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mightymousesa†† 02/05/01 6:51 PM †††††† ††††††††††† RE: inconsiderate people rage!!

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It really does make you wonder why some people can be so inconsiderate?!Is it that they are trying to bother you, are they unaware that they are bothering you, or do they just not care that you are being disturbed. I know that in my household my mother and father had strict rules on how I should behave towards others. Only your polite manners should be used, not the brash insensitive annoying behavior you had to put up with that night. See, that is what irritates me is that people don't have manners anymore. Not only should you not disturb and annoy people, but if you do, you should apologize! Does anyone remember to do that now days?

 

TVR†† 02/04/01 8:14 PM ††††††††† ††††††††††† inconsiderate people rage!!

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Don't you just hate people that know your being bothered by them but they still keep doing it. Well, this is what happened to me one day. It was one of those long days where I had school in the morning and then go straight to work in the afternoon. I was already tired from going to school and working the last three days and I thought I could get some rest when I got home that night. Boy was I wrong.I got home that night and took a shower. Then, as soon as I was about to go to sleep I heard these people screaming and stomping on the floor upstairs in my apartment. I figured it would stop because it was already 1:30 in the morning. I tried to go to sleep but I couldn't. It seemed like it was getting louder and louder. So, I called security to see what he could do. He said that he would go up there and tell them to stop. After 30 minutes had gone by the noise wasn't getting any better. I called the security up again and he said the samething. Anyways, in the end I just ended up falling asleep. I was really, really upset though that people could be so inconsiderate. Everyone knows that people are trying to sleep in the evening and they should be quit. But they just wanted to do whatever they wanted even at other people's expense. I hate those kinds of people!!

 

SpoiledBrat 02/04/01 9:03 PM †† ††††††††††† RE: parking lot rage

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I do have parking lot rage, but right now I am relating more to motorcycle rage. In town all the apartments and houses are close together. There is an apartment near my house and the garage is right next to my house. There is a really big, fat, tatoo wearing guy who owns a motorcycle in that apartment. When I first moved into my house the first thing that irratated me to death was this guys motorcycle. It is really loud and he also has a radio on it. Sometimes at 3:00 in the morning he would leave on his motorcycle. It is bad enough that in the garage everything echos, but this guy also guns his motorcycle. I would wake up every morning to his motorcycle. I hate living in town. It is always noisy and dangerous. I am glad this is not a permanent home.

 

kakela†† 02/04/01 8:40 PM ††††††† parking lot rage

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I was driving in the parking lot at Ala Moana park the other day and there was this guy on a bike and he was ripping through the parking lot weaving through the traffic. He was coming up through the cars that were slowing down to go over the speed bumps and would then pass them and cut in front. He would pass the cars on either side, sometimes passing on the right, and sometimes passing on the left sqeezing on the median of the road. I saw this guy coming up behind me and I was going to go over the speed bump but also move over to the side of the road to take one of the parking spaces. I drive a full size truck and don't slow down to go over speed bumps. I don't speed but I don't slow down like everyone else. The speed limit at the park is 10 miles per hour so I am crusing around there and hitting the speed bumps at whatever speed I am going. The truck's suspension can take the bumps in the road a lot better than a car so I don't feel the speed bump as much going at that speed. But anyway I didn't slow down at I approached the speed bump and I guess that this guy was expecting me to do so. He tried to pass me on the right but as he tried to move in front of me I guess he saw that I was still there and he freaked out. So he hit his breaks and weaved back to the right and started to yell at my girlfriend who was sitting in the truck with me. I don't know why he yelled at my girlfriend anyway because she isn't even the one that was driving! Oh well. I don't know why someone would want to weave and race around in a parking lot anyway. Cars are always making sudden stops and making turns in and out of stalls without using thier blinkers. That is the dumbest place to have an accident. If you hit another car in a parking lot, you are either not paying attention or are speeding and being wreckless. There is no reason that a car should be coming to a screeching stop in a parking lot. If you are going 5-10 mph like you are supposed to, then there is no way that a car can screech like that. Just take it easy in the parking lots cause you really can't fight the traffic. and big deal if you speed around in the parking lot and save a few seconds walking from the parking lot to where ever you are going. Even on a bike.

 

gotcorey†† 02/05/01 1:37 AM †††† ††††††††††† RE: SWR#2: Road work rage

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Its good that you see an alternate way to think about the situation the next tme you are in it. But, will you really not get mad? I have tried over and over not to get caught up in situations and change my mood, but it has been a constant struggle. It is so hard to change a predetermined mood, and by predetermined, I mean how society expects you to act. There is traffic, anger has already been predetermined, it is going to occur. I have started to not change my mood, but instead alter how I percieve the situation. This can be an even harder task, but if mastered, yields more rewarding results. To change a mood is just to delay it, to alter ones perceptions is to change the mood permanently. We all know that there is nothing that can be done about traffic. If you're in it, thats it, you're in it. I have tried to come to the fact that I am incapable of changing the situation, which puts me in a vulnerable state, but allows me to relax just a bit easier. If you cant change the situation, then you can change how you view the situation. It doesnt change how the bad the situation is, it just changes how bad you believe the situation to be. Is it really that critical? Anyway, hope this helps from a fellow road rager.

 

gemini-gal†† 02/04/01 11:18 PM ††††††††††† SWR#2: Road work rage

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I was on my way to a meeting at UH one Sunday in hopes of having a traffic-free commute. As always, I anticipated that their was going to be Sunday drivers but I can tolerate them because after all, it was Sunday. DUH! Anyhow, my meeting was 3:00pm and I left my house at about 2:40pm. I live in Kalihi so it only takes about 15 minutes to get to school without traffic. I entered the H-1 freeway town bound and to my astonishment, traffic was already backed up near the Vineyard exit. I told myself "No! Not today! What is going on? Is there a bad accident?" I tried calming myself down but to no avail because I could feel the anger building up at the site of the freeway full of cars in front of me. I get frustrated everytime things don't go the way I plan and on a Sunday, it was inconceivable that traffic could be this bad. To add to my frustration, people were entering my lane without signalling or if they did, they didn't thank me with a wave or gesture! I started screaming with my windows rolled up, "people, is there a sign on my car that says 'cut in front of me whenever and however you want?'" In short, I was ticked off! After what seemed like an eternity, I finally realized that road work was being done near the Punahou exit and the construction people closed off the left lane. People were merging into the middle lane, which was the lane I was in! Of course, I started yelling to the construction workers (with my windows rolled up) "why are you doing this today? The people pay enough taxes for road work, so don't be so stupid to do it on Sunday afternoon! You shouldn't even be working today! Come back later on tonight!" I looked at them as I said that but they couldn't hear me, they could just see the anger in my face! When I got to my meeting I was in a negative and irritable mood. I was so upset that the frustration and anger stayed with me throughout the meeting and even after! I couldn't believe how the different events on the road had a cumulative effect on me as I drove to my meeting. It affected me for a period of time. I know that its normal to react to traffic congestion with frustration but in retrospect, I realized that my behavior could have been altered. I chose anger as my way of dealing with the situation and I made it harder on myself by blaming everyone else even when they were also experiencing bad traffic. With this class, I hope that I can learn new ways to discipline myself behind the wheel whenever I have to deal with unexpected traffic situations.

 

Daniel1978†† 02/05/01 7:34 AM RE: Office Workers Rage --

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Yes, the joys of Bureaucricy. It seems as if everyone (myself included) has a HORROR story about paperwork getting lost. It's silly, the right hand does not know what the left hand is doing! It always makes me FURIOUS, and yet there is no one person to blame. I sometimes think they planned it that way. Th DMV and passport office seem to be the worst. Our school is also guilty. I've been tryingg to get my goldenrod back for about two weeks now. They don't know if a course I took at KCC (which they also offer at UH) is transferable. Why wouldn't it be? It's the same course! It even had the same number! Arrrggghhhhhh!!!! If only we had a better system.

 

leis 02/04/01 10:49 PM ††††††††††† Office Workers Rage

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I often get upset against office-workers at a part of SSC. Even though they lost my private documents, they never apologized to me, even shift the blame to other department of SSC for it. Desk clerks do not know about all sorts of procedure well, and they sometimes tell us wrong information without asking other office workers. As the result of those, I need to prepare my documents using a lot of time. The other day, another disconcerting thing happened to me. As I had made an appointment to attend to a meeting, I went to the place where I had been told. However, the place was wrong. Although finally I found the right place, I didnĀft know why, the topic of the meeting had been replaced to other one. So, I needed to make another appointment again. Some students who were supposed to join in the meeting also got upset. ĀgWe wasted our precious time again!Āh ĀgWe need to complain for it!Āh Such annoying things seem to occur to not only me, but also other students. I also feel disgusting; however, I have often met with such a sort of thing so that I have almost given up complaining to make them change. And I do not want to waste my time in doing so.

 

darell†† 02/04/01 11:25 PM ††††††† ††††††††††† people standing in the road

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Hello everyone,I just wanted to share a little irritating experinece that I had on Friday. I was heading to work on Friday and I was sort of in a rush because I was late for work. Aside from the fact that there was a lot of traffic all over the roads (I was already irritated),I had to stop at almost every stop light on my way because it seemed to know that I was in a rush and I was late to work. Anyways, I pull into the parking lot at my work at there is this group of people standing in the middle of the parking lot just talking story. So of course I had to stop. Now, I thought that they would get out of the way when I pulled into the parking lot, but no, they just carried on with their conversation and ignored me, so I honk my horn because they wouldn't get out of my way (now I am really irritated)and then when they finally move, they all look at me all mad and stuff so I also look at them and inform them of some words that I had on my mind. So, I went around the parking lot cause there were no parking stalls the other side. I had to pass my them again, and when I pass them one the guys decide to make like they were going to step in front of the car so I had to brake suddenly and then he started laughing. Basicly, I took it as they were taunting me so I stop in front of them and start cussing them out or just the guy and we get into a little argument. Anyways, the point of this is that I was late for work with no parking stall and get into work all aggrevated and irritated. Nothing really good came out of this experience except that I got all worked up. It just seemed that everything and everyone were trying to irritated me at that moment trying to make me even more late for work.

 

gotcorey†† 02/05/01 1:51 AM †††† ††††††††††† A friends road rage

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Met up with one of my friends over the weekend. After saying hello he immediately goes into this story of what happened to him on H-1 on the way over. He said he got cut off over 4 times in less than a 15 minute drive. The first guy cut in between him and the guy in front when the space in between could barely fit the car he was driving. He had to slam on his breaks and almost cause an accident with the car in the back of my friend. He said he was cursing at the guy and the young male driving the car just zoomed into the left lane and took off. My friend picked up his speed and followed him until he noticed his speed was a little too fast and stopped chasing the young male. The second and third incidents happened at on ramp sites where it was obvious to me that the cars had to merge in, but I guess my friend would not give them enough room. Not sure on whos fault those were, but my friend incists that the fault lies with the other drivers. The fourth case was due to a car that needed to get off on an exit and was a little late on entering the correct lane. The driver apperantly skipped over several lanes, one of which my friend was in and cut right in front of this. By now my friend was pissed and actually rolled down his window to verbally curse out the driver. Unfortunately the other drivers window was up. This rage built up to a point where my friend could hardly control himself. At that point I dont think he should have still been driving. I thought this would make a great forum discussion so here it is. I guess a good topic would be on how to deal with pent up rage that keeps building and building over the course of a single car ride.

 

Watashi_No 02/08/01 5:23 PM ††††††††††† RE: Please, Thank you, Excuse Me, and Sorry!

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I know what you mean about people not saying any of those courteous words that would mean alot to people even if the words seem so insignificant. I always say thank you when the moment requires it, and I say it even if I don't have to. I know that thanking someone in cars especially makes a difference for me. If I let someone in and they don't say thank you then I sometimes think that I wont let anyone in anymore. Or I just say your welcome under my breath. I do believe that if people just took the time to wave then things might be a little better on the road atleast. Also I remember when I was at a movie theater once a kid was kicking my chair and I turned around and asked him not to, his mother told him to say sorry. I was surprised by that, and it made me not so mad at him. I say to all people that saying thank you may seem like a very small thing but it may mean more to another person than you think. I know it helps me when someone says thank you, it changes my thinking and I feel open to helping others.

 

virtual-b 02/06/01 1:04 PM ††††††† ††††††††††† RE: Please, Thank you, Excuse Me, and Sorry!

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That's interesting. Saying please, thank you, etc. is expected around my family. If I do not say "please, thank you, etc." my parents, uncles, aunties would jump on my case immediately. I guess maybe the person that did not say such things was embarrassed or something. It may be a cultural misunderstanding. In some asian cultures, people do not like to stick out in a group, may avert from eye contact, and people from other cultures may then take that as an insult. On another note, I read in the paper the other day, which said that drivers in California were afraid to say, "I'm sorry" in car accidents because an apology would be a declaration of guilt that can be used in court. Anyway, people still should be courteous to each other.

 

mightymousesa†† 02/05/01 7:01 PM †††††† ††††††††††† Please, Thank you, Excuse Me, and Sorry!

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Where did these words go: please, thank you, excuse me, pardon, and sorry!!!I haven't heard many of these words around campus, have you? And if by chance I have heard these words they are delivered in such a sarcastic manner that the meaning is lost.This is the case even with the staff. I know UH is a busy campus, but last I recall the proper way the move by someone in your pathway would be to say "excuse me" or "pardon" and pass quickly and politely. But everyday I find that a shove out of the way is how people move around me. Or if someone drops something in class and I pick it up for them they don't even smile or say thanks. Are parents not teaching manners anymore or is this society turning into a world full of jerks.Considerate behavior goes a long way in extinguishing rage!!

 

AnimalLover 02/05/01 7:58 PM ††††††††††† slightly annoyed

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I just had an encounter with a careless driver. When I was turning on to Ka Uka from the freeway offramp another car switched into my lane just as he was inishing the turn. I ofund this somewhat annoying because if I hadn't been trying to slow down to that speed limit at that time he might not have had enough room. Also, I didn't understand why he didn't go into that lane in the first place when he was coming off of the freeway if that was the lane he needed to be in because he was there before me. Anyways, it didn't really effect me because I was already trying to slow down, I just didn't understand his actions.

 

silverfox2001 02/07/01 8:34 AM ††††††††††† ††††††††††† RE: Following the Arrows

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I agree with you about people not following the arrows. I have got into some near fatal accidents because people don't follow the arrows. There are times I felt like yelling out of my car and say, "did you see the arrow pointing exit instead of enter." I to have encounter situations where I had to pull on the side of a winding road to let a bus through, because he is not following the rules, where it said no buses beyond this point. I totally agree with you when you say people should follow the arrows.

 

SpoiledBrat 02/05/01 8:25 PM †† ††††††††††† Following the Arrows

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There are arrows on streets and in parking lots for a reason. They tell us which way to go so nobody gets into an accident or lost. Arrows keep cars in order so there are no misunderstandings. There are times when people don't care about arrows and they go in the oppisite direction of the arrow. I have encountered many situations where another car is not following the arrows in the parking lot. In these situations I am not able to turn into that row or I have to pull all the way to the side to let them through. Sometimes they do this to get a parking spot, which irratate me. Everybody looks for a parking spot and they follow the arrows and then there are people who cheat. They come down the wrong way and take the parking spot. People should care about following the arrows because it is there to keep people safe and follow an order. Without order there would be chaos.

 

Dahlin 02/07/01 4:07 PM ††††††††† RE: Yelling at others

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I agree, your friends bosses do not have to yell or even speak to their employees infront of the other workers. That is just common sense. Furthermore no one needs to be yelled at. If mistakes were make a sensible discussion can elevate the problem. It would have been more productive and helpful if the boss said "You know you writing is difficult to read", rather that openly criticizing her report.I know I appreciate it when others offer solutions to help me improve rather than simply telling me where I went wrong. Because I feel this way I try to treat others in the same manner.

 

skyblue†† 02/07/01 11:20 AM †††† ††††††††††† RE: Yelling at others

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I totally agree with you that your friend's boss has no respect for his co-workers. In addition, the boss handled the situation in a very unprofessional manner. If he truly cared about not embarrassing your friend, he would've kept his unnecessary remark to himself (your writing is atrocious). If the boss was smart enough, he would have confronted your friend in his office, speaking in a calm, low voice behind closed doors, instead of raging in the presence of co-workers. The boss lacked tact! He should've used more appropriate words to uplift and encourage your friend's writing rather than offend her. He could've handled this situation by pointing out the strengths and weaknesses. I truly feel sorry for your friend's experience at work of having to put up with an uncaring boss. Apparently, the boss hasn't learned to manage his anger effectively without hurting or offending people. It is not your friend's fault! The boss is the one that needs to control his anger!

 

Watashi_No 02/05/01 9:12 PM ††††††††††† Yelling at others

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It is one thing to have a quiet argument in another room with no one else there, but it is a totally different thing to have other co-workers in the same room, and the boss yells or reprimands you right in front of other people. A friend of mine had an incident where the boss was reading her paper and he said in front of everyone "your writing is atrocious", even though that is not yelling my friend was very embarassed and totally went through a long conversation with me afterwards on how she felt embarassed because all the other co-workers were there in the room, and her boss had said it pretty loudly. It seems that the boss does that to everyone, but no one says anything to stop him. My friends answer wasn't very nice, but I think her answer just made the situation worse. Also another friend said that she had made a mistake once during her three years working at her work place and the boss yells at her in front of all her co-workers, where if he took the conversation into the back room that would have saved her from embarassment and shown how much the boss cares that she is a good worker. It definitely helps worker relations! There is more to these stories but I think I gave the gist of what was going on. I think some bosses have no respect for the "menial" workers just because they think they are so low on the totem pole, but everyone has feelings!!

 

meow24 02/10/01 8:31 PM †††††† RE: SWR#3: Pet Name Rage

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there is no excuse for his ignorance. im assuming that the travel channel management had no problem with his comment on Ling Ling. because if they did, they would have edited that part out or had him do it over again. im glad you mentioned it in this forum. i can't believe that there are still ignorant, ethocentric people like him working for a tv station as a news reporter. shouldn't the network companies educate their employees before they have them appeare on tv? i mean, this is 'the' travel channel!they should at least have some idea about the program they are working on before they air it. if i was one of the management personnel and knew about his ignorant arrogance, i would definitely have him get some education and never have that part air out on the tv. i don't want to make such an assumption, but i guess the people in the travel channel are just ignorant as he is.

 

purple848 02/08/01 12:18 PM †† RE: SWR#3: Pet Name Rage

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I got upset at the reporter, too, after I read your message. He should be ashamed of himself for making such an ignorant comment on something that represents another culture. What would Chinese people and people of Chinese ancestry feel if they heard his comment? The reporter's comment and his act were definitely the ones of a person with low mentality. You're right, if he had never heard of the sound of the panda bear's name, he could have researched its origin beforehand. And if the name sounded funny to him, he should regret that he has little knowlegde of other culture and languages. Personally, I think Ling Ling is very cute name that suits an adorable animal as panda bear!!

 

skyblue†† 02/06/01 11:54 AM †††† ††††††††††† SWR#3: Pet Name Rage

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My uncle and I watched a small segment of the female panda bear from China named Ling Ling on the Travel channel. When the program was almost over, the news reporter, an Anglo-Saxon man commented, "Ling Ling, what kind of a name is that?!" He also chuckled at the same time, too. While I was sitting down at the dinner table, I told my uncle, "How ignorant could the Anglo-Saxon news reporter be when he mentioned that Ling Ling is from China...doesn't he realize that Ling Ling is a Chinese name!" I was very offended by the news reporters' comment because he not only criticized the panda bear's name, but other part-Chinese people as well. I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate it if he owned a pet, and someone said, "Your pet name is ____, what kind of a name is that?!" After a minute of venting my frustration, I thought about why he reacted in a inappropriate way. Perhaps, he didn't realize that this name has a special meaning. He is also probably not sensitive to various cultures/cultural issues. If the reporter was very curious about Ling Ling's name, he could've inquired about the name's origin in advance. My point is it was unnecessary for the news reporter to make a derogatory statement about Ling Ling, a panda bear that is special to many people around the world.

 

ktootree 02/09/01 6:30 PM ††††††† ††††††††††† RE: friends??

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I understand what you went through in this situation. I know a person like that too. I told her that I would go to this movie with her, but when the day came, my plans for a ride down to the theater fell through. I had no way of getting there, and I was stuck at home. Instead of offering to pick me up, she got really mad and told me that I was rude. She also said that she cannot stand people who do thatóplan something and then donít go through with it. She started lecturing about how itís bad. I even said I was sorry because I knew she wanted to go, but I couldnít do anything. She said I do that often, so now I donít even mention anything until Iím practically 100% sure that Iíll be able to make it. I think if she really wanted to go then she should have offered to give me a ride, but I live ďtoo far awayĒ to be given a ride. Howís that yeah? I donít even bother asking for a ride from her and itís rarely ever that she does give me one. This particular situation happened a while back, and since then weíve learned to avoid that kind of situation. So, we havenít gotten into that argument for quite some time now, so thatís good. I don't know about her, but I learned that people are different and react to situations differently and we just have to accept those differences and work it out, and if not, then maybe itís best not to be friends.

 

purple848 02/08/01 1:47 PM †††† RE: friends??

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I think your friend was being a little childish. She needs to understand that soetimes things don't go the way as planned. She should understand that a thing beyond your control happens, and she should not get upset at you for that. School is very important, and if she is a student aslo, she should know that, too. Maybe she was disappointed to know that you couldn't go shopping with her because she had been very looking forward to spend her time with you, but there are many other ways she can tell you that without making it sounds a burden to you. I think she needs to learn how to respect her firends. But it is good to know that you and her keep a good friendship in spite of that incident. No one is perfect. It's good to keep a good relationship with others. Friends make your life colorful, right?

 

oshale†† 02/08/01 12:22 PM †††††† RE: friends??

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hi.i totally know what you mean. Some friends are really understanding, and some friends can be really selfish at times. Shopping and prior engagementis really important. i really think so. but something as trivial as shopping compared to school work, i totally say, school work is more important. ask anybody on that. But of course this person is someone who never forgets a promise and keeps them all the time, then maybe she has a reason to get mad. but who is that perfect? We live in a world full of surprises and we never know what will hit us next. To be a true friend, i think we need to be considerate and be able to think from other person's point of view.

 

carlisle†† 02/06/01 5:37 PM ††††††† ††††††††††† RE: friends??

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I know what you are feeling. But, to be honest I get that way sometimes to. I do not know what your friends mentality is, but I see it as, if a friend plans something with me I am totally going to get excited about it. And then when my friend lets me down, of course I am going to get upset. But, then I will get over it. I experienced a similar thing with my husband. He let me down a few times I rage like there was no tomorrow. The only thing that I felt was madness, and hurt, I was so angry and hurt inside that I wanted to cry. I know that a friendship and a marriage is something kind of different, but the feelings are kind of similar, if you know what I mean. I spoke tohim about it after I cooled off, and I explained how I felt and told him that the things that I said to him was out of anger and hurt. Maybe that is why your friend said what she said. I hope this makes some sense.

 

TVR†† 02/06/01 12:59 PM †††††††† ††††††††††† friends??

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I know this person that always gets mad if you can't accomadate her schedule. There was this one time when I told her that I would go with her shopping later that week. But when that day came, I ended up being swamped with work to do for school. So, I told her that I couldn't go with her anymore. I thought she would understand because she also is a student but she didn't. She got really mad and insisted that I go or she would talk to me again. (Well not to that extreme but she kind of implied it). That really got me mad because it seemed that she was just thinking about herself. It's not like she doesn't do that to anyone else. So, I just told her forget it and just hanged up the phone. Everything is find now but for the next couple of days she was very upset at me. I just can't believe that some people can be so insensitive. It's not like we couldn't go another day but she really wanted to go that particular day. I was thinking to myself, "What's the big deal". Anyways, I just wanted to share this experience. As for me, I think I try to please everyone and when there's something that I can't control they think I'm ignoring them. Oh well, to bad for them.

 

virtual-b 02/08/01 12:48 PM ††††† RE: SWR #4: NO BLINKERS

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I agree with you as well. I just posted a story of almost rear-ending a guy who did not use his blinker. Well, maybe his blinker was broken, but there are hand signals. I agree that in order to get a license, that they need to use their blinkers. That's so fundamental, the road test for driving is all about proper turning and such. Not signaling can other cars to plow into each other. Sort of a domino effect. Drivers should be cited more often for doing those small infractions that can turn into accidents, like not coming to a complete stop at stop signs, not using turn signals, etc.

 

rie2001 02/07/01 10:38 PM †††††† ††††††††††† RE: SWR #4: NO BLINKERS

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I totally agree with you. It is very dangerous to make turn without using their blinkers... not only when you make turns, but also when you change the lanes! But you know what? When I got my license, the examiner told me that I do not always have to use my blinkers when I switch the lane. Actually, not too many people use their blinkers when they change the lanes. That what my examiner said!! This is totally inappropriate for the examiner to say to the newest driver in the world!!

 

silverfox2001 02/07/01 9:12 AM ††††††††††† ††††††††††† SWR #4: NO BLINKERS

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My rage this week is people who do not use their blinkers. I hate cars that decide at the last minute they are going to turn off into some way off drive way in the middle of no where and you have to stop short because he/she did not use their blinkers. What is so hard on switching up or down in the blinker department. It is a matter of safety in using your blinker in the vehicle. I am quite sure when they went to get their driver's license they had to use their blinkers in order to pass the driving test. So what is up with not using your blinkers after your driving test. My biggest pet peeve is when you are in a mall and the car is in the right hand lane and want to turn left like the situation I was in. I was in the left hand lane and this car decided to over take me from the right hand side and make a turn to the left. I was raging that I decided to follow that car. When that car found a parking space I pulled up and said, you almost caused us to get in to a major accident. She looked at me like nothing was wrong and walked into Liberty House. I was so angry that I had to remeber where I was and start to calm down. Right beside me was my daughter that was staring at me. It is then, I realized what I was doing, by imposing infliction of my rage on her, that I stepped out of my truck and took a breath.

 

MadHatter808†† 02/10/01 12:55 PM †††††† RE: Hard to be a good driver!

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Well first of all, b/c you were tired, you may not have realized what you were doing completely nor what others were doing as you mentioned in your post. Being a good driver requires one to be attentive and considerate and it's hard to have the latter without the former. I know I'm not the most attentive driver when I drive and it makes it hard on other drivers to have to pay attention to all the mistakes I make. Also, reacting to what you perceive to be mistakes others may have made only makes things worse b/c you are adding to the danger by speeding or tailgating hence further causing others to have to adjust to you. I'm not a perfect driver, but this class is teaching me about better ways to be one so that when I do go behind the wheel, I will think more carefully about how I will impact others from the way I drive. Try to make sure you get enough rest, OK? :)

 

AnimalLover 02/09/01 12:30 AM †††††††††† ††††††††††† RE: Hard to be a good driver!

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I know what you're talking about. When I drive I usually try to follow the speed limit because I don't want to deal with the speeding tickets or anything but the other drivers on the road don't appreciate that. I can understand if I'm going below the speed limit but I go about five or ten mph above the speed limit and they're still cutting me off and speeding past me until they're out of sight. I try to follow all of the laws and think that's what being a good driver is but the other people on the road seem to have a different opinion.

 

rie2001 02/07/01 11:02 PM †††††† ††††††††††† Hard to be a good driver!

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This week I was sick. It was not too bad, but I felt so tired and I didn't have any extra energy for any aggressive driving behavior. I didn't speed, never pass the yellow light, stay in one lane, and let people in to my lane so many times. I actually thought I am such a good driver!! But I guess other drivers on the road didn't think so. They were obviously irriteted by me. I don't know how many cars cut me off, or tailgated. So I had to pick up my speed. Well... simple question here is that what is a good driver?

 

leis 02/11/01 6:26 AM †† ††††††††††† RE: No Rage Today!!!!!!!

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You hardly ever do not have rage nor any frustration related behavior???Even though you fight with Mon? Has somebody hardly ever made you get mad doing irrational things? Even though you lost your text data on the computer, don't you get mad? I think you are lucky, peaceful, and happy person. I have often experienced feeling of mad since my childhood: when Mom says irrational thing, when I meet with somebody discriminate different races, when I lost my data on the computer, when UPS does not deliver products which should be done, when somebody cut into the line etc. My mad experiences are uncountable. However, I have had no rage for this week yet. It was peacful and might have been unusual week.

 

ddestrad†† 02/09/01 2:13 PM †††† ††††††††††† RE: No Rage Today!!!!!!!

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Well i can totally relate to you Daniel, I hardly ever have rage nor any frustration related behavior. So this whole Chat posting isn't working so well with me. Is it possible to have rage because you haven't or don't rage? I'm trying to make myself mad but it isn't working, so I'll just do something that will frustrate me like go back to the computer lab and figure out how to upload software with FTP. That will surely do it. Well Daniel i'm sorry to hear that you have no rage, good luck next time! Just kidding.

 

Daniel1978†† 02/08/01 8:59 AM RE: No Rage Today!!!!!!!

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WHAT THE HELL?? My computer keeps doing this!!! I'll post a whole long message, and it'll only post what is in the first part of the window. Damn....The whole point of that message was how I was not going to let myself rage. This sucks. Message board rage. Stupid computer

 

Daniel1978†† 02/08/01 8:56 AM ††††††††††† No Rage Today!!!!!!!

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So I just woke and It's a fresh new day. No rage yet. This is great, but the sad part is that I know this will change. A car will almost hit m

 

PHYRE2001†† 02/08/01 12:17 PM †††††††† ††††††††††† RE: inconsiderate parking

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I too hate when cars park too close to everyone. I have a compact car, and the thing that I hate most about parking structures, is when your walking back to your car after school. When you leave your car in the structure for more than a couple of hours, you think that you left it in good condition. But as you approach your car, you see that you have no room to get in because some person parked too close to you. I have often wondered why people who do not have compact cars, insist on parking in compact stalls. But, there brings in another question, and that is "Why are the compact spaces more convenient than the other stall?" If you look at a parking structures, many of the compact stalls are more convenient, like they may be close to an elevator or stair well. Maybe the bigger cars get upset about that, and they proceed to park in compact stall, making their own stalls. Everyone will always have a gripe about something, its like you cannot win!!

 

charisseo†† 02/08/01 11:23 AM ††††††††††† inconsiderate parking

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one pet peeve i have about other drivers is how they park their cars. some people don't take into consideration the other people who will be parking next to them. for example the the UH parking structure. the outling stalls are for compact cars while there are stalls that are a little wider in the middle rows. along the long stretch of parking stalls a chain reaction is created when one stall is taken my a car that parks too much to one side. or in a worse situation a car that is clearly not a compact car parks in the compact stall causing the other people who park a long side that car to be pushed into the other neighboring stall. this behavrior in my opinion lacks consideration on a driver who does not take the time park straight or does not park in their appropriate stall (if one is availible).

 

kathyhirokane 02/08/01 4:44 PM †††††††††† RE: Work rage- bad customers

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oshale,i think you should have been more patient with the old lady. sometimes older people have a harder time hearing or understanding what we say, and it takes time to explain it to them. i've had some older people ask me questions that i thought were pretty dumb or i wasn't able to understand what they were asking, but if you take the time to talk to them, they'll be grateful that you were nice to them, and you'll also feel good about yourself for being nice back. i know that is how i feel when i'm in that situation. when you are faced with a person who makes you mad or irritated, especially in customer service, if you smile and try to be nice, it will reflect better on you. that person will remember that you were polite and nice and will treat you the same in the future.

 

PHYRE2001†† 02/08/01 12:25 PM †††††††† ††††††††††† RE: Work rage- bad customers

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I have had one too many customers that always ruin the end of a good day. I use to work at Longs Drugs, and so I had my fill of old ladies and their questions. My conclusion is that old people have a different frame of mind. They do not understand that their are certain closing procedures at the end of the day, because when they come back in the morning, everything was exactly how they left it. For example, I use to work in the photo department, so we too had to cover the display tables. When the question, why is asked, like it is any of their bussiness to begin with, I would make up all kinds of crazy stories. I would tell them that the cleaning crew uses the tables to reach the lights to clean at night. I found out that old people just dont accept the "just because" answer. They would rather hear that it is a way of communicating with aliens or some other bizarre anwser. The mentality between generations is just different!!

 

oshale†† 02/08/01 12:13 PM †††††† ††††††††††† Work rage- bad customers

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I really hate being a salesperson. It feels like people look down on me or something. when i say something they seem to totally ignore me.Anyway, it was one causasian old lady. I work in a jewelry section, so when it was time to close, we cover the display case with sheets. Like a usual day, i was just doing my routine. Announcement came out that we are closed so as i was putting the covers on the display case, this old lady comes upto me and say, 'why are you covering that?' So i said, 'because we are closed!' Then she continued to ask, but why are you covering it? and i continued to say because we are closed. and she kept on asking why we were covering the counter. I mean what did this lady want from me. i was just doing my job and she kept on asking me why i was covering it up. i said, 'lady why don't you go ask the president why we have to do this' and she said, 'where can i find him?' i was so mad. Right now that i think back, i think she was slightly senile. that is the only explanation i can think of because why would she question the fact that i was covering the showcase with jewelry in in? Isn't that just a common sense. I really didn't see her reasoning for asking me that. I was really sarcastic to her and i really didn't explain to her why because I never thought about why we did that. i think i was just angered by the fact that some old lady like that will waste my time with a dumb question like that. I don't know how i should've handled it. but i really got mad after that. she just totally put me in a bad mood, right before i was going to go home. Right now, i think i should have just ignored her. i don't know. i think i just have bad luck with people.

 

snowhawaii 02/08/01 3:10 PM †† ††††††††††† RE: Best friend rage

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Are you sure she's your best friend?At least she doesn't seem to think the same way.No, you are not weird. If I were you, I would've felt same way too.I mark all my close friends' birthdays on the calendar when I get a new one. And I assume most people do so.If she's my best friend, I'll send the birthday card rather than just calling or sending e-card. And I expect my best friend to do so too.I understand that sometimes boyfriend comes first too, but it cannot be the excuse to forget about the best friend.If I were you, I'll never call her the best friend again.Fortunately, I just received a birthday gift from my friend.I haven't seen him for about 2years, and we don't write each other often. We know we both are busy. But we don't forget the X'mas card and Birthday gift. No matter how far we're apart, we are friends as long as we care about each other.I think that's how friends should be.

 

oshale†† 02/08/01 12:30 PM †††††† ††††††††††† Best friend rage

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Whoever reads this, i want you to reply to me and tell me if i am overreacting. I am a girl and you know your best girlfriend is suppose to be like a sister. It was my birthday last month. Ever since then, i am not in the speaking terms with my friend. I know she is busy, so am i. She has boyfriend and so do i. So i know sometimes boyfriend comes before a girlfriend, and i totally understand that. i am like that too. So if we are not able to talk to each other long time it is understandable. But NOT THIS! It was my birthday, and she hasn't even called me. Obviously she forgot. i wasn't even expecting a present or party. i just wanted her to call me say happy birthday. But i tried to understand her. So i gave her few more days. still no call from her. Then two weeks passed and i saw her in the library, and she was like why didn't you call me? I was like in my head, why didn't you? At that moment, if she made any kind of apologetic remark about forgetting my birthday, i would've forgot about my hurt feeling. i would've just said, oh, no big deal. But she had no clue. She had no clue that it was my birthday that she had forgotten. That really made me mad. i was fuming in my head and in my heart. how can my best friend do that? not best friends anymore but... If it was just a regular friend, i would not react this way.But she was suppose to be my best friend. Now when I see her around school and i totally ignore her and her boyfriend, and give her stink eye sometimes when our eyes meet. AS for resolution, nothing i see in the future. i will not approach her and it will not affect me in anyway if she didn't either. She is so insensitive and stupid. i'm sure she never forgets her boyfriend's birthday. what a friend i had or i thought i had. am i overreacting? please be honest. i want to know if i am the weird one.

 

carlisle†† 02/12/01 5:14 PM ††††††† RE: CONTRADICTORY SUPERVISORS!!

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I know what you are talking about. I work at Costco and there is a lot of people like that out there. There are many bosses out there that contradict themselves on a daily basis. We have our regional manager come in every other month for meetings with some of the staff. Even in the meeting they contradict themeselves, they are just making themselves look stupid, well atleast that is in my eyes. If I had the nerve I would speak up and tell them what I really think. I do speak up, but I do not tell them exactly how I am feeling, I kind of go around the subject. My rage at those point in times is to quite, but I do not because of my reasons. I just tell myself that this job is not going to be my career goal, so it is not worth raging over. Know what I mean?

 

oshale†† 02/08/01 12:49 PM †††††† RE: CONTRADICTORY SUPERVISORS!!

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I guess being a employee somewhere and working under someone all makes us have things in common. Wherever we go, i guess there are always rude customers, old ladies with stupid questions, and supervisor who think they know it all, and try to make the other employee look stupid. i think they think that by making you aware of your mistakes and letting you know what you did wrong while making you feel very dumb, is a dumb supervisor to begin with. I kind of figured it out. They think that just because they are in the superior position, they have the right to look down on you and make themselves look good in front of others. They don't realize they are not getting the respect that they want, they are just making themselves look more stupid and will never get respect from you or others. Being a supervisor should have more prerequisites than just being experienced in work, someone who worked there long. It should be someone with compassion and consideration for the workers and try to cover their mistakes and help them fulfill their duties in a happy setting for optimal performance. Supervisor like that makes you not want to work there anymore. Doesn't it? i can't stand supervisor who act like they know everything, when in actuality, they know nothing!i've had my shares of supervisor and i never was clever like you to think of revenge or a comeback line like you. i don't think i have that kind of wit. i always think afterwards, what i should've told her. But i don't know being revengeful is a emotionally intelligent thing to do but it really will make me feel good telling them off! Way to go!

 

PHYRE2001†† 02/08/01 12:34 PM †††††††† ††††††††††† CONTRADICTORY SUPERVISORS!!

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I hate when supervisors always seem that they are always right. The scold you and reprimand you, when they themselves are doing the same thing. I work at a bank, and so the paperwork needs to be placed in their respective bins, and put away. I was doing my transactions during a busy hour, and I accidently put some paperwork in the wrong bin. When the crowd was gone, I would have been able to correct the bins, and everything would be fine. My supervisor, who was working in the next window came over to ask me a question, and noticed the wrong bin placing. Instead of just realizing that it was busy and correcting the problem, she decided to scold me and insult my intelligence. She kept going on, you sure you know where to put your paperwork. Taunting and asking me over and over. I finished the transaction for the customer, and took a deep breath. I looked at my supervisors desk, and all of her paperwork was not put away, and her drawer was unlocked and the key still there. That is a big NO NO in banking, so I grabbed her key and hid it. When she came back she was looking frantically all over for it. I gave back her key and told her that the next time she decideds to make me feel stupid in front of a customer, she better being a darn good job of her own. I was feeling rage at that moment, but I think that it was a different type of rage. Although I was embarrased that she gave me scoldings, in a sense she was right, I did make a mistake. I hate to be embarrassed, and seeing that she too makes mistakes, bigger than what I did, I felt that she had no right to try and make me feel stupid. Instead of being steamed rage, and head turning red, I felt like getting even, or revenge rage. I do not know what is worse, but maybe it is just mentality!!

 

virtual-b 02/08/01 12:40 PM ††††† no blinker

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I was driving in kalihi yesterday and almost rear-ended a car. I was cruising along, in an unemotional state. I had no place to go to, finished the things that I needed to do, and then this car abruptly stops and makes a right turn. There was no preparation made by the driver. He did not gradually decrease his speed. He did not even turn on his turn signal. Luckily, I was able to jam the brakes and the guy in back was a good distance away. I was ticked off, the car that I was driving was not even my car. I honked my horn and sped off, sort of showing the other driver that he unnecessarily delayed me and almost made me crash into him. I usually take extra good care of other people's cars when I borrow them. I park in short distance from stores to avoid break-ins, park in the shade to protect the paint, etc. However, now that I think about the incident indept, I realize that I should not have been that close to the guy. Although the guy did not signal his turn, I now see my faults as well, including how quickly my unemotional state became one of anger.

 

charisseo†† 02/09/01 8:51 PM ††† ††††††††††† RE: TEACHER RAGE!!

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i can understand what you are going through. i have also been sick for the past week. it is so frustrating to be sick and still be held to all prior responsibilities. in my experience with teachers is that if a teacher is kept informed they have a better understanding and may bend rules in needed. as for teachers who stick by strict rules i don't understand the reasoning for it. if a student does and assigment it shouldn't really matter if the assinment is done on which day. rather it should be graded on the content of the work.

 

skyblue†† 02/08/01 3:57 PM †††††† ††††††††††† RE: TEACHER RAGE!!

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I feel very sorry for you! I empathize with you concerning your recovery and two totally unfair grades for those assignments. Your teacher isn't putting herself in your shoes! How would she like to be reprimanded for not accepting make-up assignments due to an ineffective and wrong type of medication that isn't helping to cure your illness?! Please continue to be persistent in asking her to change Ms./Mrs. unfair syllabus policy for late assignments. I hope your teacher will be flexible in hearing your needs. If not, she doesn't care about how well you are performing or the grade that you will receive in her class. I can relate to your situation from a similar experience. Last semester, one of my female instructors stated in her syllabus that she doesn't allow make-up assignments for any reason due to illness, car trouble, etc. which constitutes any work that is turned in one day late. However, if the student turns in a paper on or before the due date knowing that their work isn't the best quality, she allows the student to rewrite their paper as many times as possible/when they become satisfied with their revised grade. Unfortunately, when my friend who is a classmate of mine became ill, she forced herself to stay up late and turned in the paper on time, even though she went to the doctor and was told to get lots of sleep because of the consequences. Personally, I think my instructors' policy is absolutely absurd! I've come to realize that some teachers are very set in their ways meaning that they must insist on having everything work according to their preferences. I hope that she will come to her senses and make an exception for you because of your circumstances.

 

PHYRE2001†† 02/08/01 12:42 PM †††††††† ††††††††††† TEACHER RAGE!!

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I know that many college students get angry at their teachers, especially if they do not get to turn in their homework late. Well, the thing that is worst than a strict teacher, is a teacher who just don't care. I have been under doctors care for the past week, because the prescription that was given to me was too strong. I felt so nauseated this entire week, that I could not even get out of bed. I was very upset about being bed-ridden because of medication, and to what I believe, doctor error. Anyhow, today was the first day back at school, and I went to talk to one of my teachers about making up two homework assignments. She told me that her policy is that you cannot make up homework, and I have to take an F for both assignments. How is that fair, that a doctors note is not even suffice. I think that if you are under doctors care, you should be able to turn in anything. She told me that she would think about me making up the quiz.. I was so angry that I was wishing bad things happen to her. I am so disguisted with people who are just in the wrong profession. Yes I believe the saying that "shit happens" but does that mean that you have to be reprimanded for it. Its bad enough that I have a weeks worth of school work to do, and catch up with the rest of the class, but to do it knowing that I am going to receive an F seems so pointless to me. I just dont understand some people.

 

lavaflow 02/10/01 6:35 PM †††††† RE:

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I understand how it's difficult to hear the movie when other people start talking around you. I had a similar problem last week when we watched a film in the class. But I also have to admit that I've talked while watching movies when I go to the theater with friends. I don't keep talking but I say one or two words. However I have noticed that this can cause other people to get irritated. I think that I should be more careful about other people in the theater and should not think that it's OK to say few words while watching movies because there are also many others doing the same.

 

virtual-b 02/10/01 10:13 AM ††††† ††††††††††† RE:

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I agree wholeheartedly with you. During class lecture, movies, or anything done in class, the class should not be interupted by cell phones. I often get annoyed with people who let their cell phones ring on and on. I've seen professors halt their lectures and crack jokes about cell phone interuptions. I personally do not have a cell phone, so I don't know for sure. But if a person turns it off, there is an answering machine service, right? Or get a beeper instead and put on vibrate. However, the thing that gets me really ticked off, is when I'm concentrating during an exam and beepers or cell phones go off. Instead of focusing on the exam, I go off tangent and try to figure out what the tune was on cell phone. I learned, in cognitive psychology, that a person should study for an exam in an environment similar to the one that he takes the exam. For me, I study in a library or in my room, so I easily get distracted from disturbances such as cell phones.

 

cjn†† 02/08/01 4:00 PM ††††††††††† "QUIET!!" rage

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A few days ago, I watched a movie in class. So far so good because I was glad to watch a movie instead of listening to a lecture. When the movie started, the people sitting right behind me were talking about the movie, asking each other if they have seen this movie, if it was good... . This made it difficult for me to hear what was said in the movie. I did not say anything to them though. Then later on, I hear a cell phone ring. I actually heard the person say "hello". Come on, you're watching a movie and still picking up a phone? Even though we weren't in a movie theater, I expected them to be considerate of others. Maybe there should be a sign saying "please remain quiet throughout the showing and turn off your cell phone". Plain and simple. Considering this, I will still remain in my seat and endure whatever my ears can take. Anyway I'll see how I will bear it the next time we watch a movie.

 

cjn†† 02/08/01 4:12 PM ††††††††††† raging about

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I just wrote "QUIET!!" rage and that was actually the second time I wrote it. For some reason, inattention maybe, I must have hit the cancel button instead of the post button so I ended up rewriting my self-witnessing rage, so what you read (if you read it) in my posting on quiet rage is not the original. I say this because I was so irritated to have my work deleted right after I finished writing it. It's so frustrating to go through that. I don't know where my head was but sometimes I lose complete focus on what I'm doing. I go into the automatic mode. I just wanted to get this out, so that I feel good about it now.

 

AnimalLover 02/09/01 12:37 AM †††††††††† ††††††††††† My Aunty's Rage

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On Saturday I was catching a ride with my aunty to work and I found it amusing to see her get mad. I know that's not very nice but my aunty is an extremely nice lady who follows all the driving laws and ettiquette and she is usually very calm and laid back when she's driving. Anyways, when we were going down the street a car turned in front of her all of a sudden and she had to step on her brakes, that's when I heard her say, "You idiot!" out loud so I could hear and I was kind of shocked. I also thought the person was an idiot but I'm usually the one who makes those kinds of comments and it just makes me realize that in the right situation anyone can have feelings of rage.

 

cjn†† 02/11/01 9:15 AM RE: Hotel rage

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Wow, what an attitude! You know sometimes people who have been working in the same place for a long time think they are allowed to display that kind of attitude simply because they have been working there longer than your boyfriend. I really feel sorry for the tourist and it is really not a good way to promote the "aloha" of this island. I hope there will be consequences for her behavior. I hope that someday I won't be bumping into someone like her or even herself.

 

purple848 02/09/01 1:35 AM †††† ††††††††††† Hotel rage

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My boyfriend works at an information desk of a hotel in Waikiki. The hotel guests can stop by the desk and ask any kind of information they need. The other day, when he was working with a female employee, a male guest came to the desk and asked her for a map of Oahu. She misunderstood what the guest was asking for, and showed him a map of golf course. The guest told her that wasn't a kind of map he wanted. The female employee told him bluntly, "Oh, but you told me to show you a map of golf course." She didn't say sorry for not hearing him right. The guest looked a little upset, but didn't say anything about it. Then, he asked her again for a map of Oahu, and she just said "there" by pointing at a shelf behind her where there was a sheaf of maps to give out. From the guest's position, it was hard to reach the map. So my boyfriend took one of them and handed it politely to the guest, hoping that the female employee's attitude wouldn't make him upset any more. But it was too late. The guest's face turned red by anger, and he said to the female employee, "You have an attitude problem! I came here to have a good time, but your rudeness just ruined it! I'll report you to your manager. What's your name!" The female employee told him her name, but still didn't say sorry for making him angry until he left. Although my boyfriend thought she had not been acting as a professional who engages in the service industry, he is not her manager, and she has been working there much longer than he has, so he couldn't say anything. He felt uncomfortable with an awkward silence, so he said to her, "That guest was very upset." Then she said, with shurugging her shoulders, "Oh, well. You have short-tempered guests sometimes. I don't know what's wrong with them." He felt almost fainted to hear that, and thought, this woman never dreamed it was her fault. He felt sorry for the guest for wasting his energy by getting angry with her because there seemed to be no hope of her attitude would be corrected in the future.

 

purple848 02/23/01 2:42 PM †††† ††††††††††† RE: housemate rage

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Oh,yes, tell me about it. I can understand exactly how you feel. I live in a dorm, so I also have to share a bathroom with four other girls. There is a person who comes and clean our bathroom once a week, but it used be very bad. There must have been a person who didn't use a drape, so every time after this person took a shower, the floor was all wet. Some threw food scraps into a trashcan installed in the bathroom, and that attracted roaches. Some washed their clothes in basin, so the water spread the floor and a toilet seat next to it. If it happened only once a while, I could bear with it, but since it happened all the time, I became disinclined to go there. Thank God, these people all moved out now and it became all right to use the bathroom. It is surprising that there is people who do not care about others and leave common area dirty. A person who can not be considerate of others shouldn't be living in a dorm. I hope the other girl who shares a bathroom with you will notice the importance of being considerate of others. If she can't, then, I hope she moves out soon!

 

lavaflow 02/10/01 6:25 PM †††††† RE: housemate rage

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I agree with you that the girl is really inconsiderate. She should take care of the trashcan too. I think that she's been taking your work for granted and she probably won't do it unless you tell her to share the duty. I don't know if you've already spoken her about this. If you did and then she was still like this, it's really a problem ... too bad that you had to share the bathroom with that girl. You may need to stop doing the work to let her know how it becomes if nobody cleans up. I also always try to keep the bathroom clean as much as I can because the bathroom is the easiest place to get dirty. I know that there are some people who don't pay much attention to how easy it gets dirty after each of their eses. I hate to find girls' long hairs all over the bathroom floor or in a bathtub too.

 

snowhawaii 02/09/01 2:38 PM †† housemate rage

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I'm living off-campus housing. It's not an apartment, more like a student house. I have my own room, but have to share a bathroom with another girl. My rage is about her. She never cleans the trash. I'm the one who always brings the trash to the trashbox outside. The cleaning lady comes only once a month. So we have to clean up by ourselves, and she knows that because she's been living here since last semester while I just moved in last month. However she doesn't care. Whenever the trashcan is full, I collect the trash and put a new trash bag. So she must know who does this because only two of us share the bathroom.Furthermore what I found out recently is she throws her own trash from her room in the bathroom too. So the trashcan gets full quickly. It's not a lot of work just to bring them out. But why can't she do that?She has such a nerve. She knows I'll do that anyway. For me I just wanna use the bathroom feeling comfortable, that's why I wipe the dirt and clean the trashcan. I want her to be more considerate. Besides that, so many her frizzled long hairs are always left behind too.

 

carlisle†† 02/12/01 4:56 PM ††††††† RE: FTP rage

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Tell me about it. I have been trying to upload my report to the classes website, but I am having a lot of trouble. I sat at the computer last week for almost 5 hours trying to upload my report. And I accopmlished nothing. I wanted to smash my computer into small bits of pieces so that I would not have look at it anymore. Until this very second i am having trouble uploading my report. I guess I will have to swallow my pride and go to the computer lab, and ask someone to help be upload it

 

SpoiledBrat 02/11/01 7:59 PM †† ††††††††††† RE: FTP rage

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I completely understand! I don't even know what an FTP is. I don't know if I already have one or if I need to download one. I looked for FTP's to download and I cannot find a free one cause I am not buying one. I don't know how to even design the report or where I'm I am suppose to write it and how to send it. On top of all that, my executable(however you spell it) is not working and I do not know if that will cause problems with doing the report. I wish I could just type out the report. I will figure it out, hopefully in time. I want to do a good job, but my lack of computer knowledge will have a huge impact on my grade.

 

cjn†† 02/11/01 9:04 AM ††††††††††† RE: FTP rage

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You are lucky compared to me because I can't even connect to the FTP server so I'm basically screwed. It is frustrating to have to rely on this. Maybe it won't be too difficult once we figure out how this work. Probably after the first report. Every time I try to connect, it gets interrupted after a few seconds. What is going on? I too am not computer literate.

 

charisseo†† 02/09/01 8:24 PM ††† ††††††††††† RE: FTP rage

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i'm going throught the same ftp problem as you. it's rather confusing difficult to understand if you are doing something right or wrong. then to understand where the mistake was made. well i hope your presentation worked out

 

ddestrad†† 02/09/01 3:08 PM †††† ††††††††††† FTP rage

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Like I said I would probably have rage from trying to transfer my oral presentations over. I followed the directions best to my abilities ( which obviously isn't that well because i am computer illiterate and this class frustrates me), so anyway i go down to my computer lab in the Gateway house, and try to upload my file to transfer over to the folder on our site. WELL, I had someone help me out with it last night and it looked quite simplistic.... i guess not really because i didn't get it to go into my folder and i don't know how to move it to my folder either. I can't stand computers!!!!!!!, Technology is really annoying, if we could just communicate with papercups and some string I would be pretty damn content! So anyway my "presentation" looks horrible and didn't transfer well, plus it didn't go into my folder. So this is my venting session! The source of my anger is the computer, the way to avoid it would be to not go onto them again, or atleast not work with the FTP and attempt to ever, and i mean ever upload a file again! THe sad part to the cure of my frustration and rage can not be extinguished because this class revolves around the computer, so basically i'm screwed.

 

MadHatter808†† 02/09/01 4:36 PM †††††††† irritated

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Have you ever sat near someone who was kind of overbearing in computer lab? Well, as i was working on my report today (since I'm taking two of Dr. James' classes), and sat next to this girl who had this very high squeaky voice and who was asking for help from the computer consultants constantly. She later asked one of them to come look at a site on large penises which I found kind of amusing. Anyway, my point is I could tell the lab consultants were getting a little irritated by her constant demands. I think it's OK to ask for help though maybe doing so quietly would be nicer. Anyway, it's not high on my scale of rage, but thought it was a small incident of rage that might be interesting enough to put out there.

 

MadHatter808†† 02/10/01 12:29 PM †††††† RE: dining rage

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I really liked what you had to say about time outs and having the "more assertive" children teach them the rules and norms. Children often learn well from their peers especially if they make good examples. Sometimes, I don't know how best to discipline the children I work with and I will resort to trying to explain to them why what they did was wrong or doesn't make sense. Sometimes that works but sometimes they get bored with my explainations and will tune out unless I make it exciting for them to listen. It takes a lot of flexibility to work with kids and I appreciate your comment--I think I will use it too!

 

virtual-b 02/10/01 10:35 AM ††††† ††††††††††† RE: dining rage

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Well, children can often enrage people. I worked at "A +", which is an afterschool program devoted to providing children positive activities when school ends. In other words, babysitting until the parents are done working. I was in charge of twenty first graders from 2:30pm to 5:00pm. It may be a short time period, but those children really challenged me every single day. Children like to test authority. They like to see what they can get away with and who lets them they get away wihout punishment. I used punishment like timeouts to get them to stop misbehaving. I also used positive reinforcement of good behavior, like an extra ten minutes of outdoor play. In addition, I left them alone during timeouts, so that the more assertive children would help others to understand the rules and consequences, instead of me harping on them. But I know that children can really make people angry, myself included. This one kid liked to act up everyday. I don't know if he wanted attention that he wasn't getting at home, or maybe he's just being a kid. He would ruin other children's art works, steal their pencils, rip his own homework, run around, etc. He knew what would get me angry. It was like a game to him. I can definitely see how children can cause rage.

 

MadHatter808†† 02/09/01 4:42 PM †††††††† dining rage

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OK, this is not a nice one b/c I usually don't like to get mad at kids, but when they act up at the dinner table by wasting food, talking too loud, and trying to get attention by diverting conversation to silly topics, I feel a little impatient. Yesterday, I had dinner with my boss's children at their home. I tutor them and sometimes we eat together if the parents are home. Anyway, when they are alone with me it's bad enough (I have to split the two of them apart and tutor them one at a time in different rooms), but when they are in a hang loose situation, their brattiness can come out. I tried to divert their attention to topics that were more serious while still allowing them to express themselves in more normal ways though I did feel some rage when they acted up by doing things like kicking me under the table (for fun and very lightly!) and picking up food with their hands (which I taught them not to do!).

 

sakodash†† 02/12/01 9:31 AM ††† RE: weather rage!!

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Last week sucked!! I know a lot of people like it all cold and stuff but for me, I just can't get out of bed in the morning!! Plus, I'm not a cold weather type of person and all last week everyone I met was just talking about how wonderful the weather is all freezing cold while I'm grumbling the whole time. I know what you mean about all that yucky water flying all up your leg walking all over campus!! So gross!! And then I feel all stupid standing in the middle of the walkway wiping my legs with my hands trying to get all that brown gunk off the back of my leg. For all I know, I'm just smearing it all over so instead of brown spots I have brown streaks. I really feel sorry for some of the girls who wear khaki or white pants to school on those days because you can really see all that brown stuff.

 

kathyhirokane 02/09/01 5:18 PM †††††††††† ††††††††††† weather rage!!

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just a light-hearted rage report for today! nothing serious.this weather is pretty irritating. for the first two days it was freezing and windy. the next day it is hot. now it is humid and cloudy. what is up???also to add to my weather rage: dont you hate it when the ground is wet and all the dirty water and guck gets flicked onto your pants or legs? then you have to go to the bathroom and wipe the stuff off, which sometimes doesn't, and ends up ruining your pants.another thing: don't you hate it when you decide not to bring your umbrella or jacket to school, and it ends up raining. and when you do bring them, it's sunny. murphy's law, i guess, but i totally hate that!

 

skyblue†† 02/12/01 12:05 PM †††† ††††††††††† RE: best friend rage too

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The good news is that you and the guy are friends...no hard feelings. Your friend should be happy for you unless she dislikes/doesn't care about the guy and his feelings. From my own personal experience, if a friend (male/female) gives me advice and I accept it, I will only use what I feel is appropriate depending on the context of the situation. Sometimes I follow everything from A-Z, and other times, I use certain strategies to resolve relationship issues/problems. If your friend puts herself in your shoes, she would be more understanding to you and the positive outcome of the situation. Since your friend flys into a rage when she hears that you didn't follow every piece of advice, I recommend that you don't tell her every detail of the conversation. For instance, if your friend asks, "Did you follow my advice!" You can say, "Yes, I followed/used your advice." or something similar along those lines.

 

ktootree 02/09/01 5:47 PM ††††††† ††††††††††† best friend rage too

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When I needed help or advice I would talk to my best friend about it. I am not the kind of person who shares a lot with people, and sheís the one I tell practically everything to, so I figured she would be able to help me. I told her about a certain situation that I was in (relationship-wise) and she told me what she thought and gave me advice. I thought about her advice and I felt it was somewhat good, but wasnít too sure as to how I would go about it yet. After a few days, I took into account all the advice given to me and took the opportunity to act on it. To me, the problem got solved and did so in a manner where no one got really pissed (me and the guy are still friends), which I thought was good. I was really in a good mood because that was the first time I actually spoke my mind to that person and I felt good about how it was talked out like mature beings. When I told my best friend what happened, I really thought she was going to be happy for me because I felt much better and told her how I felt relieved to get that off my chestÖinstead she was the opposite. She was ďfrustratedĒ and fed up and the reason, I feel, is because I didnít follow her advice to the tee. I did use some advice that she had given me, but not all of it. I couldnít believe that she wasnít happy that I was happy as to how the situation worked out. I think she wanted me to hate the guy or totally chew him out, but when I said we talked it out in a manner that wasnít so extreme in that sense, she got mad. She knows that Iím not the type of person who likes to just blow-up in a conversation if there are other means to solve the problem, so I donít understand why she was reacted this way. Because I didnít follow her advice as quickly as she had hoped and in the manner she would have liked, she insisted that her advice went in one ear and out the other, and I just ignored what she had told me. She told me, ďI donít know already. I give up. Why should I even try to help already?Ē I got mad and actually still am upset because she keeps insisting that the situation wasnít solved. I told her that situation is Ďpauí already and yet she tells me no itís not. I donít understand why she canít be okay that Iím okay. I am mad to the point where I said that Iím not going to talk about those kinds of problems with her anymore (I told myself this a long time ago--many times--yet I always end up talking to her about it). It seems to cause more stress in the end than to begin with when I talk to her about relationships. I told her how I felt and she tells me she wants me to tell her, but how can I when this happens? Do you think itís a good idea for me not to discuss certain situations with my ďbest friend"? I donít want to be mad at her, and actually I think sheís more mad at me than I am at her, but I really think that sheís being selfish in this situation.

 

charisseo†† 02/09/01 8:37 PM ††† ††††††††††† no blinker rage

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well here's my experience with a driver who did no use their blinker. it was 850am on a tuesday morning. i was in the middle lane almost at the UH off ramp. being that it was almost 900 there was a long ling for the UH off ramp. so i decieded to take the King street off ramp then go to the parking structure from the back enterence( the one near the baseball field). as i pass the UH off ramp a car from waiting in the right lane to exit on the UH off ramp decides to change in the middle lane right in from of me. she does not turn on her blinker. in addition i felt that she did not even see me because i may have been in her blind spot. this incident really got to me. because i have also been in that drivers posistion and had to wait for the UH off ramp. i also know that while waiting in that lane it is hard to chang lanes because the cars in the middle lane are going so fast. knowing this really got to me because i felt that this driver was taking a great risk by changing lanes but changed lanes anyway. in response i honked my horn to this motorist, which let me vent a little of my frustrations.

 

virtual-b 02/10/01 10:54 AM ††††† ††††††††††† lemon car

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I have this friend who drives this beat up, rust covered honda. It's the first car that he ever had and refuses to retire the thing to a junkyard. The engine frequently dies on him when he holds the brake for long periods, so he has to restart the car to get it running again. This has often proved hazardous at red lights. Just last week, we were cruising along kalihi. He needed to turn back to the valley to pick up another friend. So we, three guys, are in this beat up honda when we hit a red light. We were on a steep slope going uphill when the engine died. My friend starts swearing and cussing while desperately turning the key in the ignition over and over again. The car inches backwards. The guy in back seat starts cracking up, and I'm panicking like crazy. Finally the car starts and he holds the brake before we starting rolling down hill. It took about ten minutes before anyone said a word. The atmosphere in the car was dead serious. My friend was angry at the car, at the guy in the back seat, and at me. That old lemon car really gave my friend some rage in a split second, which lasted for about ten minutes.

 

MadHatter80802/10/01 12:40 PM †††††† ††††††††††† friend's road rage

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Yesterday my friend got mad at this car that pulled up in front of him right when he was about to cross an intersection while he was driving in evening traffic. He swore and had this angry face on and I made a comment that he was road raging. I tried to talk about something else which I think made him forget his anger and I think that's one productive way to do things. If I asked him why he was angry, he would've relived the incident. Sometimes I wonder whether venting really helps b/c while it gets everything out, it makes you feel more justified and self-righteous. I vent a lot too and it makes me feel better but then I think about how the next time it might make me feel it's OK to be angry b/c someone or myself thought I was justified in my anger before so why not again? It's kinda like a cumulative pattern and the brain gets used to being that way... getting angry all the time. Anyway, I was glad we were able to talk about other things though I'm still wondering how one is to address how to *change* people's responses to anger in more constructive ways.

 

MadHatter808†† 02/10/01 2:01 PM †††††††† more on cell phone rage

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I just got a new cell phone, top of the line Motorola Timeport... but, I still can't get my voicemail. It was driving me nuts for a while now with 20 messages racked up. My employer, mom, boyfriend, and friends all complained about not being able to reach me when my cell phone's off especially while I'm in class or at work and have to turn it off... Anyway, I've been raging at my phone for not being able to understand how to check my own voicemail and have been procrastinating calling the company to ask for some help so can't blame anyone but myself (I have gone through the manual several times too). This goes back to the idea of how useless it is to rage at inanimate things. I do that a lot with computers and cell phones and other stuff where I know it's completely useless to get mad. I think b/c I know it's not a living thing, I let myself get angry. It's funny b/c I don't express anger at people too much but let it all with things which seems pretty stupid.

 

purple848 02/15/01 12:17 PM †† ††††††††††† RE: In the library

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I would feel the same way if some people sat near me in the library and started to chitchat when I need to concentrate on studying. I would say in my mind, why now? why here? you guys have to destruct my concentrateion when I really need it?! If I had enough time, I might leave and find another place that thier voice wouldn't reach, but if I didn't have time, I wouldn't think I should because I was sitting there first, and they came later. If somebody had to leave, it's them, not me. First of all, I think people shouldn't use library as saloon. If they want to talk, they should go to a cafeteria so that they don't have to worry about disturbing others. Oh, but if they could consider others, they won't start talking loud enough in the library in the first place, right? I wonder if staff of the library can warn people not to disturb others. I don't know if it works or not, but they should put a "no talking" sign on the wall.

 

lavaflow 02/10/01 6:07 PM †††††† ††††††††††† In the library

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I went to the library to study for the exams this week. I usually go to the second or the third floor when I really want to concentrate on my readings or when I try to memorize my notetes. And I thought that those floors were supposed to be quiet and people there were also looked for a quiet studying place. There weren't many people studying at the second floor that day and I found a place where nobody was sitting close to each other. About after twenty minutes when I was really concentraing on my readings, two people came and started talking and laughing. It was obvious that they came to have conversation. I became irritated and thought why those people had to take their seats right behind someone who was studying seriously (!!)when there were plenty of empty seats around. If it was on the ground floor of the library, I didn't get irretated about people talked because I knew that there were always many students using the place for study sessions. Usually the second floor has been a quiet studying area but I assume it isn't anymore because I 've found few times during this week that some peoole come to talk or others talk to their cell phones.

 

gemini-gal†† 02/11/01 9:39 PM †† RE: friend

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I really don't know who your friend is or how close you are to her. Judging from what you wrote, I can tell that you are a kind, generous and trusting person and that's a good thing but not when it comes to people taking advantage of you. I think your "friend" was being totally rude when she had the audacity to ask if you can lend her money from your living expense fund. If this is the first time you loaned her money, you definitely need to be more cautious and assertive. If you have been good friends for years, then you can trust her more but from what you wrote, it seems like she can't be trusted just yet. I think that you should judge her on how she repays you and look at her behavior after that. If she only uses you for money, then be a hero and lose that zero!

 

snowhawaii 02/11/01 7:59 PM †† ††††††††††† RE: friend

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I had an impression that she's just using you.I cannot see any respect to a friend in her behavior.As you said, if she really needs to borrow your money, she should visit you but not you.Maybe she knows you are the person who cannot say no to the friend's favor. I think she'll ask you for money again, and I strongly encourage you to say no this time.I do believe it's not good idea to lend or borrow money between friends. If I broke and really need money, first I'll ask my family, and if they cannot arrange any money for me, then I'll work!For me, I'll never expect my friend to lend me money, so I'm always saving certain amount of money so that I'll never have to ask someone.I'm mad at your friend too. Some people are exploitable pretending like your friends.

 

MAX676 02/11/01 4:02 PM ††††† ††††††††††† RE: friend

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I don't really know how close you and your friend are, but she really had no buisness asking you if you had any money left over for living expenses. To me that's crossing the line. She was asking you for a favor, and if you don't want to do it, no one should try to force you. I know it can be hard telling your friend no! but it is your buisness what you want to do with your money. Also, your friend needs to realize that you did her a favor, and she should appreciate the fact that you where helping her out. In every relationship you are looking to get something out of it. In your case you are around older people who have more life experience, but do you think your older friend is getting anything out of the relationship. If not, this might be why she was trying to force the money out of you.

 

meow24 02/10/01 8:29 PM †††††† ††††††††††† friend

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i have some close older friends i met in the church. i like talking to them since they have so much more life experience than me and their stories fascinate me. two days ago, however, one of those church friends called me and asked me to lend her some money. i told her i had no money in my savings, but she insisted that i lend her some money. she asked me if i had any money left for this month living expenses and when i told her i did, she told me to lend her that money. she told me that she would pay me back to in one week. i didn't want to lend her the money but I couldn't say no. my friends never asked me for money before and i wasn't prepared for this. my family had a bad experience of lending money to close friends and relatives so i always thought i would never do it. but when it happened to me, i just didn't know how to say no.since i didn't want to meet her that night, i told her i will stop by her house after school the next day. so yesterday after school i went to her house, but she wasn't home. she left a note on her door saying she was at a different place and left a number to call her. i called her and she told me to come there. i was getting mad at her, but i couldn't tell her i was mad. i drove to that place and waited for her for a few minutes. as i was waiting for her i wondered 'what am i doing here? shouldn't she come to me if she wants to borrow my money? why do i have to look for her to give her my money?!' i was definitely pissed off at her. as soon as she got my money she thanked me and quickly went back to wherever she came from. im mad but also scared she might ask me for money again. but how do i say no to friends???

 

leis 02/11/01 7:20 AM †† ††††††††††† Rage Toward A Dept Store's System

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As I have had no mad for this week, so that I want to write a rage experienced before. Actually I had carried a shopping credit card at a department store. Then as I realized I rarely used it, I decided to cancel for it. However, it was a long process to do it.First, I tried to call a number written on the bill. Although I could reach the computer information service, I couldnĀft find any information to cancel my credit card. Then I went to the department store to ask somebody to help me out. They said that they couldnĀft do anything for me. I said, Āg Why cannot you do anything? It was you who made an application for meĀh They said that although they was able to apply for me, they cannot cancel because it is personal. I got upset because of their irrational explanation. Then I asked how to contact with a manager by phone. They told me the same number, which reached to the computer information, but they also advised to wait for a while after I heard the all of information to contact with the manager. I called the number again and did as I was advised. Finally I could seem to contact with the manager. However, once I could reach to somebody, he hung out without anything! Then I called again. The line was busy. During doing so, I realized that it was hard that the person who called to the number first noticed how to contact with the manager. I got mad against such a bad system and this department store. Anyway, I managed to cancel my credit card. It was a long process. Now I do not want to buy at the department store.

 

Daniel1978†† 02/11/01 9:11 PM RE: Pig Rage

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Ha, Ha!!!! Good One!!!Yeah man, cool it. KILL is a VERY strong word. I do agree with you that the attitude of American officers is offensive. The hand on the belt and the swagger. It's like they are characatures of themselves. I don't know why most of them seem to share certain personality traits. Is it their training that makes them like this? Is it that people born with these traits become officers? I don't know but it's pretty funny. The cops I saw in Europe are not like that. They are all slim and nice. Thats one thing I noticed about France and England: the people don't hate the police. I suppose they have no reason to. If they don't brake the law, they don't get harrassed. The police in Canada were great. Very nice. The stereotype of the Mounty seems to hold true.

 

MsLacey 02/11/01 7:33 PM ††††† RE: Pig Rage

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Go easy there. You need to chill, you sound like a bad rap song.

 

MAX676 02/11/01 4:25 PM ††††† ††††††††††† Pig Rage

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It was one in the morning and I was driving home from work when this pig notices that I am driving little quickly so pulls me over. It it really stupid because my car was the only car on the road, and I wasn't putting anyone in danger. I ask myself, where are all the cops in broad daylight when people are speeding continuously on Kalanianaole Highway. These stupid pigs don't care about our safety, they're just worried about filling their traffic ticket criteria for the month. To top it off, this officer was totally rude to me, and because this was the first time I was ever approached by an officer for speeding I was a little scared. Now, because of this one cop, I think all officers are like that. Somebody help me change the way I think, or lets all join together and kill those pigs.

 

MAX676 02/12/01 7:40 PM ††††† ††††††††††† RE: Cursing Rage-----

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It's perfectly fine to be upsett in this situation because it could have a negative effect on someone that is very close to you. I think it is really stupid to use profantic language around other people because you don't know if it is offensive to them or not. This circumstance, with your 4 year old sister, amplifies my example because everyone knows that a 4 year old child is not supposed to use dirty language. I really think people can be very inconsiterate. I truely understand why you were upset, I think I would be too. This inconsiterate man was being incredibly disrespectfull, because he is interfering with your precious little sister.

 

shaun56†† 02/11/01 7:15 PM ††††† ††††††††††† RE: Cursing Rage-----

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That's really f@*ked up man, I mean S#it!~ No, just kidding man, but actually that is pretty messed up. It just goes to show you how inconsiderate some people are now days. I mean, how the heck do people come up with the guts or minds to talk like that in front of little children, or in front of anyone at all. I know if I were in your shoes, I surely would've said something, but I know you, mr. nice guy, did not asy anything at all. I think that people just simply lack vocabulary now days. They can't find the fight words to say, so they end up using vulgar words to fit into adjective space. Anyways, next time let him know wussup, you know! Plus, teach you lil sis that That kind of talk is all wrong word usage and not proper english. Well, till tuesday, I say take it easy and just think lax!!!!!!!!!

 

 

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