A Man of the Field

Forming The New Church Mind In Today's World

 

 

Volume 1: Reformation

The Struggle Against Nonduality

 

Volume 2: Enlightenment

The Spiritual Sense of the Writings

 

Volume 3: Regeneration

Spiritual Disciplines For Daily Life

 

Volume 4: Uses

The New Church Mind In Old Age

 

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By Leon James

October 2002

(draft 17b)

 

Author information appears at the end. This document is in the process of being revised. Please note the draft version marked on top.

 

A  " field "  means doctrine (AC 368)

A  " man "  signifies faith and truth (AC 427; 4823)

 

Volume 3

Regeneration

Spiritual Disciplines For Daily Life

 

 

Chapter 2

The Doctrine Of The Wife

 

 

Table of Contents

 

Access other Chapters and Volumes here: 4

DEDICATION.. 5

Chapter 2. 7

The Doctrine of the Wife. 7

1. Introduction: Subduing The External Man. 7

1. Discounting Our Wife's Opinion Relative To Our Own. 10

2. The Doctrine of the Wife. 12

1. A Philosophy Of Action Or Spiritual Discipline. 15

2. Men's Resistance To Conjugial Love. 16

3. Conjugial Commandments In The Writings. 19

4. Commitment To Conjugial Unity. 22

5. The Four-Step Conjoining Process. 23

6. Leon's Story. 26

7. The Husband's Spiritual Dependence On The Wife. 31

3. The Unregenerate Husband. 31

1. The Appearance Of Eve. 34

2. External Reformation Vs. Internal Regeneration. 35

3. Leave Mother and Father And Cleave To The Wife. 37

4. Becoming An Interior Man. 38

5. Proving The Doctrine of the Wife and Rule 1. 40

6. External And Internal Marriage. 45

7. Heresies Regarding The Husband's Wisdom.. 47

8. Feminine Love Within Which Is Masculine Wisdom.. 53

9. The Role Of The Wife In The Husband's Wisdom.. 56

10. Inventory Of Confessions For Husbands. 58

11. Six-Step Process For Removing Our Evils. 63

12. The Marriage Of Good And Truth. 66

13. Shunning Sins, Doing Good, And Performing Uses. 69

14. To Detest Evils And Sins. 72

4. The surrendered wife vs. the surrendered husband. 76

1. The Surrendered Husband is The Ideal Elevated Man. 78

2. The Self-Entrapment of Male Intelligence. 80

3. Who Is Going To Do The Bills?. 84

4. The Spiritual Physiology Of Marriage. 85

5. Her Heaven, Not His. 92

6. Divine Truth Within Which Is Divine Love. 94

7. Is The Surrendered Husband Feminized?. 98

8. The Conjoint Mind Is Both Masculine And Feminine. 98

5. Rule 1: The Regeneration Discipline Of Acting From The Wife. 101

1. Achieving Internal Union. 102

2. I'm Commanded To Not Disagree With Her. 109

6. Giving Up Male Prerogatives As Contrary To Conjugial Unity. 110

7. The Equity Model Versus The Unity Model Of Marriage. 114

8. The Spiritual Discipline Of Sweetheart Rituals. 121

1. Sweethearts Spend All Their Time Together. 125

2. The Commandment Of Conjugial Simulation. 128

9. Conjugial Intimacy Disciplines. 130

10. Overcoming Threats To Sweetheart Rituals. 135

11. How To Avoid Turning Cold Against The Wife. 138

1. The Fallacy That Men Want Sex More Than Women. 140

12. Spiritual Psychobiology Of The Conjoint Self 143

1. Conjugial Husbands Are Loyal To The Wife. 146

13. The Regeneration Discipline Of Conjugial Massage. 150

1. Sensorimotor Memory. 151

2. The Sensuous Mind Turns Itself Away From The Rational 152

3. Creation Of The Natural-Rational Mind. 155

4. The Weekly Massage Routine. 156

5. The Masculine And Feminine Mind.