rgae! It appears that the legislature will go out of session on May 2,
2001 so if the strike is not resolved by then, then the faculty will probably
strike again in the fall!!Things are really going to get bad before they get
better!! BEWARE!
kakela 04/01/01 4:07 PM RE: Sue the State
Yeah I heard the same thing. I also heard
that UH will be required to give back tuition after so many days on strike and
that if they don't or can't, then the students can sue for their tuition.
Somebody who knows all these rules should put out something that we can read to
let us know what the hell is going on and what we can do. In my english class
we discuss this stuff often and most people think that because o this rule
about tuition, that the strike will not last more than the 2 weeks or 20 days
or whatever because UH and the state can't afford to reimburse all the
students.
Watashi_No
04/01/01 2:18 PM Sue the State
I don't know if this is going to happen, like
anything else that affects us right now with the teachers strike and all but I
heard it on the news. The news report said that the ASUH president was
inquiring whether the students can sue the state (I think it was the state) to
get back our tuition or something if the teachers strike longer than 20 days.
Now I very, truly hope that the state and teachers settle this strike business,
but it would be very good for the students if this thing did go on for awhile
if the students did sue. I know that if this whole semester was for nothing I
am going to be really mad! I worked hard since the beginning, and I will not
lose all that hard work just because of this whole thing not being settled. I
atleast want my money back, it doesn't make sense for the school to be able to
keep the money if we aren't getting our credits!! I don't know anymore, I just
hope the students can do something, and we wont get screwed over!
SpoiledBrat
04/01/01 9:15 PM RE:
gas pump rage
I totally understand what you are writing
about. I go to the Tesoro gas station and they have twelve pumps, three in each
row. I hate it when some people don't go behind the first car and stay at the
third pump leaving the middle pump empty. I don't think anybody likes taking
the time to parallel park. The other thing I hate about gas stations is when
there is a little gas left over in the pump and when I take it out to put it in
my car the gas spills out right onto my feet. That has happened to me many
times. I have never been really upset because usually I'm wearing slippers, but
it worries me to have gas soaked into my slippers.
kakela 04/01/01 3:57 PM gas pump rage
At the Chevron by Kahala Mall the gas station
is set up so that two cars can fill up at the same time in the same lane one
car in front of the other. I think there are for lanes with two sets of pumps
for each lane. This means that 8 cars can be filling up at the same time. Where
the rage comes is when you follow a car into the same lane and instead of
moving up to the second pump and allowing you to pull in behind at the first
pump, they stop at the first pump and block you out. This has happened to me
twice at this Chevron. Both times the station was packed with cars trying to
fill up gas and others trying to get to the car washes that people have there
so often. There is not a lot of space to ove around so it is good that people
cooperate. the first time the bastard gets out of his car at the first pump and
starts to fill up the gas before realizing that he is blocking people from
getting to the second pump. The second time this happened the guy got out and
realized that he was blocking me from the second pump and got back into his car
and moved up. It is good that they both realized that they were being
inconciderate to the other drivers waiting for the pumps but tht first bastard
realized a little too late.
kakela 04/01/01 4:01 PM Punahou Punk-ass Kids
I put this episode of rage in my report 2.One
night a while ago my brother and I were watching some TV and heard cars driving
up and down the road so we went outside to see what was going on. There were
these kids setting up cones in the middle of the road and trying to knock them
down with their cars. These were nice cars and the kids were dressed well, so
you can arrive at the conclusion that they were preppy kids who were just
acting stuid. There was about 10 of them mostly boys. They were also throwing
the cones at eachother's cars and putting the cones on the tops of the cars,
then accelerating and braking really hard to get the cones of the cars. What
pised me off was the fact that they were hitting the cars that were parked on
the street, my truck included. When I saw that I went into the house and
grabbed my baseball bat and stood out in the street. They saw me and
immidiately stopped the cars and pulled over. Some of them began to pick up the
cones and put them away. My brother's friend who goes to Punahou lives a few
houses down and saw what was happening and came over. He told us that they were
Punahou punks and confirmed my initial feeling that they were just preppy punks
acting stupid. I walked over to the honda that was driving the most wrecklessly
and tapped on his window with the bat. He rolled down the window and I stuck my
head in the car and got right in his face. I could tell that he was scared. He
was mumbling and appologizing and couldn't look me in the eye. I told him in a
not so nice way to pack up his cone and go away. They went away and I went back
in to watch the rest of my TV show but I did miss about 30 minutes of the
movie, piss me off.
shaun56 04/02/01 4:47 PM RE: Thoughts on Preppy Punk-ass Kids
Yeah man I totally agree with you. There are
some people who just have to learn to keep their fricken mouths shut. One time
at this bar in Pearl City, we were drinking and singing karaoke. This young punk
walks in with a group of friends. Everyone knew that they were not of age so it
was just a laugh to the people of age. Anyways, I was standing at the bar, and
this young punk asks me what I am looking at. I tell him his hair, and he says,
what problem. I gently put down my beer and say, only if you got one. We walk
outside as his friends gather around him. My friends stumble outside, laughing
and joking, telling me to kick his ass. He makes all big for a second, and then
I pushed his ass onto the ground. He got up and swung at me, but I dodged, and
pushed his ass on the ground again. As he was trying to get up, I put my foot
by his face and he cringed. I told him and his friends to beat it, and of
course as preppy punks usually do, they did. We all had a good laugh at it, and
partied the rest of the night on. I guess what they need sometimes is just a
reality check. Most of the time, they go around in their flashy cars punkin'
people out, and running away. Next time you run into these lil punks, give them
a reality trip. Hopefully that will teach them from actin' as if, you know. But
then again, some never learn.....
kakela 04/01/01 5:21 PM Thoughts on Preppy Punk-ass Kids
I love to hate them. I went to a private
school and I can tell the kind so fast. Most of the popular boys in my class
were like this. They act stupid like running up the escalator that goes down
and are really loud and drive custom job hondas and crap thinking that all of
that makes them Speed Racer. I wrote about one experience I had with the
Punahou punks that were acting stupid with the road cones. I knew that I could
threaten them and they would not fight back because kids like them are hollow.
They probably never got into a real fight before and poop in their pants when some
stranger threatens them. I know because some of those guys I went to
high-school with had experiences like that where they pissed some guy off and
the guy got right in their face and made them all scared regardless of what
they say later. One time my friends and I were hanging out and there was a big
group of these punks that were making stupid comments at us so we walked over
to the one that looked like the leader of the group and grabbed him. He and all
his friends were shocked and did nothing as we kicked the hell out of the guy
and threw him back at his friends. they picked the guy up and just went away. I
is really funny to see how they react when the people they want to irritate or
intimidate are not intimidated and walk up to them and threaten them back or
actually start hitting some of them. What do they expect? You pick a fight,
your gonna have to expect a fight.
SpoiledBrat
04/01/01 9:27 PM Parking
lot rage
I truly dislike driving through the walmart
parking lot. It is constantly crowded and people walk in the middle of the
road. What is extremely irratating is when people wait on the side or drive up
and down the rows looking for a close parking space. If a car is leaving and
the person waits that is fine, but there are people who just park on the side
just waiting for somebody to leave. Everybody likes to park close so they don't
have to walk far. That is just irratating. Who cares where you park just park
the car. And who cares if you have to walk just get off your lazy butt and walk.
I'm sure a lot people need the exercise. Another problem is when people are
walking they choose to walk in the middle of the road and not to the side. I
also hate it when they walk their kids on the outside of them leaving them
closer to the passing cars. They need to pick them up or move them on the
inside away from the cars. That concludes my parking lot rage at walmart.
purple848
04/05/01 3:06 AM RE: feeling OLD rage
I can relate to your story, although I have
never involved in any type sports. I feel like I'm getting old when I can't
remember things like I used to. I am reminded of that every time I take exam. I
am lazy, so I don't study for the exam until the last minute. Since my memory
is getting bad, I can't remember all the terminology and concept that I
learned, and I get bad grade as a result of that. It wasn't like that before,
you know. I couldn't get a good grade since back then, but I could get an OK
grade by studying a night before. But now, I can't do that any more. I can't
stay up all night to study either. I try to stay up and study a night before
the exam, but I become sleepy soon and end up waking out of sleep on my bed in
the mornig of the exam day. I don't wanna get old anymore!
virtual-b
04/04/01 12:19 PM RE: feeling OLD
rage
I understand what you're saying. A lot of
times I look back and say I wish I knew then what I know now. I would change a
bunch of things. I guess that's a part of growing old. When you grow older, you
realize how much more important the simple things are. I'm not just thinking of
physicality. I'm talking about precious memories that can't be relived or done
over. I cherish those moments, but when I was actually experiencing them, I
thought nothing of them. The young want to be older, and the old want to be
younger. Weird. Not so much as a rage against time, but a growing acceptance of
it.
shaun56 04/01/01 10:33 PM feeling OLD rage
Well, here it is..... I coach a soccer team
for the HYSA league rright... I have a team of 13 and under boys who I just
started coaching for the spring season. They are good kids, with okay attitudes
for their age, but lets not get into that. So every friday nights we have pick
up games for anyone in the soccer club of Mililani. Since I am a coach, I am
expected to show up and monitor. So I decide to play, to see if I actually
retained my skills up to par with my soccer knowledge. I can honestly say that
I do still have it, and I'm not being concieted. But I can honestly admit that
I do not have the same legs as I did before. I did fine that night, but the
next day and today, I am just killin'. I feel like an old fart. I cannot
believe how a couple of years can harm you so badly. I honestly feel like time
is flying and I am getting older faster. It kinda pisses me off because there's
so much still that I want to do. I guess I'll just have to do them all quickly.
oshale 04/02/01 12:19 AM waiter rage
This is another one from the restaurant where
I felt rage again. It just happened today and I was reallyin a good mood. The
hostess placed us(my boyfriend and I) into this corner area. We were given the
menu but the waiter failed to show up.Usually they ask for drink first but I
think we waited about 10-15 minutes waiting for him but nobody even looked at
us. I looked around waving my hand trying to get there attention and finally
someone said(one of the waitress) who is suppose to take care of them? I was so
astonished. They totally didn:t know we were waiting. They didn:t even know we
arrived or someone who was in charge of that area didn:t care enough to look
around for us. Finally he arrived saying he didn;:t see us. Ya, right. I wasn:t
fuming or anything. But the more I thought about it more mad i got. It wasn:t the
wait, it was the fact that they didn:t eeven notice us. Anyway, the waiter was
really apologetic so I didnt stay mad for that long. I calmed down and enjoyed
my dinner and I was no longer mad. So the night ended up to be pleasant after
all.
kingwheelah
04/02/01 1:12 PM A Personal Accident
Speed, leaving late, etc. are just some of
the things that describe my driving style. I realise that I have bad driving
habits as expressed by myself and by my passengers. I feel all of this has changed
in a matter of a day. I have never really gotten in trouble with driving
besides a very minor fender-bender. Last night, my girlfriend got into a three
car accident that left her without a car. I am happy to say that she came out
of the accident with no harm done to herself or anyone else. She was not the
cause of the accident, but the fact that she was driving under the speed limit
is what I think saved her life. A bus was coing off the on-ramp and entered
into the highway. The bus entered the lane, but went over into the next lane
causing the car in front of my girlfriend to slam on his brakes. Luckily, my
girlfriend was at a safe distance when she slammed on her brakes. She hit the
car in front of her which then hit the bus. The driver and my girlfriend had
the same story to tell, but the bus driver had a different story. A couple of
witnesses stated that it was not my gf's fault nor the driver she hit, so the
cops ruled it as an accident. The point I am trying to make here is that this
has drastically changed the way I drive. I went to the movies last night and I
was driving about 5 mph under the speed limit the whole way to and back. I
abided by all the rules and I shocked my passengers. I have realized that I
have to stop putting myself in the situations that I do (for example
speeding)that could put myself in danger and also endangering the life of
another person. I drove this mornging also and I am still overly cautious of
the way that I am driving. I plan to use this to my advantage and to curb the
bad driving habits that I have. There's nothing like an accident involving a
loved-one to kick you in the ass to make changes! Pardon my french...
carlisle 04/02/01 8:50 PM RE: Girl rage
hello mr. man. Well, sometimes it is easy for
guys or people in general to blame the female hormone on the monthly period. My
husband gets pissed of at me when I bitch at him for no reason. But, we have
come to an understanding. I told him to tell me to cool it, if I am raging
about nothing. Maybe that is what you have to do. You men need to stop blaming
the monthly period on womens mood swings. Sometimes it could be that the girl
is just naturally in a moody mood. Understand your friend a little, and talk to
her about her raging feelings.
kathyhirokane
04/02/01 6:01 PM RE: Girl rage
hello. you have probably heard this a
thousand times, but until you have a period, you wont know how it feels. it's
not just cramps, but it's bloating, headaches, bodyaches, etc... i don't think
your friend is mean to you intentionally, but you could be more understanding,
especially if you know she is having her period. also, don't be quick to blame
everything on the menstrual cycle! some people are just like that, regardless
of their period! and why do girls always have to be energetic, lively, and
refreshed? why aren't guys like that?
shaun56 04/02/01 4:34 PM Girl rage
I have this friend who is a girl. We are
close, but yet we are far. Every month, she starts to take things out on me and
makes me feel kinda crappy. I don't understand why some girls must take their
hormones out on other people. Why do they seem to choose the closest person to
them, and bash the hell out of them. I do not know how it feels to lose a bunch
of blood every month, but I do know that the emotions are still controllable. I
wish that all girls were to feel energetic, lively, refreshed, and happy like
some girls do when they get their period. I think that a part of the problem is
the learned helplessness of the feelings involoved with the period. I think
that girls are brought up to think negatively about their period. I know some
girls who are totally the same when they have it or when they do not. I guess
the only reason this bothers me, is because the horror is shed on me. What can
I do???
purple848
04/04/01 3:05 AM RE: RAGE AT LIFE
I am very sorry for what had happened to you
in such a short period of time. You must be hurt very deeply. It may seem so
hard for you to view the world surrounding you as bright right now. Maybe this
is a commonplace remark, but I believe that time heals your wounded heart. I
believe in the power inside us human beings, and even though we may be
overwhelmed by grief, we can get back to our lives as time passes by. There
will be the time comes, for sure, that you will be able to think back these sad
incidents and accept what each incidents really meant to you. And you know
what? You've experienced too many sad incidents already, so from now on, only
the good, pleasant, wonderful things will happen to you. So please hold on and
pass through this difficult time.
ktootree
04/03/01 6:48 PM RE: RAGE AT LIFE
I have experienced a similar situation to
yours, but not exactly the same. A few years ago, my great-grandmother died a
somewhat unexpected death. It was hard for me to deal with it because that was
the first death/funeral that I was old enough to remember. Then less than a
couple months later, my great-grandfather passed away. He was so distraught
with his wife’s death that his own health began deteriorating and he passed
away. That was another blow to our entire family. I think the one of the
hardest things for me to deal with was seeing my mother so sad about her
grandparents death. Although, the most difficult thing was seeing my
grandmother and aunties (the deceased were their parents) having to deal with
such a great loss in less than two months. Since then I have experienced 6
deaths that have occurred close to me—2 of my uncles, my aunty, 2 friends, and
the most recent, my grandfather. The death of my grandfather in ’99 was
definitely the most difficult to deal with because I was very close to him. I
still shed some tears when memories of him enter my mind, so I feel your pain.
The most difficult times for me personally have happened within the last 2
years and I too went through a period of despair and telling myself, “I just
want to disappear from this earth. I don’t want to be here no more.” I think I
was more distraught than in a rage. The way I have tried to deal with those
kinds of thoughts is whenever I feel them entering my mind I quickly try to
block it out and not think about it. Then, I pray that those kinds of thoughts
be removed from my mind and for comfort. Although I do stumble once in a while,
I have been doing much better than before. Well, I thought I’d share my story
with you and tell you that you’re not alone. Life definitely has its lows, and
although we may not see it right away, certain events happen for a reason and
may turn out for the better. I've heard that life’s trials and tribulations
should not be looked upon as the end of the world, but as life lessons, which
teach us and mold us into stronger beings in the end. I’m very glad to hear
that you are not giving up. Although fighting on is difficult at times, it is a
definite step in the right direction, so keep your head up. =) “…also rejoice
in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;
perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us…”
Romans 5:4-5 (NIV Bible)
Number11BUS 04/03/01 3:38 PM RE: RAGE AT LIFE
Supreme-Finess,When you are "down"
and depressed because of real events happeing in your life you need to give
yourself a break. You can't always be everything to everybody. Getting on line
is a time-consuming task. You have to weigh that with sleeping, eating, other
classes--turn the volume down where you can, make allowances for yourself,
request a "make-up" approach to your semester schedule. You appear to
be getting the spunk back in you and can accomplishe all kinds of great things
when you get the extra servings off your plate. Pat yourself on the back for
sticking in there and getting all the things done that you did get done. All is
not all a waste. Yes, it has been a tough period for you. And you are okay. It
won't be this way all the time. Take care of what you can, ask assistance when
you need it, and leave the rest to a higher power. Get a good night's sleep and
start fresh again in the morning.Number11BUS
carlisle 04/02/01 8:25 PM RE: RAGE AT LIFE
Sometimes life throws you a curve ball, and
in turn you hate the world for it. You hate the life that you are currently
living in and sometimes you wish things were different. I have not experienced two
deaths so close together, and a break up too. But, I have experienced lifes
curve balls. It is not any fun let me tell you. Depression is all part of the
mind. But, sometimes it can take over. It can take over in ways that can
destroy your life. I suffered from it for 3 years until, finally I went into a
downward spiral. Doctors put me on medication to keep me sane and to help me
deal with the depression and anxiety. But, what did it do? It made me feel sick
to my stomach. Relationship problems was part of the whole rage against life
situation. Until one day, I decided to take myself off of the medication, with
the dissaproval of doctors. Then I made the first step to turn my negative
feelings against my life, into positive ones. I could not blame life for the
trails that I went through, because I am what makes my life. I was tired of
life running me, so I took full control of it. I fought my depression, which
was very hard but, I made it. My grades have never looked better, and let me
tell you, my grades suffered because I LET my life's rage take control of me.
Stand up for yourself, that is the only way that you can make your self better.
People can help pull you through things but, you are the only one that can
truely understand. Because you are what makes life worth lively, not anybody
else. I am glad that you are getting your life in order. I am glad that I did,
because everything that I went through was a learning experience, and it might
just give me the knowledge to help other people. e-mail me if you guys want to
talk.
Supreme-Finess
04/02/01 4:44 PM RAGE
AT LIFE
Life's trials and tribulations has put my
life at an all time low. Honestly I feel that life has dealt me a bad hand and
I am forced to play them. 8 months ago my grandmother had passed away. A month
and a half ago my grandfather had passed away. And my girlfriend of six years
has decided to move on with her life without me. This has been one unbearable
year and semester. I haven't got online for almost 8 weeks because I just felt
like giving up on everything. All I want to know is how could life be so cruel
sometimes. It can kick you on the ground while your down and you still have to
find a way to keep on moving. I am just about out of strength and tears to go
on. But I have come to a point in my life where I must go on. I cant let them
win. If i give up now, I admitting to my self that it has got the best of me. I
would have surrendered all of my will if I just give up on school, work, and
ultimately my mental and emotional well being. I cant do that just yet. Not
when I am so close to graduating and nearing the end of my academic career. So
this is my rage. Rage at life! Rage at all the negative things that has decided
to take me down. My rage is to fight back and to block all the negative things
that has tried to bring me down. So now I am back, I am gonna take control of
my life once again; though it is tough, I must do it for my sake or get
swallowed up in the darkness of my life. All I do is remember what a person
said to me before they had passed away- that is; "Through the darkness
comes a brighter day"- well, I am still trying to find it but i believe
one day i will.
cjn 04/08/01 8:28 PM RE: Boyfriend does not like shopping
I totally agree with you. I always feel like
I have to rush things when I want to take my time and look at things. Even if I
ask my boyfriend's opinion on stuff, it is like I am bothering him. He does not
even pretend to be interested in it.
leis
04/06/01 2:18 AM RE: Boyfriend does not
like shopping
I understand that it is happy for you to
enjoy shopping with your boy friend. However, I know that there are some guys
who surly don't like going shopping!!! My husbund also doesn't like going
shopping with me. (Even when he used to be my boy friend.) He often says that
he has something better to do than shopping, or that he feels tired soon
whenever he goes shopping. However, I want to enjoy shopping with him. What I
do to fill this gap is to give him a chance to do what he wants equally as much
as possible. During shopping, as I often notice that he seems to be tired, I
usually say to him having a seat and waiting for me. Otherwise, as there are
some shops that even he wants to go, I let him go to the shop. Then we continue
to do it. This seems to be a fuss, but it is still happy for me to go shopping!
meow24
04/04/01 4:02 PM RE: Boyfriend does
not like shopping
do you know what you can do to change them?
do the same thing next time you go out w/ him to the one of his favorite place
. he will ask you why you behave that way. then you tell him that's how he
behaves when he goes shopping w/ you. he will surely learn how to behave next
time you go to shopping w/ him. if he doesn't learn his lesson, there is no
sense of wasting your time w/ a guy who doesn't respect your way of life.
TVR 04/03/01 12:36 AM RE: Boyfriend does not like shopping
I guess your right about consideration. But
how I see it is that if you don't want to be rushed and you know your boyfriend
will rush you. Why don't you gals just go shopping by yourselves! Why do women
insist on having their boyfriends come with you!I think the reason why guys
don't like to go shopping is because they feel they have better things to do.
There's nothing that they can learn or find interesting about look at clothes.
Especially, if they aren't for them. But, I do feel that we should more
considerate about this topic. I know you girls try to make us happy by going
with us to places that aren't interesting to you gals. This is why I totally
agree that guys should be more sensitive to womens needs.
mightymousesa 04/02/01 10:54 PM Boyfriend does not like shopping
Okay, I understand that many guys do not like
shopping BUT tell me why they have to make the girls they are with uncomfortably
rushed while they are shopping! We sit through your crazy hiking trips that go
no where. And we go with you to look at cars etc. Consideration goes a long
way!! Learn that lesson and learn it quick!Your girlfriend will appreciate it!
TVR 04/03/01 12:17 AM RE: Obsession rage
I know exactly how you feel. I also have a
girlfriend that acts this way. She always seems to get worked up whenever a
certain person is talked about or is present. She total hates this girl and it seems
like she can't forget about it. Even if their on the opposite side of the
building she can't get over it. Anyways, what I wanted to know is how does your
boyfriend react whenever you feel this way. Most of the time I feel that i'm
stuck and there isn't much for me to do. Most of the time I may just listen to
her and that usually makes it a little better. How about your boyfriend?As for
me, I usually tell myself that it's not important and is stupid for me to feel
this way. Why should I feel bad when it probably doesn't bother the other
person. I'm putting added stress on myself when I don't really have to. When I
think like that I usually feel better. Maybe this could work for you also!!?
sakodash 04/02/01 11:41 PM Obsession rage
I'm raging at myself. I don't understand. I
feel obsessive!! I've noticed recently that whenever I get mad at something I
think about it constantly...I just can't stop. I let it bother me and bother me
until I get so worked up that I can't think straight. It usually has to do with
a certain person that I hate because of her selfishness and bitchiness but yet
whom I cannot avoid due to circumstances beyond my control. Sometimes, the
things I've heard she's said about myself or those that I love bother me so
much that it actually interferes with my daily life. I was sitting tonight
watching Friends with my boyfriend when all of a sudden I started bitching
about "how could she say this" and "how could she say that"
right out of the blue. Tell me that's not a little crazy!! I just wish I could
just drop problems and just forget about them. I don't understand why I think
things over and over and over again until I get madder and madder and madder.
Help!!
rie2001
04/03/01 12:22 AM Sky
Rage
I just came back to Hawaii this morning. I
took 7 hours trip by plane. 7 hours is long enough to make me tired. Plus,
there was a kid keep screaming in the airplane. I tried to go to sleep but his
shrill voice drove me crazy! What made me even mad was that his mother was
sleeping for whole time her kid was making such a annoying noise. I almost
cried out... God, help me!!
Supreme-Finess
04/03/01 1:11 AM RE:
Strike Rage!
Here! Here! Personally,I dont know what to
say about the whole thing. All I know is that the professors are very imortant
to the University and the State and should be getting their due. Its pathetic
what they are getting paid as compared to the other states. Classes like psych
409 has made me open my eyes into my own self, and how i deal with rage. I've never
done that before until being in a class that has made me deal with those
issues. I also admit that i needed it the most, because i feel that i lost many
important things in my life due to rage. Rage at myself and rage at people, so
you see, it would be ashame to lose professors and classes like ours, that make
us search and explore our own minds and self and teach us to grow. The state
has money to build fountains and pave the roads, then surely the state has
money to make the cost of living much better for our professors.
TVR 04/03/01 12:54 AM Strike Rage!
Gosh, why can't the State and UHPA make some
kind of agreement that will make them both happy. I know that the State can get
the money some how. They seem to have to money to fund programs that are
totally unnecessary. So why can't they cut those funds and just give them to
the teachers. I feel that the teachers do deserve it and would be a good
investment for the State. This is what the Governor has to think about. It
might put a strain on them for a couple of years but if the university has good
professors they probably can attract other good professors. And with these
professors they probably can make more money for the university. Thus, both the
State and the University will be happy.If the teacher's go on strike for a
little while that would be alright. But what will happen if it lasts for a long
time. They better find a way to save the semester or there will be a lot of
anger students there well have to talk to.
Supreme-Finess
04/03/01 12:55 AM rage
at wage
I just found out today that a coworker who
has no prior experience at retail was getting paid 11.00/hr. When i heard this
I was very upset. Not only because she was getting paid more than I was but she
had no experience. I had three years retail experience and my starting was less
than hers. I nearly walked out of my job. However after a few hours of thinking
about it at work; i realized that it would be foolish of me to actually do
that. You see, hears my dilemma; if any employee is found to be talking about
wages or salary of another worker or their own, they can be fired. So I could
not talk about it because I can be fired for it. Man, I just got a promotion so
I really don't want to screw it up yet I feel cheated. Maybe it is because of
the fact that I did not receive that much when I first started. Or maybe its
because I was at my job when it made its debut;and was there from the very
beginning even before and it opened and she just got hired at my workplace like
a month ago and she is getting paid more than me when i first started. I think
it maybe a little bit of both. Well, I guess its not her fault but i'm pissed!
She put 10.00 on her application where it stated her "desired pay". I
guess I should have written down a higher amount when i filled out mine. Damn,
maybe i'm raging because I feel like an idiot right now and dont know why I
just typed that. But anyway, this whole class is about identifying rage and
learn how to better manage it and learn from it so you cant deny that I
identified the causes; however, trying to dissipate it is what i am left with.
I figure that if i cant do anything about, then i might as well live with it. I
cant talk about it nor could i do anything about it. Its just one of those
times and situations where it was better off not knowing about it, and also one
of those situations in life where it sucks and you cant do anything about it.
The most dreadful thing about it is that I have been having alot of those
lately. Oh well, all i can do is try hard and wait until the clouds go away so
I could shine my brightest.
meow24
04/04/01 3:49 PM RE: PLANE RAGE!!
i travel quit a bit during the vacations, so
i've experienced air rage a few times. my worst rage was when i was on the
Korean air on my way back to hawaii from korea. half of the people on the plane
were japanese and other half were koreans. however, korean men were
continuously smoking in the lavatory. the smokes were filling up the plane and
i was really getting upset. i told one of the flight attendant about it but she
didn't do anything to stop it. i really hate second hand smoking, so i was
really getting mad at these people. but there were too many of them and i
couldn't do anything except keep complaining. guess what?! they smoked their
way to hawaii. i've been on korean air several times but that was the first
time i experienced smokers on the plane. i really wish they would all die
miserably from the lung cancer!!
snowhawaii
04/03/01 1:55 PM RE:
PLANE RAGE!!
Hi,I was working for an airline company
before. So I experienced air rage quite often especially when I encountered
those passengers who lack common sense.Your story that the guy was talking on
his cell phone on the ship made me a bit scared. You know or you may not know,
but cell phone-use is prohibited because it puts out of order of mechanics of
the aircraft. So in that sense he put all other passengers in danger.If you pay
attention, you might hear such an announcement saying please don't use cell phone...I
know there are those inconsiderate people everywhere.When you encounter
somebody who uses the cell phone on the ship next time, you'd better warn him
immediately or tell a flight attendant.Otherwise your flight may be delayed
because of mentenance.
PHYRE2001 04/03/01 1:12 PM PLANE RAGE!!
I went to Maui this weekend during spring
break for a family gathering. I never really noticed what air rage was about,
but doing report one on air rage was almost fictional to me. I never would have
imagined in a million years that people could actually act that way. Well, I
never really experienced "air rage," but I got a sense of what it was
all about. Actually I got a combination of both air rage and cell phone rage.
There was this man that was sitting across the aisle from where I was sitting
talking on his cellular phone right before the plane was about to take off.
There he was talking away, and loudly. I don't understand what was so great
about his conversation that he had to let the entire plane know what he was
talking about. Anyhow, the flight attendant had came over to inform him that
talking on the cell phone was prohibited, yet he continued to talk on the
phone. It took almost five minutes before he got off, and I know that the plane
was delayed in taking off because he had to finish his coversation. Some people
have no consideration!!
Watashi_No
04/05/01 7:52 PM RE: Petition People
Rage